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Thoughful Thursdays #53 Unconditional Love
I regularly read “positivethoughtsforyou.com and today Mr. Stephen Levine wrote about unconditional love. Here’s an excerpt:
“When we say love we usually mean some emotion, some deep feeling for an object or person, that momentarily allows us to open to another. But in such emotional love, self-protection is never very far away. Still there is “business” to the relationship: clouds of jealousy, possessiveness, guilt, intentional and unintentional manipulation, separateness, and the shadow of all previous “loves” darkens the light of oneness.
But what I mean by love is not an emotion, it is a state of being. True love has no object. Many speak of their unconditional love for another. Unconditional love is the experience of being; there is no “I” and “other,” and anyone or anything it touches is experienced in love. You cannot unconditionally love someone. You can only be unconditional love. It is not a dualistic emotion. It is a sense of oneness with all that is. The experience of love arises when we surrender our separateness into the universal. It is a feeling of unity. You don’t love another, you are another. There is no fear because there is no separation”.
My understanding of this is if we feel love on an emotional level there are conditions, desires, expectations. With conditions, desires and expectations there is the risk of squeezing the life out of relationships.
When we have unconditional love it is not a feeling but a state of mind of openness and accepting everything as it is. No conditions no desires no expectations create unlimited possibilities in relationships.
That works for me.
How about you?
Rejection
Once you feel you are avoided by someone
Never disturb them again.
beautytips4you.com
People can be really strange sometimes. In my experience most of the time people are wrapped up in their own thoughts and lives. It’s OK, give them their space and move forward in your own life. Refuse to be treated poorly. Sometimes you can care deeply about others but keep your distance.
Withholding Information
What people don’t say is just as important as what they do say.
g.piazza
When someone is not willing to be transparent in a relationship it can make my mind race with what might be. I come to all kinds of apocalypse meanings of the situation.
Actually I need to mind my own business because what I need to know is eventually revealed.
I trust myself enough to listen to my hunches. Have patience. Everything I want is coming in it’s right time.
Thoughful Thursdays #52 Resistance
Steven Pressfield is one of my favorite writing idols. He writes about resistance all the time and is incredibly insightful. Resistance is something I struggle with all the time.
I will paraphrase his discussion with Rabbi Finley and resistance. Rabbi Finley said: “There is a second self inside you-an inner shadow Self. This self doesn’t care about you. It doesn’t love you. It has its own agenda, and it will kill you. It will kill you like cancer. It will kill you to achieve its agenda, which is to prevent you from actualizing your Self, from becoming who you really are. This shadow self is called, in the Kabbalistic lexicon, the yetzer hara. The yetzer hara, is what you call Resistance.”
Well said Rabbi. 100 % true.
This leads me to the Buddha. As he sat under the Bodhi tree and was confronted by Mara and his army. Mara represents denial, fear and distraction. His demons are violent and wicked. The Buddha used his noodle to figure out that Mara and his demons are nothing but a distraction to us. Mara goes out of his way to distract us from our true path, just like he did to the Buddha. Mara’s the king of thoughts and situations that create fear and resistance. The Buddha found a way to transcend his own denial of what is important and what is not. Being in denial of all there is in your life is the ultimate in resistance. The Buddha recognized this in his enlightenment.
What are your Mara’s? Is it addictions, distraction, negative patterns, denial? Is it violence in thoughts, words and deeds?
What is your yetzer hara? Is it illness, sadness, inability to focus?
The list of negatives is endless. So what is the answer? How do we recognize resistance especially if you don’t have a ton of time to meditate or devote your life to a religion?
Keep looking for those pesky negative incognito signs in your thoughts, words and actions that are holding you back. Chances are whatever you are afraid of or avoiding is resistance.
Wake up into your own awareness. Make Self Care important, a priority.
Yes you are that important.
Truth
Don’t depend on anyone in this world.
Even your shadow leaves you when
you’re in darkness.
beautytips4her.com
Dr. Christiane Northrup
Thoughts are an important part of your
inner wisdom – and they are very
powerful.
A thought held long enough and
repeated often enough becomes a belief.
A belief then becomes your biology.
Dr. Christaine Northrup
Journey Through Oblivion – Chris Anselm Mattessich
“In the world of Darkness, to Loose is to Find, and to Find is to Loose. To Remember that Pure Light is found in the Depths of Shadow, and that with out Darkness There Is No Light. For Within this World there must Always Be a Balance. To Find Yourself is to Loose Sumtin Dear To You..and to Find what is Dear to you, it’s easy To Loose Yourself. Always Keep the Light within your Heart Close..And the Darkness that Cradles it Even Closer..The Further u walk into the Realm of Shadow..The Brighter the Light in Your Heart Shines to Show You The Way”
-CMattessich
Heraclitus
The Only Constant Is Change
Heraclitus
Discernment
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Discernment
“Discernment is about learning to separate truth from lies, illusion from reality, fantasy from facts. It is about learning the difference between: emotional truth and Spiritual truth; emotional impulse and intuitive guidance, being victimized and feeling like a victim. It is about recognizing the difference between a person that can be trusted and one who will betray us – between a soul connection and an emotional attraction to a person who is emotionally unavailable.”
Robert Barney