Tag Archives: sad

You’ve Got To Feel It To Heal It

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That’s right, there is nothing worse than hiding from your feelings because until you feel them they will come out in unhealthy ways.

Depression is sadness turned inward. Are you avoiding happiness because you have unresolved sadness?

Then feel it to heal it.

Got some rage going on and you took out in a road rage incident?

Then feel it to heal it.

Shame running the show in your life?

Then feel it to heal it.

Feeling scared, lonely, disgusted, left out, jealous, embarrassed, disappointed, frustrated, shy, uncomfortable or guilty?

Then feel it to heal it.

There is no way around it, we must resolve, process and look at what we feel, even it’s really uncomfortable.

You will come out on the other side feeling joy,hopeful, friendly, brave, silly, grateful, loved, kind, secure, curious,proud, and confident.

After all, who wants to be stuck in misery.

Happy exploring your feelings.

 

 

 

We All Have Schizophrenia

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This is going to sound strange but yes we are all schizophernic to one degree or another.

Google Definition:

schiz·o·phre·ni·a
ˌskitsəˈfrēnēə,ˌskitsəˈfrenēə/Submit
noun
a long-term mental disorder of a type involving a breakdown in the relation between thought, emotion, and behavior, leading to faulty perception, inappropriate actions and feelings, withdrawal from reality and personal relationships into fantasy and delusion, and a sense of mental fragmentation.
(in general use) a mentality or approach characterized by inconsistent or contradictory elements.

For example, we can have a mental disorder that leads to breakdown in thought, emotion and behavior when we fall in love or  have murderous rage.

Inappropriate actions and feelings can come from having our egos brused and wishing death and destruction to the offender and acting on those feelings. These are common stories in the news paper.

Withdrawal from reality in relationships can come from going into denial that you may be in a bad relationship, job, etc.

Inconsistent or contradictory elements can come from being frozen with indecision that you are paralized.

I am not negating the severity of schizophrenia but we all have different aspects of ourselves.

We can be the parent, the child, the protector, the killer, the compassionate one or more. Pay attention to how you behave in your interactions in your daily routine. These aspects will become visible if you pay attention.

We are a blend of aspects in our psyche and that is normal. Some aspects are more pronounced than others. Sometimes we are mostly sweet or angry, sad or outgoing or any other role. We all have flashes of insight and can choose whatever behavior we want.

It is our job to accept all aspects of ourselves and deny nothing. In this way we are in touch with our humanity and the humanity of others.

Happy exploring.

 

Thoughtful Thursdays #54 Questions

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I like questions.

Questions are an important part of relationships both with yourself and with others.

Here are some of my favorite questions.

What is in your heart?

What do you feel?

What makes you happy?

What makes you sad?

Would you want a super power? If so, what would it be?

What makes you really angry?

Are you willing to be talk about your feelings?

Are you willing to change one thing that you are unhappy with?

Do you love deeply?

Do you express that feeling of deep love  in some way?

Do you believe that things work out for the best?

Or do you believe you must push for what you want?

If you had no limitations, what are some of the things you would try?

What are you afraid of?

If you knew a statement was incorrect would you add some input or keep your mouth shut?

Is there something you need to let go of?

What do you resist?

What age do you feel?

What is your favorite academic subject?

How judgmental are you?

Do you accept others as they are?

Which values are important to you? E.g. kindness, truthfulness, etc.

I could go on but this is enough to get you thinking and perhaps asking others.

Have fun learning because that’s what life is about. Learning how the minds, bodies and spirits work.

The more you know about yourself the more you know about others, which makes for a happier and more content life.

Ask tons of questions because they are the starting point of change in a positive direction.

 

 

 

 

 

 

What’s Eating You?

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If you crave meat, you must be angry.

“Researchers have found out that our moods can dictate what we eat,” says JR, a medical doctor and recovering food addict. According to research, here is a list of food cravings and the moods they address:

If you reach or crave for:
Meat, hard and crunchy foods               You may be feeling angry
Sugars                                               depressed
Soft, sweet foods like ice cream             anxious

Salty foods                                         stressed

Bulky, filling foods (crackers, pasta)     lonely, sexually frustrated

Anything and everything                         jealous

Sayings

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Your enemy is not fighting you because you are weak.

He is fighting you because you are strong.

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You know why it’s hard to be happy?

Because we refuse to let go of the things that make us sad.

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Ending Relationships

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What a touchy subject. Sometimes we end relationships or the other ends relationships. The relationship could be personal or casual or business. Either way its difficult. Emotions are usually raw especially if the ending is unexpected. Actually even if it is remotely expected the end still hurts. I wouldn’t even begin to say ” I know what you are going through because I went through it too” ( I have been through it many times) because reactions are as unique as the individuals involved. But there are some common characteristics in each ending.

Endings are:
Sad, Mad, Angry, Heavy, overwhelming.
A sudden growth spurt in letting go.
About growing up.
A show of strength and character.
Not the end of the world even it may seem so.
Endings are about closure on the stuff you don’t need.
It’s a time out to examine what happened.
About learning detachment.
Take a look at what worked and leave the rest.

I’m sure there may be more but in the end the bad time is guaranteed to pass. It may pass quick or slow. But it will pass. A page in your life will turn. There will be many pages turned because change is part of life. So let time pass, seek out supportive people, read encouraging literature, and do whatever it takes to heal.

Peace