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Thoughtful Thursday #308 – Judgement VS Opinion

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According to Google:

Opinions are beliefs, not necessarily based on facts. They are personal preferences that take into consideration one’s mood, the mindset of the crowd being addressed and the overall environment of the situation. Judgement is more of an assessment which takes information into consideration.

Let’s step back for a moment, with recent triggering events that are still resonating in the world, emotional cries for unseen justice, threatening gestures to and from strangers, fear of speaking our mind, forced silence and an incredible amount of ungroundedness and no direction, let’s take a moment to reflect. What behaviors are we observing from humanity and what are we observing about ourselves.

Not only are these events triggering for trauma survivors but also for most of our friends and neighbors and those that we wish we could get to know better.

As a self care option we can use the above definitions of opinions and judgement to help us define and name what we feel and identify some of the inner workings of our mind especially when triggered with uncertainty. Ask yourself if you are reacting with opinion or considering facts.

What is within my control and what is not within my control.

Let’s practice kindness to yourself first then to others, visualize a peaceful place, quiet your mind, listen to music, check in with yourself, what is your self talk, talk to a therapist, be self compassionate,

It’s really important to find a way to become grounded and as peaceful as possible, from this perspective we can navigate our world much more effectively and in an mature matter.

You are important, you are special, you belong on this planet, let’s be good to ourselves and others by not being swayed by the rash opinions of others, let’s be as calm as possible. The world and all it’s beautiful inhabitants need great calm and understanding right now.

And if you are reading this you are one of the ambassadors of peace.

Carry on.

 

Thoughtful Thursday #270 – Judgment and Hate

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When we hate, criticize and judge other people it is a reflection of how unhappy and insecure we feel about ourselves.

When we criticize, hate or judge others it means we hate, criticize, judge ourselves.

Why? Because we believe we are not model size, rich, successful, pretty, overweight, underweight, cool, fill in the blank of where we believe we are lacking.

When we criticize, hate, judge others it gives a sense of assurance and validation that we are OK.

Why do we do that? We must get to the root of these beliefs and actions – to uncover and process our own self hatred and judgement.

We must get to feeling “good enough” about ourselves.

Feeling “good enough” about ourselves brings happiness and contentment and there is no room or desire to hate and judge others.

Get back to yourself.

Do the internal work necessary to be happy and content – you are worth it.

 

Thoughtful Thursday #252 – Who is Running the Show in Trauma Recovery

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Our minds are not always in tune with our powerful grounded self. Being in touch with our grounded self is difficult to maintain in the best of circumstances. Our grounded self is where we feel strong, centered and strong.

Our minds are busy thinking, chatting, bringing up the past and worrying about the future, describing fears in great detail and at times sending us down the rabbit hole of despair and keeping trauma experiences invisible, untouchable, un-feel-able.

Our subconscious runs the show in trauma recovery. If we are mostly distracted it’s a signal that our subconscious is not feeling safe enough to express its concerns about the trauma you experienced.

And that is OK. Eventually, the more you learn to be grounded the more your subconscious will reveal information about the unhealed trauma material.

When this happens witness without judgement and thank your subconscious for revealing its secrets to you. Tell your subconscious how proud you are of it protecting you for so long and it can release this heavy burden, you are both safe now.

Thoughtful Thursdays #54 Questions

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I like questions.

Questions are an important part of relationships both with yourself and with others.

Here are some of my favorite questions.

What is in your heart?

What do you feel?

What makes you happy?

What makes you sad?

Would you want a super power? If so, what would it be?

What makes you really angry?

Are you willing to be talk about your feelings?

Are you willing to change one thing that you are unhappy with?

Do you love deeply?

Do you express that feeling of deep love  in some way?

Do you believe that things work out for the best?

Or do you believe you must push for what you want?

If you had no limitations, what are some of the things you would try?

What are you afraid of?

If you knew a statement was incorrect would you add some input or keep your mouth shut?

Is there something you need to let go of?

What do you resist?

What age do you feel?

What is your favorite academic subject?

How judgmental are you?

Do you accept others as they are?

Which values are important to you? E.g. kindness, truthfulness, etc.

I could go on but this is enough to get you thinking and perhaps asking others.

Have fun learning because that’s what life is about. Learning how the minds, bodies and spirits work.

The more you know about yourself the more you know about others, which makes for a happier and more content life.

Ask tons of questions because they are the starting point of change in a positive direction.