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Aristotle

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We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
– Aristotle

Healing the Past

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HEALING THE PAST

Until we are willing to go back down into our painful feelings that were buried in childhood, retrieve them, allow them, and somehow encourage their natural release, no amount of yoga, meditation, spiritual quotes or vows to awaken will truly heal us. As a culture, we are so pain-phobic that we will do almost anything, go to any lengths to avoid feeling and dealing with emotional pain. We are not taught how to simply be with our feelings, and how natural they are. We are socialized to be ‘good’ and feelings get in the way of that.

And we have it all wrong. It’s not the pain that might just kill us…it’s the devotion to NOT feeling the pain that harms us the most. The trapped, stuck pain that then gets passed along in unconscious, out-of-our-control ways can destroy relationships, dreams of success, our inner peace, our physical health, and our belief in the goodness of life. Passing along the emotional energy in this unconscious way can become a lifestyle that baffles us, frustrates us, and keeps us in ongoing, painful patterns of interaction which we can’t even claim as our own. In fact, we often feel victimized by these dysfunctional patterns.

There are many ways to approach, acknowledge, and allow our pain feelings from the past. There are many ways to allow the child in us permission to feel, and not be shamed or punished for it. There are many ways to safely let these feelings flow naturally, once and for all, and then be released. There are many ways to be real, to be human, and to stop pretending not to feel.

Some of the richest and most fulfilling work I have done in my thirty-five year career as a healer is to help my clients access their Inner Child, and validate his/her feelings and experience. Connecting with and championing your own inner child is one of the most profoundly healing acts you can engage in, and one that will impact you deeply and positively.

As author Tom Robbins says, “It’s never to late to have a happy childhood.”

Give yourself the gift of inviting your Inner Child out of the closet and into the sunshine where you can be together and s/he can feel loved, understood and protected, as every child should.

~Janice Masters, The Shaman Mama

HEALING THE PAST 

Until we are willing to go back down into our painful feelings that were buried in childhood, retrieve them, allow them, and somehow encourage their natural release, no amount of yoga, meditation, spiritual quotes or vows to awaken will truly heal us. As a culture, we are so pain-phobic that we will do almost anything, go to any lengths to avoid feeling and dealing with emotional pain. We are not taught how to simply be with our feelings, and how natural they are. We are socialized to be 'good' and feelings get in the way of that.

And we have it all wrong. It's not the pain that might just kill us...it's the devotion to NOT feeling the pain that harms us the most. The trapped, stuck pain that then gets passed along in unconscious, out-of-our-control ways can destroy relationships, dreams of success, our inner peace, our physical health, and our belief in the goodness of life. Passing along the emotional energy in this unconscious way can become a lifestyle that baffles us, frustrates us, and keeps us in ongoing, painful patterns of interaction which we can't even claim as our own. In fact, we often feel victimized by these dysfunctional patterns.

There are many ways to approach, acknowledge, and allow our pain feelings from the past. There are many ways to allow the child in us permission to feel, and not be shamed or punished for it. There are many ways to safely let these feelings flow naturally, once and for all, and then be released. There are many ways to be real, to be human, and to stop pretending not to feel.

Some of the richest and most fulfilling work I have done in my thirty-five year career as a healer is to help my clients access their Inner Child, and validate his/her feelings and experience. Connecting with and championing your own inner child is one of the most profoundly healing acts you can engage in, and one that will impact you deeply and positively. 

As author Tom Robbins says, "It's never to late to have a happy childhood." 

Give yourself the gift of inviting your Inner Child out of the closet and into the sunshine where you can be together and s/he can feel loved, understood and protected, as every child should. 

~Janice Masters, The Shaman Mama <3
 

Personal Change

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When you do not upset yourself thinking about how others must change and instead you concentrate on your own change, good things start to happen. First, you will feel better about yourself. Second, you will start to have positive feelings towards others and start to understand them. Third, others start having a more positive attitude towards you. There are many hidden benefits in personal change.

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Reaction

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Don’t examine other people’s behavior; examine your reaction to it.

g.piazza

Thoughful Thursday #55

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Finding your path means not to look where you think you should be based on outside standards.

Finding your path means looking for who you are and basing your life on your standards.

Even if it looks strange and un-do-able follow that path and you will arrive at your perfect place where there is joy and fulfillment.

g.piazza

Heraclitus

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:Even a soul submerged in sleep is hard at work and helps make something of the world”.

Heraclitus, Fragments

Abraham – from the Bible

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Abraham, from the Bible, approached his day differently. Every time he met with aggression, every time he met with people that sought to do him harm. every time he ran up against a wall, he would say:

“I accept this situation for what it is, and instead of letting it victimize me, i will transform it into something positive”.

Excerpt from Karen Berg: Daily Consciousness:Finding Spirituality

Maybe we could do the same thing.

Try it.

Questions

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Here are a few questions for you to think about. Questions help you grow and at the very least examine why you make certain choices.

What if I had the opportunity to begin _______ again?

What if I started ending what I did not need anymore?

What if I told the truth to myself and others for a day?

What fear hold me back?

What choices can I change to bring more peace in my life?

Why am I resisting changing what I know has to be change?

Am I making decisions based on outdated beliefs?

Asking questions can be enlightening and uncomfortable but worth the effort. Take your time and write your answers down.

You may be surprised by your perspective.

 

 

The Power of the Dog by Rudyard Kipling

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The Power of the Dog
There is sorrow enough in the natural way
From men and women to fill our day;
And when we are certain of sorrow in store,
Why do we always arrange for more?
Brothers and Sisters, I bid you beware 
Of giving your heart to a dog to tear. 
Buy a pup and your money will buy
Love unflinching that cannot lie–
Perfect passion and worship fed
By a kick in the ribs or a pat on the head.
Nevertheless it is hardly fair 
To risk your heart for a dog to tear. 
When the fourteen years which Nature permits
Are closing in asthma, or tumour, or fits,
And the vet’s unspoken prescription runs
To lethal chambers or loaded guns,
Then you will find–it’s your own affair– 
But … you’ve given your heart to a dog to tear. 
When the body that lived at your single will,
With its whimper of welcome, is stilled (how still!).
When the spirit that answered your every mood
Is gone–wherever it goes–for good,
You will discover how much you care, 
And will give your heart to a dog to tear. 
We’ve sorrow enough in the natural way,
When it comes to burying Christian clay.
Our loves are not given, but only lent,
At compound interest of cent per cent.
Though it is not always the case, I believe,
That the longer we’ve kept ’em, the more do we grieve:
For, when debts are payable, right or wrong,
A short-time loan is as bad as a long–
So why in–Heaven (before we are there) 
Should we give our hearts to a dog to tear?

Truth

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The truth hurts,

The truth heals.

I read that somewhere and it brought to mind how I would much rather be hurt by the truth than hurt by a lie.

When you know the truth you can move on. Lies only keep an untruth alive and the truth comes out anyway.

Please tell me the truth. I can handle it.