From Pema Chrodon
Death is Certain
The hour of Death is not Certain
Pick what is Important
May3
Tag Archives: Your Life’s Work
May2
Uncertainity
There is a huge amount of uncertainty in living.
In a moment your life can change for better or worse.
Sometimes there are situations beyond our control.
Uncontrollable situations arise out of nowhere sending us into despair.
Even if the situation is painful,
space is being made for something better.
Space is being made for insight, intuition and understanding.
Go gently.
Align yourself with what is important to you.
You will find your way.
May1
Fear
The places that scare you are not meant to hurt you.
Fear is meant to get your attention.
For example, worry and procrastination are forms of fear. Find a way to detach from the worry and procrastination. Detach emotionally, be an observer.
In that place you will find the lie that you are not good enough.
Don’t believe lies because they come from fear.
Face the fear and move in any direction that will help you be the person you are most happy to be.
Apr30
Thoughtful Thursdays #91 Arguing With Yourself
Are you unhappy with what is happening at the moment or events that have happened in the past?
That is arguing with yourself.
Frustrated and overreacting with everyday dramas?
That is arguing with yourself.
Are you over thinking, feeling stuck and have racing thoughts?
That is arguing with yourself.
Worried, fearful, stinking thinking?
That is arguing with yourself.
The antidote:
Accept what is going on right now without judgement.
There really is nothing in your current circumstances
that can stop you from making the changes you need to make to be happy.
Stop arguing with yourself.
Apr16
Thoughtful Thursdays # 90 – The Voices In Your Head
There is one voice in your head which is the one that is constantly chatting, has racing thoughts and is fatality minded. It’s the voice that can send you from the highest hopes to the deepest despair. The voice in your head will automatically default to what is negative. Especially when things are going good.
But it is not you.
There is another voice in your head that is barely audible. It is drowned out by the chatting and racing thoughts etc. We can’t hear it because we don’t listen for it. This is the real you.
How can we observe what we are thinking to get clarity?
Detach from your thoughts and feelings and observe them. Thoughts are like waves in an ocean. Waves rise, crest and crash on the shore. Let your thoughts rise but don’t react to them. Let them crest observing them. Let them crash out of your consciousness. Let them go without judgement.
Then relax. Take a breath.
In the action of daily activities this may not be possible. There are ways of carving out time for getting in touch with the quiet voice.
Meditate, go for a walk, exercise, do art, write, do something that is not part of your regular routine.
You will know that you are making progress when you feel at peace.
Happy Listening!
Apr9
Thoughtful Thursdays # 89 Commitment
What is commitment?
Dedication to a cause. It is loyalty, devotion, a promise, a pledge, an action that transform something into reality.
We can commit to pay our bills on time.
We can promise to be faithful to someone.
We can pledge to self-improvement.
So why is it so hard to transform our actions into a realistic outcome?
Because we don’t commit with our whole being. Commitment requires a certain amount of fearlessness and being uncomfortable with change. So how do we start?
Slowly, very slowly because with small changes, tiny choices one by one eventually become the commitment to change anything for the better.
Apr2
Thoughtful Thursdays # 88 – Sit With It
I had a very interesting experience this week. I was extremely emotional. I had racing thoughts and crying outbursts. This experience was brought on by a series of events that tapped into my fears.
I remembered Pema Chodron’s suggestion. Sit with it. Sit with the feelings that are troubling you without picking up food, a drink, or any other distraction.
I did sit with the feelings and it hurt really bad. I wanted to run away, disappear, die, dive into a pie and surf the web, cry and throw up.
But I didn’t. The troubling feelings lasted about three days.
The fear I was feeling was from a past trauma. Each event reminiscent of the trauma flashed before my mind and it all made sense. All the times I ran away from feeling the fear, all the times I distracted my self, all the times I made excuses, basically to protect myself.
The fear left because I faced it. My feelings are still raw but the intensity of the fear on a scale of one to ten is a one.
Next time you are emotionally out of control, depressed, sad or troubled. Just sit with it. Don’t run away. Feel everything.
You will expand your understanding of how you operate. From understanding and knowledge about yourself changes your entire life for the better. That’s a guarantee.
Happy exploring.
OM
Mar29
Waking Up
Waking up to who we are is too important to ignore.
In Buddhism and psychology there is a method of healing that is easy in theory but difficult to do, unless you have trust.
I recently had some recurring flashbacks from the past. These feelings were a mystery that I have had since I was a child. My body felt like it was stinging. My mind was racing with desperation and longing, unidentifiable restlessness. I couldn’t put my finger on it. It was such a familiar feeling full of pain, hot tears and wanting an end to the pain.
I got still and trusted myself enough to be quiet and detached.
I let my mind go to that dark place where these feelings began and I had a revelation that the feelings I relived were of abandonment. On a gut level I knew I was revisiting trauma from the past in what seems to be many years ago and almost an eternity ago. The memories flooded my mind. All the poor decisions based on my abandonment issues saturated my being. I understood how abandonment effected me. How abandonment was pervasive. I was not sad, just relived. I was fortunate enough to trust myself to sit with the feelings without running away from them.
Not running away from my feelings was the perfect way to get through the things that were holding me back on a very deep level.
Conclusion: Trust your mind it knows what it needs to heal.
Mar26
Thoughtful Thursdays # 87 – Feeling Invisible
Ever notice a time you felt invisible in a crowd? People talk over you as if you don’t exist. Your opinion doesn’t matter.
Here’s some reasons why…..
1. You want to be part of the crowd but you really don’t like the crowd.
2. You try new things but only partially, not with your full heart.
3. You don’t realize how much you have to contribute to the world.
4. You are resisting the changes you need to make to be social.
Stop waiting for others.
Organize that road trip.
Make those phone calls.
Visit others even you are resisting.
Stop resisting our own life.
Start here and now with one small step.
It’s so much more fun to be with others than to be alone.
Even if it feels strange at first.
Mar21
Music Is Healing
There is a ton of information out there about how the power of music is healing. Music has had a healing effect on me too. When I started meditation I listened to groups like Bliss and Carmen Warringtons meditation music. My favorite listening music is Jazz. Each has it’s place and I have been touched and healed by music in amazing ways.
Here’s my take in the subject.
1. Rythum is primal. The beat of a drum can be hypnotic or wild. Depending on the movement emotions can be intense or calm.
2.Tone is the rate of vibration of a sound. Tone has an effect physically and psychological effect on our being. Tone has the invisable effect that words can’t touch.
3. Melody is a group of notes put together to form a score. A melody can produce emotions, inspire imagination , bring up urges, effect our bodies and its functions.
Everyone listens to music and is influenced by it.
What most people don’t realize is that music touchs a higher level consciousness that is beyond worldly concerns.
It’s the times when you hear a song or hear lyrics that resonate in a place in your being that has no words. You could feel elation or serious sadness, love, empowerment, peace or centeredness.
Music has been called forth to be the language of the gods. It’s the language of the heavens and the universal language of the earth.
Musical sound is on the level of thoughts. Incognito but felt. Sound is the bases of the universe. There is sound everywhere whether you are conscious of it or not.
You have a choice to pay attention or ignore what sounds are effecting you.
In the store, in your place of worship, dance, in nature, on a seaside, on your radio, anywhere. Classical, Jazz, Tribal, Popular, Ethnic and many more.
Music is there just listen.
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