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Thoughtful Thursday #209 – Rejection vs Disappointment

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Rejection – when something doesn’t work out and your self-worth get hammered. You feel beyond hurt, humiliated and dejected.

Disappointed – when something doesn’t work out and you feel from mildly irritated to incredibly annoyed but can move on in spite of the result.

The key here is how attached you are to the outcome.

We are feeling human beings, we can’t just get rid of emotions and that is the way it’s supposed to be. Feelings of rejection or disappointment give you information about what you believe and expect no matter the outcome.And that is a good thing because the more information you have about yourself the more you will grow to the wonderful human being you are now and the superhuman you will be in the future.

Go forth and carry on. You got this.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Thoughtful Thursdays # 178 – Seeing The Beauty

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I get so frustrated with the little stuff that I forget to see the beauty in tiny wonderful moments that happen every day.

Moments of Beauty

Quiet Mornings, Happy Birthdays, Content Pets, Continuous Chances to Change or Not, Clean Hands, Bread and Butter, The Smell of Cool Air, Driving, Rain, Kind People, Children, Making Art.

Make your own list. This list will give you a chance, perhaps only a moment, to appreciate the beauty of life. Those moments that are impressive, sentimental and forever remembered. These moments are the Beauty of Life.

 

 

 

 

 

Thoughtful Thursdays – #172 – Many Personalities

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We have more than one role. We can be a parent, child, protector, adventurer, lover, teacher, predator, breadwinner. I am sure there are plenty more.

Each role we play can carry an emotion. Happiness, fear, anger, sadness, joy, disgust, surprise, trust, anticipation. Plus many more.

Some roles are a trigger and hold one emotion more than others. Do you know which holds what?

The child, parent in me holds joy.

The adventurer  in me hold happiness.

The protector, predator holds fear and anger

Depending on the situation the role you are in can elicit an emotion.

The point is which emotion, positive or negative are you feeling? Where are your triggers, where are you centered? Where is your emotional energy going? Where are you happy? Where are you angry? Where are you disgusted?

The more you know about yourself the easier it is to be on your very own path to authenticity.

Your own brand of authenticity. That no one can take from you.

You are worth the time it takes to be happy. Take it.

 

Thoughtful Thursdays – #169 – Mental Health

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I am a strong supporter of doing whatever is necessary to have good mental health. Whether one is exposed to trauma or mental illness more needs to be done to talk about mental health issues.

In light of the uncalled for death of NYPD Officer Miosotis Familia her assailant had a long history of psychiatric problems.

The laws changed years ago to allow the mentally ill to have a say in their treatment. That’s OK for some but not for others. This person was so unstable that he randomly killed someone. This is not OK. Where was the necessary intervention. There is much media attention for the NYPD officer but these random killings by the mentally unstable go on every day, we just don’t hear about it.

Go to your doctor, spiritual advisor, hospital,library, online for resources on how to protect  and educate yourself on mental health. Know the warning signs if someone is acting irrationally. Know who to call for help. Get away if necessary. There are many ways to address these issues.

Learn all you can about psychology and behavior, the more you know the more you can keep yourself and family safe.

NYPD, all law enforcement agencies, hospitals, therapists, and family members deal with emotionally disturbed people every day. Let’s help ourselves and those who regularly deal with this population. Get educated on mental health now before another senseless tragedy happens.

My condolences to NYPD Officer Miosotis Familia and her family and please let this be an opportunity to talk openly about mental health issues so we can stop this senseless violence before it starts.

Thoughtful Thursdays # 168 – The Curse of Awareness

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Trauma makes you do deep inner work which makes you acutely aware. The more you do this inner work the easier you can see others living in deep unawareness.

It seems like a curse and you will feel very different from the rest of the world. That’s OK. Stay different, you are not supposed to be like everyone else. You are supposed to be aware.

And there is a very good chance others feel different too, they just don’t show it.

Do whatever you need to do to be comfortable in your own skin. Embrace changing.

Thoughtful Thursdays – # 164 – Abandonment

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Fear of abandonment is a core survival instinct. In a more rural time if you were banished from your village it meant certain death. We are born to feel belonging, it’s part of being human, when we are abandoned physically or emotionally it’s a death of sorts.

If we are abandoned today we won’t die but become dysfunctionally alone, barren, unable to trust, and painfully aware we belong nowhere.

There is a cure for this. You will not want to hear it.

You are the cure. You are the light at the end of the tunnel.

Do what it takes to process the damage of abandonment by significant others. Learn to trust yourself. You are all you need now. You are the strong one, able to live wholly on your own and not in a crowd. You are now able to allow what you want – not waiting for others to include you. You are in control of your own life and that is freedom.

You are the leader of the pack. Out of all the times you doubted you could survive. You did. You did a magnificent job. You deserve an Olympic metal for survival

Congratulations you win.

Thoughtful Thursdays – #163 – Trying

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It’s really hard to move forward in life. We work hard to keep going, getting up every day to try to better ourselves.

All it takes is one small momentary lack of judgement to lose everything and start back at the beginning.

It’s easy to slip back into old ways and be discouraged by setbacks. It’s OK to feel that way. Start again from the beginning. You will regain your composure and move forward again.

 

 

 

Thoughtful Thursdays – #162 – Emotions

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Emotions are a barometer of information. Have you ever felt a strong emotion come up for, what seems to be, no good reason? Emotions can be triggered by a memory of the past. Emotions come up for you to examine, emotions won’t kill you, but they may scare you.

There is clearly a message with the emotion. If you can stay with the uneasiness of the emotion and examine it, you will be able to release it. Sorta like a balloon floating up into the air never to be seen again. It’s the same with the emotion that may be holding you back. This is the mystery of the subconscious (where emotions live) that is at work all the time. But we don’t realize it.

Feel it, release it, feel it, release it. Repeat

Will it be easy? Nope. But it works every time and you will be free.

Too Many Broken Hearts

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Our hearts can become broken so easily. Broken from fear, endings, trauma, and tragedy. How many times have you seen something that makes you really sad and feel helpless to change the situation? We have all run across this many times. A homeless person, the high functioning drug addict, the mentally handicapped, the poor, stray animals, the dying. What about our own personal suffering. Everyone has some challenge. It’s part of the human existence.

Tears flow from our eyes when we see others suffer and sometimes see a reflection of ourselves in that suffering. New Age philosophy makes claims to just think positive. That is unrealistic and impractical. You can’t just think for something to change for the better.

Each heart is unique; each heart has to find its own way of mending. What works for one heart will not work for another. Let’s ask: why is my heart broken and how can I move on?

  1. Take time to be still.
  2. Take time to grieve.
  3. Use extreme self-care.
  4. Try new things.
  5. Volunteer your time.
  6. Read about healing.
  7. Stay connected to others.
  8. Stay in the present moment.
  9. Get support.

In the meantime, hold yourself in high regard and shower love onto yourself. Know that this will pass.

 

 

 

 

Thoughtful Thursdays – # 158 – Anger

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Anger can be healthy or it can be destructive.

Healthy anger is the one where we say we have had enough and move to change in a positive way.

Destructive anger is where we take no prisoners and crush the perceived cause of our anger.

Before you act, take a moment to think about the consequences

of each choice.

Carry on.