Monthly Archives: March 2017

Thoughtful Thursdays # 157 – How To Move On

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My least favorite emotion is sadness; I cover it up with business but the sadness lies in my stomach. I know it is there because occasionally I feel sick to my stomach and I know I am not sick. This is my signal to watch for the sadness I am hiding.

You can’t refuse to feel any feeling because without feeling you will remain stuck. Once you feel the grief, or any other feeling, and process it you can move forward in a natural way.

Let yourself fall apart and allow some emotional time. I know it is easier said than done because of our survival belief that if I allow myself to feel grief, or any other emotion, I will be consumed by it and never come back. Actually that is just a fear, you will survive.

Mourn your losses and grieve your pain. It’s time to move on.

 

Thoughtful Thursdays # 156 – Humility

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I am not going to preach to you about being humble and lowly. Nope, there is nothing lowly about being humble.

Humble means you are willing to say I don’t know everything. Humble means you are willing to figure stuff out instead of blaming. Humble means you are willing to learn something new. Humble means you move aside your ego and become engaged in problem solving.

Is it easy? Nope. It’s uncomfortable but so worth the effort because you no longer have to stay where you are unhappy.

Give it a try. Be humble enough to get down to learning something new and changing for the better.

 

 

Black Magic Cake

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I made a cake called Black Magic Cake in honor of the full moon, in honor of my dark side. The side that is hidden, the side with raw emotions. My friend Christopher asked me who I was going to hex with the cake. I got a laugh about that but it made me define just exactly what the dark side is for me.

It is the dark of our emotional life, the part that we cry in the night about. The part that is ashamed and holds secrets that we decided to go to our grave with. It is grief, sadness and mournful pain, the murderous rage and hatred. It is the part that is unhealed.

Making this cake is to give a voice to those uncomfortable feelings that need to be expressed. I usually write them out or do art to express myself but this time I tried something different. I baked a cake.

My advice to you is to unravel those strange feelings and sensations. There are messages there that want to be heard. Honor yourself enough to express yourself in a positive way. If you squash your dark side it has a way of showing up in unhealthy patterns.

Be curious enough to examine your dark side without judgment. There is no right way or wrong way of living your life. It is your path alone and very sacred. Make this journey important. Look at your dark side and be healed.

 

Thoughtful Thursdays #155 – Confidence

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I wasn’t even remotely confident in myself until I was well into being an adult. I didn’t become brave enough to be confident until life threw me several curve balls. I was knocked down quite a few times until I learned to take care of myself. But you can learn confidence before life throws you any curve balls.

One striking thing about confidence if that there is a truth about it. There’s a feeling and truth in ones own abilities.

Here’s some ways to practice your confidence building skills.

  1. Do what you believe is right even if you are not supported.
  2. Take a risk and try a little harder to get to your goal.
  3. Admit your mistakes and correct them.
  4. Don’t wait for compliments.
  5. Accept compliments with pride.
  6. Look at what you have already accomplished.
  7. Take small steps to move forward.
  8. Stay away from negative situations.
  9. Upgrade your body image.
  10. Know you are brave and will succeed in anything you set out to do.

I am absolutely confident that you will be happier if you try these simple confidence building skills.

Now go out there and show the world who you are. You got this.