I get stuck a lot when I want to try something new that I know will help me immensely. I get stuck when I want to stop an unnecessary action that does not help me at all.
I am far from perfect in growing as a functional human being but I am committed in finding a way to have a mentally healthy life.
Here is what I learned the hard way.
1. taking action, any action, is the number one way to stay in touch with my true self. If I do nothing, I stay stagnant.
2. when I have thoughts full of worry I stop and ask where are these thoughts coming from. Are they from past belief or what is going on presently. Mostly the thoughts are from the past or worry about things I am not sure of.
3. being mindful of my thoughts and actions help me be more grounded and less distracted.
4. being kind to myself in thoughts and actions brings lots of productivity.
5. taking some quiet time every day helps me stay calm more often.
Growing as a functional human being is a very personal path. There is no right or wrong way. The right way is your way. There are many resources in books and online to get you started on your journey. Being right where you are and you will slowly find your way to have a healthy mental and emotional life.
It’s not easy to change. Most of the time it is our habits that get in the way. We know it’s time to change and begin something new.
This is where we must refuse to back down from our own intimidating thoughts that have become a bad habit. We must begin a ” I can do this” belief. We must adopt a ” I can figure this out” mindset as a habit.
Aren’t you at the very least curious about what you can accomplish? Our lives are layered in preferences. Pay attention to your preferences they are talking to you.
Look ahead, not back. Get rid of what is not working, Go forward, learn something new, meet new people, get out of your comfort zone. Create the next new better version of yourself.
You are worth it. And as a result you will grow into the person you are meant to be.
I ran into a friend today who I have not seen in a long time. He was really upset and visibly shaken.
His life is falling apart with problems. He feels lost and humiliated. His thoughts are out of control with grief.
We spoke at length about the situation and I told him how sorry I was for his burden of losses. There was nothing else I could do but stand there and listen.
As soon as he left I turned to continue my journey. I realized I have been so consumed with my own battles with grief that I did not step away and see that my problems could be a lot worse.
I feel sorry and compassion for him and must thank him for the reminder that I really don’t have it that bad.
There is a saying: If everyone put their troubles on a table you would take your own back. This is true.
Step back from your own thoughts and know that you have the exact challenges you need to grow now. You are where you are supposed to be now. You are learning now. No trouble last forever. When the chaos stops you will be even better.
A good relationship happens when two people accept each other’s past, support each other’s present, and encourage each other’s future, without trying to micromanage any of part it. So don’t rush relationships, especially those that feel overbearing. Find a partner, and friends for that matter, who encourage you to grow, who won’t cling to you, who will let you go out into the world, and trust that you will come back. And always pay them the same courtesy.” By Marc Chernoff.
Thanks for reminding me!!!!!
I love to embroider. Every now and then a designer will contact me to do some work. This just happened recently and today I dropped off the finished product. He asked I embroider taupe stems, purple petals, yellow sunflowers with brown french knot middles on a shirt. The design was put on the bottom border, and neckline. The designer loved it.
What is my point? Don’t put off what you truly love because that is where you expand. Even if it is a hobby and there is no money involved and you love to do it, then continue.
I don’t know what the science is behind doing what you love but I do know that every time I do what I love I grow, I feel happy, I have confidence, I feel new. Each time I do what I love a new perspective opens up. The act of doing what you love changes your brain into a machine or magnet for attracting happiness.
I am reminded that I must stay on the path of happiness.
How about you?
What do you love to do?
How often do you engage in the activity you love?
Happy path finding.
The more you hide your feelings, the more they show. The more you deny your feelings, the more they grow.”
If you don’t like who you are or where you are,
don’t worry about it because you are not stuck either
with who you are or where you are.
You can Grow.
You can Change.
You can be more than you are.