It is so frustrating going from relationship to relationship, all kinds of relationships that don’t work, jobs, friends, significant others, over and over. There is an answer.
At some point you learned unhealthy thought and action patterns from repeated emotional and/or physical abuse learned as love.
As a result we recreate those primary relationships so we can heal them and make us feel better in return. It doesn’t work, we repeat the patterns unconsciously, and you may need great mindfulness and therapy.
Dr. Tracey Marks, psychiatrist, has made an informative video about this subject. Please watch it, you will find truth and healing.
Feeling blue this Valentines Day because you are single, that is perfectly normal.
But Valentine’s day is more than romantic love, it’s about self love and love of your friends, children, significant others, those who make your life better, or whatever you are passionate about.
Do you, buy yourself a gift, go out with a couple, go on a vacation that you want, explore new destinations, talk to strangers, go to a social function alone, relish who you are.
Romantic love shows up quicker the more you know yourself. No one can resist a person who is confident and strong in standing on their own.
So this Valentines Day, let it be a reminder that self love is really the first love you ever need.
Happy Do You Day………………..
Resistance is an unwillingness to deal in any way with uncomfortable psychological stuff.
Sometimes we are aware of our resistance but many times the resistance is totally unconscious.
Perhaps we know there is something off in the way we feel but can’t figure out what it is.
There are ways of finding and uncovering what is hidden in the subconscious.
- find a therapist you feel comfortable with.
- research mental health.
- write, write, write, you will feel resistance but write anyway.
- look at cat videos, no really do activities that make you happy.
- do more of what makes you proud of yourself.
It’s time to recover your true self, and this is a lifelong journey, there are no quick fixes in self care. You will always need to take care of yourself, time will pass so you might as well start now.
You are worth it.