That’s a hard one. Most of the time we stick with what is easy. We are not even aware that we can choose something different. So we continue to pick what is easy and not go against what the current society rules.
Thinking for yourself involves the following:
figuring out who you really are
figuring out where you want to spend your precious time
figuring out what to get rid of
taking the steps to combine all of the above.
You can live with the way things are or you can change them.
For me taking the steps is the hardest and sticking with it. That’s OK because it takes time to find where you belong.
The path to self discovery cannot be found in a crowd. A crowd is the opposite of self. Self if just me and a crowd is a group.
If I am to find my own path I must stand alone, which is uncomfortable. Uncomfortable because there is no crowd to hide in. I will feel groundless because are no guideposts, I will feel unsure because I must make my own decisions. I will feel insecure because I have to inspire myself.
And that is OK. It means you will grow to a well-rounded individual. You will become an inspiration to others. You will be strong enough to stick to your decisions.
Your path is to know who you are in all aspects, your thoughts, words, actions. Your path is in the things you love and the things you hate. Your path is to stand alone and not follow the crowd because the crowd has its own journey. Following the crowd is the easy way out of the uncomfortable work of finding your own path.
It’s OK to bounce from here to there and not really knowing which way is your way.
It’s supposed to be that way. Your job is to look for the signs. If it doesn’t work move away from it. Start of the beginning again. It’s OK. It’s supposed to be that way. Look for your own answers. If something doesn’t fit with you get rid of it.
Once I heard a story about a woman who cut off the end of her ham before she cooked it. Her husband asked why she did that. Her reply was because that was the way her mother always cooked ham. The husband suggested they ask why the mother did this. The mother replied because the ham didn’t fit her roasting pan.
Have you unconsciously absorbed someone elses way of doing things.
What do you want, what do you need to make your life interesting? Whatever it is take the steps to change. It’s well worth it and you don’t need to explain your actions to anyone.
It’s your life. Make the best of it.