Don’t talk about me until you talk to me.
Don’t under estimate me until you challenge me.
don’t judge me until you know me.
Anonymous
Dec29
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Dec26
Thoughtful Thursdays #45
Wow, just yesterday it was Christmas. It seems the anticipation of Christmas is endless. Then in just twenty four short hours Christmas comes and goes until next year. Now comes the anticipation for New Years eve. Which will come and go just as quickly.
Time is gift. Let’s not waste it. Before you know it time will pass just as quickly as Christmas and New Years. Do the best with your time so you don’t regret wasting it.
Happy Holidays and Happy New Year.
Dec16
Vampires
Here’s a post from Seth Godin.
Here he explains the influence of negative people in your life and how to handle them.
Seth always had timeless advice. Pleasssse read.
The care and feeding (and shunning) of vampires.
Vampires, of course, feed on something that we desperately need but also can’t imagine being a source of food.
You have metaphorical vampires in your life. These are people that feed on negativity, on shooting down ideas and most of all, on extinguishing your desire to make things better.
Why would someone do that? Why would they rush to respond to a heartfelt and generous blog post with a snide comment about a typo in the third line? Why would they go out of their way to fold their arms, make a grimace and destroy any hope you had for changing the status quo?
Vampires cannot be cured. They cannot be taught, they cannot learn the error of their ways. Most of all, vampires will never understand how much damage they’re doing to you and your work. Pity the vampires, they are doomed to this life.
Your garlic is simple: shun them. Delete their email, turn off comments, don’t read your one-star reviews. Don’t attend meetings where they show up. Don’t buy into the false expectation that in an organizational democracy, every voice matters. Every voice doesn’t matter–only the voices that move your idea forward, that make it better, that make you better, that make it more likely you will ship work that benefits your tribe.
It’s so tempting to evangelize to the vampires, to prove them wrong, to help them see how destructive they are. This is food for them, merely encouragement.
Shun the ones who feed on your failures.
Posted by Seth Godin on December 16, 2013
Nov14
Thoughful Thursdays # 41 Communication
Sometimes the best form of communication is silence. It does not mean the absence of thought (which is impossible). Silence allows for enough detachment to see the chatter of the mind and the truth.
When we allow silence we become powerful because eternal truths are revealed. The old worn out untrue stories we tell ourselves are shown for what they are: Lies. Our intuition is present. Silence develops our mental and spiritual power.
Silence in interactions is a powerful tool to cool anger and show you can be trusted. Silence allows for any situation to burn itself out to it’s proper conclusion.
Silence is grounding and perfect. You can expect your mind to rebel and resist. By practicing silence the rebel and resistance goes away long enough for your intuition to emerge.
Try it. Sit quietly in the morning for 10 minutes and be in the moment. If your mind is racing, follow your breath. You will notice a change in yourself and your day. You will be peaceful and clear headed.
Cherish the silence.
OM
Nov7
Thoughtful Thursdays #40 When things don’t work out.
Sometimes things just don’t go the way you want them to. I yell and fight, pushy, manipulate and scheme for circumstances to change to be what I want them to be. I try to force my own way into the situation and bring the issue to my own satisfactory conclusion.
The more I battle with what is happening the more I hurt inside. I am making the situation harder and harder for myself and others.
Then I had an epiphany. I was not paying attention to what was happening and thought I was the only one who was right therefore things had to go my way.
I decided to surrender, not in defeat but to let the situation play out by itself without my manipulation. As soon as I stopped struggling against resisting change I became calm. I do what is within my control and let go of everything else including the outcome.
Looks like I just got a big dose of wisdom.
Here’s what I learned and I hope it helps you too.
1. If you have done all you can, do no more.
2. Have patience and let things unravel the way its meant to.
3. The conclusion may not be what you want but it will be for you highest good.
4. Stop struggling with having things your own way.
5. Pick and choose your battles.
6. Step back and see is its really worth the effort.
7. If it’s hard for you to step back give yourself positive self talk.
It’s not always easy to allow the flow of life to move in its own direction. Just know that all will be well.
Happy surrender.
Oct30
Want not.
The next time you are waiting for anything, notice what you are wanting. This will be a source of your tension or impatience. All desire has fear built in – fear of not getting or losing, even before your desire is fulfilled.If you want to be free of fear and stress from your life, the secret is to want nothing, and then the magic happens. All that you need and more arrives in your life, at the right time, in the right way.
by: Thought For Today
Oct22
Does the past define who you are now?
The past can’t define who you are today because what is past no longer exists. The actions of the past become part of the overall experience of a person’s life. Whether those experience are positive or negative are not right or wrong but lessons to be learned from. Some lessons are painful some are happy some are neutral.
At any time we can choose your own path. At any time you can see an action as one that will bring a positive result or a negative one. All it takes is a little detachment about making different decisions in the future.
Don’t buy into past beliefs that because you made a poor decision in the past you can’t make different decisions in the future. That’s the beauty and benefit of free will. You always have a choice. Just step back a moment and see what is going on, then decide.
Don’t pick on, berate put down or scare yourself with your thoughts.
Be kind and gentle to yourself. you are special and wonderful,
So believe it and act on it.
Oct12
Short Story Saturday #1 The Future
I am starting a series of very short stories with a positive theme. Please enjoy and your comments are always welcome.
Once upon a time, just a week ago I found a winding road. Since I have nothing else to do I walked on it. The beginning of the path was easy; there were no bushes or rocks to trip on, just smooth dirt. Confident I could continue unencumbered I trekked on.
As I walked the light became a little less so I had to adjust my eyes to the the light. I tripped on an upturned tree root and fell on my knees. Ouch that really hurt. I got up and brushed myself off. I wasn’t bleeding anywhere so I continued. The trees became thick with only trickles of light. I hobbled carefully on the road that was becoming increasingly unpredictable. Boulders, vines, downed trees and unrecognizable sounds were invoking fear and uncertainty in me. Why did I walk down this path in the first place? I can’t turn back because the way is no longer clear. I must go forward.
It occurred to me this is the road to my future. Each obstacle is just a teacher on this path. I must learn to be unattached to the outcome of each obstacle.
Lightened from the burden of fear I walked on and went over, under, around or through each obstacle laid in front of me. It didn’t take long to find the end of the winding road.
There is was, exactly what I was looking for, my future in my own way.
Oct7
Affirmations #29 Limitations
I declare richness and fullness for my life.
I now choose to move away from the limiting beliefs that have been denying me the benefits I do desire.
I release all negative patterns that have contributed to fear of loss, being harmed, of poverty.
I release those negative patterns that have brought me pain, loneliness, self abuse, undeservingness and any other nonsense that may be lingering in some dark corner of my consciousness.
Louise Hay – Heart Thoughts
Limiting beliefs are usually hidden from our awareness. Write and say these affirmations and what you believe with come to the surface. Write each one 10 times say them many times during the day and at bedtime and in a mirror.
Sep23
Affirmations # 15
When I breath, I inhale confidence and exhale timidity.
I love meeting strangers and approach them with boldness and enthusiasm.
I approve of myself and love myself deeply and completely.
I live in the present and am confident of the future.
My personality exudes confidence. I am bold and outgoing,
I am self-reliant, creative and persistent in whatever I do.
I am energetic and enthusiastic. Confidence is my second nature.
self-help-and-self-development.com
Self confidence is the belief that you can do something. Write these 10 times each say them many times during the day especially in the morning and bedtime and in a mirror.
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