It is not easy to feel grief, we avoid it at all costs with distractions galore.
Allowing yourself to feel grief and cry and rage and weep are very healing actions to take you forward.
Grief that is not felt is invisible and holds you back. Clues that you are not feeling grief is lots of unfounded fear, perhaps you feel numb, anxious.
How can you get to a point where you can organically feel grief? Writing, talking to someone you trust, exercise, getting educated on recognizing grief, find a support group, being really good to yourself because you are hurting.
Grief work is a very personal journey, there is no timeframe, no right and wrong to process grief and your coping strategy will belong only to you. Only you have to validate this.
Is grief work easy, no it is not. It’s uncomfortable, the good news is that every opportunity you have to process and express grief the quicker it goes away.
Question everything you do. What is the reason and purpose of your behavior.
Question the motives of others. Ask why, ask for clarification.
It’s perfectly acceptable to try to make sense of your life and circumstances.
If someone has a problem with you asking questions, ask why?
You have the right and responsibility to yourself and your life to make it the best, you never need to justify bettering your life and life education to anyone.
You only have to answer to yourself.
We look for emotional wholeness all the time whether we are aware of it or not. The dark side of finding wholeness is through addictions, busy work, false beliefs about ourselves, looking outside of ourselves for answers to our emptiness just to name a few.
Life can send us confusing curves, our self-esteem is crushed more than once, and none of us is whole all the time, this is the bad news.
The good news is achieving wholeness is a process. As Carl Jung states wholeness is a process of letting go, change and growth.
Your mental health requires that you find your own balance of physical, spiritual and mental health.
Is it an easy or linear process? Nope. The process is one day at a time, one moment at a time, all as you live your life with tons of distractions.
The benefit you get from finding a way to be balanced in your physical, spiritual and mental health is priceless. You create the life that is exclusively for you. How cool is that. Way Cool.