As part of on going self care and knowing who we are, lists can be very helpful in identifying our strengths and weakness. Note: play to your strengths.
Try listing the following items:
What am I good at, what do I like about myself, what is going right, what is going wrong, fears I have, fears that don’t scare me anymore, what do I hate, what do I love,what do I want, what makes me laugh, how can I be healthier.
You get the idea, the aim is to know yourself really well because you are your greatest mystery.
Oh there is that cursed word again. CHANGE. We know we must do it. We know the excuses for not doing it. We conveniently forget what we must do only to remember at 2 am.
We can see very plainly how hard it is to change ourselves.
Which makes is pretty obvious that it is next to impossible to change someone else.
So what is the answer.
Learn how you function.
How you think.
What are your fears.
What lies are you believing.
There is no right way or wrong way.
You can CHANGE in your own way.
Whenever you are ready.
. have difficulty making decisions
. judge what they think, say or do harshly, as never good enough
. are embarrassed to receive recognition, praise or gifts
. value others approval of their thinking, feelings, and behavior over their own
. do not perceive themselves as lovable or worthwhile persons
. seek recognition and praise to overcome feeling less than
. have difficulty admitting a mistake
. need to appear to be right in the eyes of others and may even lie to look good
. are unable to identify or ask for what they need and want
. perceive themselves as superior to others
. look to others to provide their send of safety
. have difficulty getting started, meeting deadlines and completing projects
. have trouble setting healthy priorities and boundaries
Sometimes people try to expose
what’s wrong with you
they can’t handle
everything that is right with you.