The past can’t define who you are today because what is past no longer exists. The actions of the past become part of the overall experience of a person’s life. Whether those experience are positive or negative are not right or wrong but lessons to be learned from. Some lessons are painful some are happy some are neutral.
At any time we can choose your own path. At any time you can see an action as one that will bring a positive result or a negative one. All it takes is a little detachment about making different decisions in the future.
Don’t buy into past beliefs that because you made a poor decision in the past you can’t make different decisions in the future. That’s the beauty and benefit of free will. You always have a choice. Just step back a moment and see what is going on, then decide.
Don’t pick on, berate put down or scare yourself with your thoughts.
Be kind and gentle to yourself. you are special and wonderful,
So believe it and act on it.