“Take sorrow from no one and give sorrow to no one.”
I met a young woman recently that does not like hanging around with women. How true. Women can be catty, judgmental and down right untrustworthy. How sad for us.
Here’s the secret to why women behave that way. Because that’s how they compete. When a woman, could even be your mother, puts another woman down she is just plain insecure and probably threatened because she is a very unhappy person. Any put down from another woman is a reflection on her not on the victim. Is this behavior learned or are women generally beastly? I suspect it is more learned than biological.
Here is your mantra for today. “Take sorrow from no one and give sorrow to no one”. The next time a woman has a put down for you take it as a compliment. She’s saying, “I want to be just like you”. Put your head up and be proud that you have that much power over someone else and your environment. Don’t absorb anything negative from anyone no matter who it is. Step back and observe the reaction of the other person when you don’t react. The junk they spit out on you just went back to them. Bravo for you.
Thoughtful Thursdays #3
Think about all the strange actions you have committed and have no explanation for. Why did I over react to a particular situation? Why did I risk embarrassing my self? Why did I lose my confidence? Why did I mouth off?
Because most actions we do as humans is below our consciousness. Really the only way to circumvent these actions is to pay attention to what your behavior is. It is enlightening to know your true motives. But with that knowledge you have the power to change.
Change is the hard part. However, in some cases it is so obvious what needs to be changed that doing so is easy. When change is hard it indicates a number of things, Perhaps your not willing to change the situation at the moment. Maybe you don’t know how. Maybe your are afraid, complacent, naïve, oblivious, sadistic, masochistic, don’t really care, happy being unhappy, don’t know any better, etc, etc, etc.
Is THAT The Best You Can DO?
It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness.
Here’s the first post for my new series “Thoughtful Thursdays”. These posts will be some of my rants and thoughts and insights. Read well and enjoy.
Resistance is invisible most of the time. Invisible in the sense that resistance is not obvious. It comes in the disguise of lethargy, thinking negative, giving up, amnesia, distraction, illness. Why does resistance exist? I’ve read it’s our lizard brain. That’s the part that wants to be safe all the time. So it negates and sabotages all effort to change. From my own experience, for most of my life I didn’t recognize resistance.
As I aged I recognized my own resistance abundantly and realize where I let resistance win. It’s hard to not be overwhelmed by the missed opportunities and lack thereof. But all is not lost. I have come up with a formula. Resist resistance cold turkey. Just the way I stopped smoking. No more pussy footin’ around. Yes it’s time to change. Yes this is going to be a monumental effort and now is the best time. That lizard brain will learn a new set of standards and rules. Mine.
Determination is the key to action and action changes everything. So the next time I feel resistance, I will move into an action, any action and change will happen for the best.
Read Steven Pressfield’s Book”The War of Art”