Being a bully shows great weakness. It is weak to lose control of your temper. It shows you are afraid of something. Something life threatening. The causes of being a bully are many, loss of control, self esteen, personal pain, trauma.
Many times being a bully is the only form of control one thinks because outside events are uncontrolable. By continuing to be a bully there is the possibility of being so far from your feelings that giving suffering becomes enjoyable. Hence, becoming a psychopath.
Think, think, think about what you are doing. What are you so unhappy about? You are not helpless to change for the better.
Use your anger to barrel through the things that are not working and making you unhappy. Be a bully to change yourself for the better, to put up boundaries, commit to self improve. It is your right to do so. It is your strength to do so.
Be a bully to take right actions.
To win the internal battle and vicious cycle of violence I offer a guaranteed way of progress.
GIVE NO ONE SORROW
TAKE NO SORROW
Don’t give sorrow to anyone. That means you first. Don’t do anything that will cause you to feel regretful. Don’t do anything that will make someone else feel bad. Detach.
Don’t take sorrow from anyone. Put a large protective boundary between you and the sorrowful situation. This means not to absorb any negativity. Detach.
Keep yourself and others safe by putting a bead in your mouth if you can’t keep it shut. And walk away if need be to stop any onslaught of negativity. Detach.
End drama, don’t respond to it and it will disappear. Detach.
With that said.
Carry on with calmness today and every day.
“Take sorrow from no one and give sorrow to no one.”
I met a young woman recently that does not like hanging around with women. How true. Women can be catty, judgmental and down right untrustworthy. How sad for us.
Here’s the secret to why women behave that way. Because that’s how they compete. When a woman, could even be your mother, puts another woman down she is just plain insecure and probably threatened because she is a very unhappy person. Any put down from another woman is a reflection on her not on the victim. Is this behavior learned or are women generally beastly? I suspect it is more learned than biological.
Here is your mantra for today. “Take sorrow from no one and give sorrow to no one”. The next time a woman has a put down for you take it as a compliment. She’s saying, “I want to be just like you”. Put your head up and be proud that you have that much power over someone else and your environment. Don’t absorb anything negative from anyone no matter who it is. Step back and observe the reaction of the other person when you don’t react. The junk they spit out on you just went back to them. Bravo for you.