Codependents often…………………
. act in ways that invite others to reject, shame, or express anger toward them
. judge harshly what others thin, say or do
. avoid emotional, physical, or sexual intimacy as a way to maintain distance
. allow addictions to people, places and things to distract them from achieving intimacy in relationship
. use indirect or evasive communication to avoid conflict or confrontation
. diminish their capacity to have healthy relationship by declining to use the tool of recovery
. suppress their feelings or needs to avoid feeling vulnerable
. pull people toward them, but when others get close, push them away
. refuse to give up their self-will to avoid surrendering to a power greater thatn themselves
. believe displays to emotion are a sign of weakness
. withhold expressions of appreciation
From CODA.org