There is one voice in your head which is the one that is constantly chatting, has racing thoughts and is fatality minded. It’s the voice that can send you from the highest hopes to the deepest despair. The voice in your head will automatically default to what is negative. Especially when things are going good.
But it is not you.
There is another voice in your head that is barely audible. It is drowned out by the chatting and racing thoughts etc. We can’t hear it because we don’t listen for it. This is the real you.
How can we observe what we are thinking to get clarity?
Detach from your thoughts and feelings and observe them. Thoughts are like waves in an ocean. Waves rise, crest and crash on the shore. Let your thoughts rise but don’t react to them. Let them crest observing them. Let them crash out of your consciousness. Let them go without judgement.
Then relax. Take a breath.
In the action of daily activities this may not be possible. There are ways of carving out time for getting in touch with the quiet voice.
Meditate, go for a walk, exercise, do art, write, do something that is not part of your regular routine.
You will know that you are making progress when you feel at peace.