As part of on going self care and knowing who we are, lists can be very helpful in identifying our strengths and weakness. Note: play to your strengths.
Try listing the following items:
What am I good at, what do I like about myself, what is going right, what is going wrong, fears I have, fears that don’t scare me anymore, what do I hate, what do I love,what do I want, what makes me laugh, how can I be healthier.
You get the idea, the aim is to know yourself really well because you are your greatest mystery.
Being a bully shows great weakness. It is weak to lose control of your temper. It shows you are afraid of something. Something life threatening. The causes of being a bully are many, loss of control, self esteen, personal pain, trauma.
Many times being a bully is the only form of control one thinks because outside events are uncontrolable. By continuing to be a bully there is the possibility of being so far from your feelings that giving suffering becomes enjoyable. Hence, becoming a psychopath.
Think, think, think about what you are doing. What are you so unhappy about? You are not helpless to change for the better.
Use your anger to barrel through the things that are not working and making you unhappy. Be a bully to change yourself for the better, to put up boundaries, commit to self improve. It is your right to do so. It is your strength to do so.
Be a bully to take right actions.
To win the internal battle and vicious cycle of violence I offer a guaranteed way of progress.
GIVE NO ONE SORROW
TAKE NO SORROW
Out of the darkness into the light
let the love for us shine bright
we are bound to each other
from this night
As the heat of fire
The coolness of the sea
we are bound to each other
just you and me.
Be my sweetness,
be my destiny,
be my loving kindness,
be my heat, my healing, my longing, my fire
my sea, my joy, my pain,
be my demon just loving me.
I will be your lightness,
I will be your savior ,
I will be on your side,
I will love you forever more
I will struggle with you
and struggle for you
I will be your savagery.
No two alike has gained like this
no two as us are likely to miss
the life of darkness of shadows and light
we are the two that will shine so bright.
As the world may see and not understand
how two strange creatures can take a stand
in a life that is hard
and weakness prevails
it is our journey and
belongs to no one else
where ever we land
we will have each other
through valley and glen
to forge forward together
hand in hand.
. act in ways that invite others to reject, shame, or express anger toward them
. judge harshly what others thin, say or do
. avoid emotional, physical, or sexual intimacy as a way to maintain distance
. allow addictions to people, places and things to distract them from achieving intimacy in relationship
. use indirect or evasive communication to avoid conflict or confrontation
. diminish their capacity to have healthy relationship by declining to use the tool of recovery
. suppress their feelings or needs to avoid feeling vulnerable
. pull people toward them, but when others get close, push them away
. refuse to give up their self-will to avoid surrendering to a power greater thatn themselves
. believe displays to emotion are a sign of weakness
. withhold expressions of appreciation