The Sins of the Father are not an ancient curse. It is the human condition of repeating the same old negative patterns over and over for generation after generation.
For example, pervasive abuse on any level will stay intact as long as the abuse is seen as normal. Many times abuse is accepted as a way of life. As if there is no other way of living. Therefore, the cycles of abuse remain for a long time, until someone finally realizes this is enough.
Family systems are complicated. People are complicated. Humans are a product of habit and fear.
Except when whether in secret or out in the open someone reaches out for a better way of living. Eventually the cycle is broken.
All it takes is some courage, please try. You know in your gut what you need to move forward. Please try to have the courage to break the cycle of abuse.
True bravery is letting go of what is familiar.
True bravery is trying new things.
True bravery is living closest to your heart’s calling.
True bravery is leaving what is not working.
True bravery is telling yourself the truth.
True bravery is no following the crowd.
There are many reasons to stay stuck, to get unstuck start small. The change will feel uncomfortable. That’s OK. Just sit with it.
So many times we feel stuck. Nothing is working out. We are confused about which way to go. Bored and restless.
Reminder: your options are not limited. Ignore naysayers and your own resistance. Think out side of the norm.
To free yourself from your actual or perceived restrictions: Choose.
Choose any direction. Any direction will lead you to freedom. Even if it is as simple a decision as what to eat for breakfast.
Feeling you have no control in your life could be based on your own actions. But more likly because of your inaction.
I am not going to preach about commitment. Most of the time I am not very good at it unless it is really important or necessary. I usually focus on what I can get by with.
It is common to focus on the small window of activities in our lives because we are so busy doing actions to keep our heads above water.
Is society the cause? Is the economy the cause? Is fear the cause? Distractions? There are as many reasons and justifications as there are people.
For me, I am willing to commit to situations I either love or really enjoy or as a result of a crisis. Is that enough, probably not because I stay in my comfort zone. Let’s be reasonable. How much time does one have in a day.
The solution is to make an effort to get out of one’s comfort zone. Easier said than done. But so noticeable necessary.
Just try……..that’s the only requirement in a commitment.