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Welcome to my writing site. I have been writing for some time now and find writing a strong way to connect to the world. The insights and stories I write about ring true to life in general. If you like what you read please leave a comment.

Thoughtful Thursdays #175 – What Is Necessary to Our Wellbeing

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There are three things necessary to our wellbeing: Identity, Community and Purpose.

However in our fractured world where these things are hard to find, many people, young people especially are lost in the world. The internet doesn’t help. Even though the internet is a tremendous asset there is not much in the way of human interaction. So we become fractured. We lose any sense of identity, community and purpose. We flip from one relationship to another to find our identity, racing from one community to another to feel we fit in, and trying over and over again different causes to feel personally satisfied. Or we can completely shut down.

We can see the lies fed to everyone by invisible agenda makers. These invisible agenda makers know psychology to manipulate those who are searching for their lost identity, community and purpose. Their hidden agenda is to tap into these basic human needs to the detriment of the searcher. These invisible agenda makers come up as extremists groups as political, religious, consumerism and that sneaky minority of those who just hate humanity and are power-hungry to destroy anyone they can.

Let’s find out what our true identity, community and purpose is by not blindly following others but doing the work of learning about ourselves. If you have no sense of identity, find out who you are by your own standards. If you have no community, find like-minded people or create your own community. If you have no sense of purpose, find your passion and go for it.

It’s not easy to go your own way, it’s unknown territory so at times you will feel lonely and lost. That is OK. Sit with the feeling rather than running away from it. When you arrive to the other side you will know more of who you are, have an internal compass that will find the community that loves you and you get up every day happy to live your purpose.

Stop wasting time, learn more about you now.

Thoughtful Thursdays – #174 – Sins and Secrets

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Sin = wrongdoing, transgression, crime, offense.

Secret = not meant to be known or seen by others

To my understanding a sin is an action done out of ignorance.

To my understanding secrets can be surrounded by shame.

Ignorance does not protect us from consequences.

Shame keeps secrets in place.

If we have a secret that causes shame it may cause ignorant actions with many consequences.

We all have “sins and secrets” we want to go the grave with. But the burden of carrying “sins and secrets” is so very painful. Here are some safe ways of releasing the pain.

  1. Write your heart out without censure.
  2. Find a therapist or someone you can really trust to talk it out.
  3. Don’t beat yourself up, have compassion for yourself.
  4. Research the issues you are dealing with.
  5. Change what you can, leave the rest alone.

We are all human and we make mistakes, this is part of life. And every day is a new chance to change.

 

Thoughtful Thursdays – #173 – There Is No Rush

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Unfortunately society tells us to rush, rush, rush. Work harder, Be the first, Be the fastest. You are not enough unless you do as everyone else does.

Not true.

There is no rush to live your life or do your inner work. There is no time line. There is only the day by day actions that make your life fulfilling to you. There are only the small steps into knowing who you are. There is no finish line.

Only movement at your own pace.

Thoughtful Thursdays – #172 – Many Personalities

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We have more than one role. We can be a parent, child, protector, adventurer, lover, teacher, predator, breadwinner. I am sure there are plenty more.

Each role we play can carry an emotion. Happiness, fear, anger, sadness, joy, disgust, surprise, trust, anticipation. Plus many more.

Some roles are a trigger and hold one emotion more than others. Do you know which holds what?

The child, parent in me holds joy.

The adventurer  in me hold happiness.

The protector, predator holds fear and anger

Depending on the situation the role you are in can elicit an emotion.

The point is which emotion, positive or negative are you feeling? Where are your triggers, where are you centered? Where is your emotional energy going? Where are you happy? Where are you angry? Where are you disgusted?

The more you know about yourself the easier it is to be on your very own path to authenticity.

Your own brand of authenticity. That no one can take from you.

You are worth the time it takes to be happy. Take it.

 

Thoughtful Thursdays # 171 – You Are So Crazy

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I have been told that many times when I speak up for myself. I refuse to be mistreated. Period.

I find those who do attempt to mistreat me are showing me their true feelings about themselves. Which is not my problem. I remind them of their own unresolved issues. The haters will try to destroy me because I have the courage to be me. And they don’t have that courage.

I will not allow anyone to crush my voice. I am the lucky one who is awake enough to live my own authentic life.

You can live an authentic life too. Let no one bury you in shame or hate or confusion. Your voice and way of being is not easy but so worth fighting for and the bonus is you are a guiding light for someone else.

Let’s celebrate being the Crazy One, the Unique One, the Courageous One, the Happy One.

Carry on.

Thoughtful Thursdays – #170 – I will I won’t

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Free will may not be all it’s cracked up to be. Free will gives us the freedom to do not only good things but unhealthy things like self-destructive behavior. You may say I can do what I want because I have the free will to do so – so I will.

On the other hand you have the freedom to say I won’t – this just may be the freedom you are looking for.

I won’t take what does not belong to me. I won’t talk to the pretty co-worker but go home and talk to my partner. I won’t take that hit of coke or pop that pill or take that drink. I won’t engage in unhealthy behaviors.  I have the freedom to choose either way. But “I won’t” just may free you up to enjoy a fuller life.

Happy choosing.

Thoughtful Thursdays – #169 – Mental Health

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I am a strong supporter of doing whatever is necessary to have good mental health. Whether one is exposed to trauma or mental illness more needs to be done to talk about mental health issues.

In light of the uncalled for death of NYPD Officer Miosotis Familia her assailant had a long history of psychiatric problems.

The laws changed years ago to allow the mentally ill to have a say in their treatment. That’s OK for some but not for others. This person was so unstable that he randomly killed someone. This is not OK. Where was the necessary intervention. There is much media attention for the NYPD officer but these random killings by the mentally unstable go on every day, we just don’t hear about it.

Go to your doctor, spiritual advisor, hospital,library, online for resources on how to protect  and educate yourself on mental health. Know the warning signs if someone is acting irrationally. Know who to call for help. Get away if necessary. There are many ways to address these issues.

Learn all you can about psychology and behavior, the more you know the more you can keep yourself and family safe.

NYPD, all law enforcement agencies, hospitals, therapists, and family members deal with emotionally disturbed people every day. Let’s help ourselves and those who regularly deal with this population. Get educated on mental health now before another senseless tragedy happens.

My condolences to NYPD Officer Miosotis Familia and her family and please let this be an opportunity to talk openly about mental health issues so we can stop this senseless violence before it starts.

Trust

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It’s much better to get to know someone first before you express the power of who you are.

Not all are trustworthy. Some people are predators. Some want to destroy for the sheer pleasure of it.

It is perfectly OK to protect yourself, emotionally, physically, financially.

However, if you find someone you can trust, treasure them. This is truly rare.

Thoughtful Thursdays # 168 – The Curse of Awareness

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Trauma makes you do deep inner work which makes you acutely aware. The more you do this inner work the easier you can see others living in deep unawareness.

It seems like a curse and you will feel very different from the rest of the world. That’s OK. Stay different, you are not supposed to be like everyone else. You are supposed to be aware.

And there is a very good chance others feel different too, they just don’t show it.

Do whatever you need to do to be comfortable in your own skin. Embrace changing.

Thoughtful Thursdays – # 167 – It’s OK To Stop

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When I am overwhelmed with racing thoughts and panic I want to run away and hide under a safe rock. I want to numb out from a constant bombardment of possibilities but doubting all of them. I want to hurry up and bring conclusions and endings to stop the confusion.

But wait……….. instead of running anywhere it is OK to STOP.

Stop running and let the massive amount of stuff in your brain settle. Do something different, out of the ordinary, just stop. Force yourself if you have to. Just wait for your mind to process what is going on.

You will be surprised at the amount of insight that is revealed. It’s wonderful to know that everything will turn out well.