It is Thanksgiving Holiday here in the USA.
From my family to yours may you have a sweet and peaceful holiday 2019.
I am truly thankful for each and every one of you.
Nov29
Monthly Archives: November 2019
Nov21
Thoughtful Thursday #280 – Processing Emotions In Vicarious Ways
Vicarious – Meaning -experienced in the imagination through the feelings or actions of another person.
I never liked fluffy stories with forced happy endings like on the Hallmark channel, I prefer to know what makes the characters tick even if there is a strange ending, on a regular basis I prefer non-fiction.
It is common that being in a psychologically dysfunctional environment growing up or as an adult it is unsafe to express our emotions.
When our emotions are not validated we can get them validated through music, art, reading stories, crime dramas, going to the movies, etc. you can add to the list.
We can better understand what we are feeling through these venues, we can relate to the struggles, fear, sadness, injustice or joy of the characters. By having these venues to relate to is a beginning to finding some safety within to express ourselves.
You are not alone, given the magnitude of how many people use these outlets all of us are using them to validate our own expressiveness.
Carry on. Express away.
Nov14
Thoughtful Thursday #279 – Reinvention
It’s normal and necessary to reinvent ourselves over and over during our entire lifetime.
How do we reinvent ourselves, by changing the way we behave just like a singer who reinvents their career over and over. You are no different from a celebrity. You are the star of your own life and can grow and adapt as you go on in your precious life.
Don’t be afraid to experiment, you don’t have to explain or justify the new you, get out of your comfort zone, be honest with yourself and others.
Make your one and only life happy for you over and over. Find your courage, set some goals, create a plan, write it all down on paper, you can always change it as you go along, you may even have to relentlessly reassess. And take your time there is no finish line.
Have fun while you are at it and remind yourself every day that you are worth the effort.
Nov7
Thoughtful Thursday #278 – On Being Proud
When we feel proud our shoulders are erect, chest out, we walk without ego but with the sense of deep satisfaction and pleasure in our abilities and accomplishments. We feel grounded, balanced and strong.
What a wonderful way to live, unfortunately most of those moments are short lived.
How can we increase this ability to feel proud more often and on a regular basis?
All is not lost.
Make a list of every activity that makes you feel proud and accomplished. For example, finished your to do list, wrote in your diary, sang your favorite song, made time for your favorite hobby, made your mental health a priority for a while, talked compassionately to your inner self, ate well for one meal, made an effort to exercise, made an effort to be mindful of your actions, paid attention to what distracts you.
Make your own special list, your own original, signature, lifestyle list that belongs to you.
DO MORE OF WHAT MAKES YOU PROUD, stick to it, don’t give up, involve yourself with those who share your interests, take baby steps, little tiny baby steps toward your own happiness, and be proud of your effort.
When involved with more and more activities that give you a deep sense of satisfaction something magical happens, something incognito and deceptively subtle happens.
Ever so slowly, you will become boldly self-assured, lack fear, be free from anxiety and know for certain you have chosen the right path of action for you.
Will any of this happen fast – not at all, this journey is about intimately discovering your talents, your dreams, your sore points, what you will tolerate and not tolerate.
You will learn about yourself so well that you will take actions toward creating your own-one of a kind – precious life. You are so worth it, and don’t you dare believe otherwise.
Carry on.
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