The places that scare you are not meant to hurt you.
Fear is meant to get your attention.
For example, worry and procrastination are forms of fear. Find a way to detach from the worry and procrastination. Detach emotionally, be an observer.
In that place you will find the lie that you are not good enough.
Don’t believe lies because they come from fear.
Face the fear and move in any direction that will help you be the person you are most happy to be.
Are you unhappy with what is happening at the moment or events that have happened in the past?
That is arguing with yourself.
Frustrated and overreacting with everyday dramas?
That is arguing with yourself.
Are you over thinking, feeling stuck and have racing thoughts?
That is arguing with yourself.
Worried, fearful, stinking thinking?
That is arguing with yourself.
The antidote:
Accept what is going on right now without judgement.
There really is nothing in your current circumstances
that can stop you from making the changes you need to make to be happy.
Stop arguing with yourself.
There is one voice in your head which is the one that is constantly chatting, has racing thoughts and is fatality minded. It’s the voice that can send you from the highest hopes to the deepest despair. The voice in your head will automatically default to what is negative. Especially when things are going good.
But it is not you.
There is another voice in your head that is barely audible. It is drowned out by the chatting and racing thoughts etc. We can’t hear it because we don’t listen for it. This is the real you.
How can we observe what we are thinking to get clarity?
Detach from your thoughts and feelings and observe them. Thoughts are like waves in an ocean. Waves rise, crest and crash on the shore. Let your thoughts rise but don’t react to them. Let them crest observing them. Let them crash out of your consciousness. Let them go without judgement.
Then relax. Take a breath.
In the action of daily activities this may not be possible. There are ways of carving out time for getting in touch with the quiet voice.
Meditate, go for a walk, exercise, do art, write, do something that is not part of your regular routine.
You will know that you are making progress when you feel at peace.
Happy Listening!
What is commitment?
Dedication to a cause. It is loyalty, devotion, a promise, a pledge, an action that transform something into reality.
We can commit to pay our bills on time.
We can promise to be faithful to someone.
We can pledge to self-improvement.
So why is it so hard to transform our actions into a realistic outcome?
Because we don’t commit with our whole being. Commitment requires a certain amount of fearlessness and being uncomfortable with change. So how do we start?
Slowly, very slowly because with small changes, tiny choices one by one eventually become the commitment to change anything for the better.
I had a very interesting experience this week. I was extremely emotional. I had racing thoughts and crying outbursts. This experience was brought on by a series of events that tapped into my fears.
I remembered Pema Chodron’s suggestion. Sit with it. Sit with the feelings that are troubling you without picking up food, a drink, or any other distraction.
I did sit with the feelings and it hurt really bad. I wanted to run away, disappear, die, dive into a pie and surf the web, cry and throw up.
But I didn’t. The troubling feelings lasted about three days.
The fear I was feeling was from a past trauma. Each event reminiscent of the trauma flashed before my mind and it all made sense. All the times I ran away from feeling the fear, all the times I distracted my self, all the times I made excuses, basically to protect myself.
The fear left because I faced it. My feelings are still raw but the intensity of the fear on a scale of one to ten is a one.
Next time you are emotionally out of control, depressed, sad or troubled. Just sit with it. Don’t run away. Feel everything.
You will expand your understanding of how you operate. From understanding and knowledge about yourself changes your entire life for the better. That’s a guarantee.
Happy exploring.
OM
Waking up to who we are is too important to ignore.
In Buddhism and psychology there is a method of healing that is easy in theory but difficult to do, unless you have trust.
I recently had some recurring flashbacks from the past. These feelings were a mystery that I have had since I was a child. My body felt like it was stinging. My mind was racing with desperation and longing, unidentifiable restlessness. I couldn’t put my finger on it. It was such a familiar feeling full of pain, hot tears and wanting an end to the pain.
I got still and trusted myself enough to be quiet and detached.
I let my mind go to that dark place where these feelings began and I had a revelation that the feelings I relived were of abandonment. On a gut level I knew I was revisiting trauma from the past in what seems to be many years ago and almost an eternity ago. The memories flooded my mind. All the poor decisions based on my abandonment issues saturated my being. I understood how abandonment effected me. How abandonment was pervasive. I was not sad, just relived. I was fortunate enough to trust myself to sit with the feelings without running away from them.
Not running away from my feelings was the perfect way to get through the things that were holding me back on a very deep level.
Conclusion: Trust your mind it knows what it needs to heal.
Ever notice a time you felt invisible in a crowd? People talk over you as if you don’t exist. Your opinion doesn’t matter.
Here’s some reasons why…..
1. You want to be part of the crowd but you really don’t like the crowd.
2. You try new things but only partially, not with your full heart.
3. You don’t realize how much you have to contribute to the world.
4. You are resisting the changes you need to make to be social.
Stop waiting for others.
Organize that road trip.
Make those phone calls.
Visit others even you are resisting.
Stop resisting our own life.
Start here and now with one small step.
It’s so much more fun to be with others than to be alone.
Even if it feels strange at first.
There is a ton of information out there about how the power of music is healing. Music has had a healing effect on me too. When I started meditation I listened to groups like Bliss and Carmen Warringtons meditation music. My favorite listening music is Jazz. Each has it’s place and I have been touched and healed by music in amazing ways.
Here’s my take in the subject.
1. Rythum is primal. The beat of a drum can be hypnotic or wild. Depending on the movement emotions can be intense or calm.
2.Tone is the rate of vibration of a sound. Tone has an effect physically and psychological effect on our being. Tone has the invisable effect that words can’t touch.
3. Melody is a group of notes put together to form a score. A melody can produce emotions, inspire imagination , bring up urges, effect our bodies and its functions.
Everyone listens to music and is influenced by it.
What most people don’t realize is that music touchs a higher level consciousness that is beyond worldly concerns.
It’s the times when you hear a song or hear lyrics that resonate in a place in your being that has no words. You could feel elation or serious sadness, love, empowerment, peace or centeredness.
Music has been called forth to be the language of the gods. It’s the language of the heavens and the universal language of the earth.
Musical sound is on the level of thoughts. Incognito but felt. Sound is the bases of the universe. There is sound everywhere whether you are conscious of it or not.
You have a choice to pay attention or ignore what sounds are effecting you.
In the store, in your place of worship, dance, in nature, on a seaside, on your radio, anywhere. Classical, Jazz, Tribal, Popular, Ethnic and many more.
Music is there just listen.
Coloring books are mostly thought of as a children’s activity. We all remember a time as a child that we sat with a coloring book and a new box of crayons.
Coloring books are not just for children. I went to the dollar store a few weeks ago and bought three coloring books and a new box of 64 crayons. I just wanted to color so I indulged myself.
I used only my non dominant hand to color. I went inside the lines and outside the lines. I noticed I couldn’t color very fast so my entire being slowed down. Coloring became a meditation, a stress reliever, my thoughts slowed down. I felt little again. Feeling little felt natural.
I was reconnected with simplicity, coloring was a quick creative fix. I noticed when I was finished with a few pages I was more focused and calm as I resumed my daily life. And occasionally forgot myself and used my non dominant hand for various actions like writing and picking things up. That made me smile.
What a wonderful form of therapy. Cheap, works fast and gives both sides of your brain an equal workout.
I bought the simplist coloring books however there are many types of coloring books. Check your local craft shop or bookstore.
I plan on continuing coloring.
Try feeling like a child again and color. It’s endearing and delightful and it will brighten up your day.
Happy Coloring.
Blue, Pink, Indigo, Purple, Yellow, Cornflower, Timberwolf, Magenta, Black, Orange, etc., etc., etc…………………………
Machig Lardron was a famous female 11th century Tibetan tantric Buddhist teacher. Her birth was predicted by Yeshe Tsogyel. She was as mystic and shaman. She wanted to know how to end human suffering. She wanted to wake up so she could heal the suffering in the world. So she asked her teacher at the time what was the best and fastest method of achieving this. This is what he told her. She followed it to the letter and gained much spiritual power. And you can too.
1. Confess your hidden faults
2. Approach what you find repulsive
3. Help those you think you cannot help ( also translated as to help those you do not want to help)
4. Anything you are attached to, give that ( let it go )
5. Go to the places that scare you
Each slogan amounts to the same thing. Facing your fears.
1. What am I afraid of admitting
2. What do I find completely and utterly unapproachable
3. Who do I not want to help because I am afraid to admit my true feelings
4. What am I afraid of losing
5. Where am I afraid to go to in the real world and where and I afraid to go in the dark recesses of my mind.
As a spiritual practice of mindfullness examine each fear you have and face it. What is this dark side telling you.
There is tremendous benefit in facing fear rather than running from it.
You will gain a confidence no one can ever take from you.
You will be a guiding force for yourself and for others to emulate.
There is so much strength in you that you don’t take credit for.
Do it now. See fear for what it really is. Lies. Don’t believe the lies. Don’t believe you can’t do something.
There is nothing that cannot be solved. You are more powerful than any trouble. Use your own power.
You can do it. Believe in yourself and do it now.
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FEEL FREE - just sharing what moves through me
Slow down, stitch and enjoy the creative process
...making the business of marketing and licensing for creators understandable, achievable and affordable.
My art, writing and mental health stuff. Hope it helps.
The latest news on WordPress.com and the WordPress community.
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All things holly, jolly, and odd-ly...
A journey to healing from complex trauma.
NO SECRETS-NO SIDES | निर्गुह्य-निष्पक्ष | NIRGUHYA-NISPAKSA
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