I have Covid 19 and I am recovering, I had fever, aches and pains, fatigue, migraines, loss of smell and taste. Most of my symptoms are gone except for the loss of smell and taste.
This illness wiped me out for nearly 4 weeks, I caught it because a family member was infected first, this illness is very slow moving and not much relieves the symptoms expect for Tylenol and vitamins like C and lots of zinc.
I am lucky, as bad as my symptoms got I did not end up in the hospital.
We are not out of the woods yet, please follow the CDC guidelines and take this illness seriously.
Coronavirus pandemic is causing tremendous panic to everyone. People are hoarding essentials, emptying grocery shelves, and businesses are overcharging for safety material. That is more than enough to cause a panic in addition to the possiblity in catching the coronavirus.
Panic is a natural response to what is happening, there is a sense of loss in many areas, our normal routines, restricted freedom, minimum socializing, noticing stores are overcharging for everything, this is to name a few losses.
It’s OK, this is a temporary situation and at this point we are entrenched in this new norm and many of us are thinking about all the possibilities that can occur when this is over.
Self care is most important during this time. Do what it takes to get grounded and calm, look at happy movies and videos, turn off the news, reach out to others on social media, find a way to get peaceful and connected. And follow the CDC guidelines.
We will come out of this, this is guaranteed, so in this period of isolation be creative in your self care.
Stay safe and well.
There are a number of attachment styles that people adopt. Anxious, Avoidant, Secure, Dismissive. These are the four major styles, You can look up the details on Google.
Attachment injuries come from mostly from family of origin issues.
How do you know you have an attachment issue, your relationships are not working, you feel invisible, you are not getting your needs met, you are allowing others to sabotage and abuse you somehow.
This is heavy stuff so I want to share an expert Attachment Trauma, relationship coach and Psychotherapist Alan Robarge, Here’s a video explaining this issue.
Hope you find it healing.
Sticks and stones can break your bones and words can hurt you too.
Words have the power to explain, and uplift and shame and sooth and entice and many more ways to influence us, every day and in all ways.
How do you communicate? Do you think before you speak?
Words are intrinsic to self examination, sharing information, connecting emotionally. Words can trigger pain or can build bridges or burn false beliefs.
You get my point, the words you speak to yourself are as important as the words you speak to others.
Are you kind or mean with your internal dialog? Do you repeat fears and worries, do you take the time to listen to the your internal dialog and distinguish between the false lies or the quiet truth. Do you take the time to be quiet, still, grounded?
How you speak to yourself has a dramatic effect, if you put yourself down all the time you will start to believe it even if it is not true.
Start by paying attention to what you are telling yourself and make an effort to speak to yourself with lovingkindness. You are so very important, please start now.
Stereotype-A stereotype is a mistaken idea or belief many people have about a thing or group that is based upon how they look on the outside, which may be untrue or only partly true. Stereotyping people is a type of prejudice because what is on the outside is a small part of who a person is. Wikipedia.
Broad Generalizations-In everyday language, a generalization is defined as a broad statement or an idea that is applied to a group of people or things. Often, generalizations are not entirely true, because there are usually examples of individuals or situations wherein the generalization does not apply. Google search.
It really bothers me when someone spews out of their mouth some stupid statement like: dogs are smarter than cats, cats are aloof, woman want large families, men never make commitments, that salesmen are greedy, pretty people are stuck up.
A woman said to me the other day that all women are nurturing and intuitive, are you kidding me, that is not true, none of these statements are true.
I can’t stop others from getting on their podium and spread false information but I can check out for myself all the information I need. I can find the truth for myself. And so can you.
Don’t blindly believe in what you are told. Zombies do that, don’t be a zombie, be a involved human by being informed. Investigate, figure out for yourself what is being presented and make decisions based on your own truth, not someone else’s.
Compassion = being open to receive information and hearing distress without feeling it yourself. Compassionate listening allows you to be of help and feel for the person. There is emotional distance here.
Empathy = empathy is where you find some personal experience in you that resonates like a broken heart or tragedy. With empathy you feel the others feelings and become enmeshed with the person’s feelings. There is emotional involvement and hard to escape.
Both empathy and compassion are valuable. But empathy is emotional draining at times, compassion is about mindfulness and loving kindness without bias.
Whichever you choose I hope it is for yourself first. You of all people deserve empathy and compassion.
This is one of the most loving and kind action you can do for yourself.
My birthday was actually yesterday but I want to share some of my thoughts about it.
Today is my birthday, it was actually yesterday, and I am reminded of how lucky I am to be here. There are different ways of celebrating birthdays, cakes, candles, songs, presents, and there is a special belief in esoteric circles that for your birthday you get 10 wishes. Yes 10 wishes.
I wish for the customary things like money and good health for myself and family. Less fear more courage, less procrastination more action, less negativity more positivity.
I can write those wishes down on paper or say them out loud, I can petition the invisible wish guardians with all my concerns.
Burn bright, I ask the wish guardians, so I can see my way clear.
Open new possibilities and allow safe passage to new roads.
Clear my mind so I can be kinder and smarter to all beings.
These requests bring me to become very quiet to consider the present moment.
Right now, most of all, on this very blog, with such humble, open hearted, generous men and women I wish each and every one of you health, wealth, wisdom and peace and wondrous goodness. I hope that all your wishes come true. And I sincerely thank you for being here and being part of my life and my birthday.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” — C.G. Jung
We must become conscious of our beliefs and feelings going on in our minds or we cannot change or transform ourselves and our lives. If something said is repeated over and over it becomes real, but in many cases what was said is either outdated at this point.
If we want to live with meaning and purpose we must make a list of these beliefs and feelings and examine them and tear them apart and eliminate those that don’t resonate with our values.
When we act from outmoded beliefs and feelings we stay stuck and can’t do the necessary letting go so we can move on.
In my case, both my caregivers were mentally ill so I had many bizarre beliefs and feelings that did not make sense even at a young age, I was not self-aware for a long time until I was much older and could be a bit objective about those beliefs and worked with therapists.
Many beliefs we pick up during our lives are dysfunctional. They make us limited.
On a regular basis we must update our beliefs, what was true in the past may not apply now. We must find those very deep beliefs that are not very conscious and rip them out by the roots. This is not easy, it requires, courage, sticking with a therapist, and a commitment to your own self-care.
This uncovering is all about finding the truth, your truth, so you can live the best life that is unique to you. We want to be whole, we want our inner parts integrated, we want to be happy.
None is possible unless we care deeply for ourselves on a regular basis. You are so worth the effort and with this loving effort for yourself the transformation of your life is permanent.
From FB page The Psychology Babes
Arguing for your limitations: it is so frustrating to hear someone insist that there is no way out of their uncomfortable situation, that they have no choices to choose from, that there trapped in a box and can’t get out.
To insist on believing that you are helpless is an argument in favor of you own self-imposed limitations. Stop doing that, you must stop creating your own traps, be curious about different ways of dealing with a situation, write your choices down and make them real, without distraction go inside of yourself and ask what you need to know, search for information that may be helpful in your quest.
If any of these suggestions make you cringe then friend I am here to tell you the truth of what is happening inside of you. It is fear, fear of change, not being good enough, not being worthy, retaliation for moving forward, the list goes on and on.
It is fear that causes one to argue for their limitations. Resistance is fear and resistance is the indicator that you must go towards what you fear because that is where your answers are.
You are never trapped, there is always an answer to your situation, and you are not helpless.
Will the change you so desperately crave be easy, nope it will not be easy. You will be required to put in effort to uncover what you need to change course and put yourself back on the road to your own happiness and continue creating a wonderful, miraculous life that you so rightly deserve.
Get started now, you are so worth it.