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Sep14

Affirmations #6 Faith

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FAITH:

I have faith in myself.
I have faith in the universe.
I have faith in doing the right thing.
I have faith in my abilities.

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Here are several affirmations today. Write each one 10 times, say them many times during the day and before bedtime. And try saying them in front of the mirror.

Sep13

Affirmation #5 Confidence

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I have confidence in my ability to do whatever I set my mind to.

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Write this affirmation 10 times. Say it many times through the day especially in the morning and at bedtime.

Sep9

Affirmation #1 Change

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“I am willing to change”
Louise Hay

Write it 10 times and repeat it as much as you can during the day and before bedtime.

Sep9

Affirmations

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I have read Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life” at least four times in the past and the affirmation thing never really impressed me. I realize it didn’t impress me because I wasn’t ready for it.

Lately my life is not going well personally, financially and almost every other way. It’s been like this for a long time.

I am constantly fitful with worry which is most of the time. Of course nothing changed because of the constant worrying.

After tremendous frustration and deeply analyzing the situation I started reading Pema Chodron’s book “When Things Fall Apart” which is an excellent book about change based on Buddhism. When I returned Pema Chodron’s book to the library I strolled over to the self help section and picked up Louise Hay’s book to give it another try.

I think because I was so desperate with frustration for answers and guidance that I became willing to try anything including affirmations.

Half believing what I reading was true I said the simplest affirmation. “I accept myself just as I am”. As Louise instructed my ego was fighting me for control of my thoughts. I was scared I’d go crazy. But I persisted. Again and again I said the same affirmation. It took one day for me to feel something shift. A tiny light feeling that my worrying was lifting.I was ready and willing to try to change.

In the past I have searched for peace of mind and a purposeful life. Since I am an avid reader I have tried many traditional and new age information for answers to my life’s many questions. Each new thing I tried worked for a time then no longer filled my original purpose. So I moved on searching again for what was next.

In my recent frustration finding Louise Hay’s book is my new avenue for moving my life forward because as I practice affirmations I feel so much better. Here’s why, I didn’t realize it but I have a problem with constant negative self talk. When I realized what I was doing it made perfect sense. Yes, I was hurting myself first.

Affirmations replace negative self talk with positive self talk. It was not easy to change my negative self talk to positive but as I have persisted I am changing for the better. I am losing a lot of fear and self doubt. I am trying to be more outgoing and courageous in every day things like looking strangers in the eye instead of lowering my eyes to the floor. I am calmer. I know all is working out for my highest good. Affirmations is the original “The Secret” and “The Law of Attraction”.

I am having so much success with affirmations that I am posting one affirmation every day for 30 days. Please give it a try. Say the affirmation as many times as possible silently or out loud or in a mirror. Or try writing it ten times.

Just try. You won’t be disappointed. Affirmation #1 will be in the next post.

Sep5

Thoughtful Thursdays #32 Change

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What does it take to change? Your mind that is. Why is it so hard to change your Mind? There are tons of information on the internet and in books on the subject. And it’s one of the questions that has literally plagued mankind for centuries.

Change is hard. Sometimes.

The simple answers is we are hard wired to stay safe, be obedient and compliant because societies need this type of cooperation in order to survive It is also much easier to go with the crowd because it is truly nerve wracking to be who you truly are. There is nothing wrong with staying safe but it’s a hindrance to personal growth.

There is a nagging voice in us that says what is really important for our growth. Most of the time the voice is really quiet so we miss it. But it is always there. Our loud mouth egos are always yelling at us for some reason or another. The loud ego flits from one thing to another. Whatever is holding its interest is the mode of the moment. When we listen to the ego and we get into trouble is the moment we can step back and listen once more to the quiet voice.

Here is where effective change can take place. its not easy to change and changing always involves small steps. Sometimes there are moments of sweeping change but this is rare. In the small steps is where we make the most progress.

Try this, instead of listening to the loud chatter, Tell it to stop and replace the chatter with positive thought.

For example, a sneaky little negative thought popped into your head and you are feeling stuck and overwhelmed. Don’t fret.

Don’t listen to it. Replace the negative thought with a positive one. It won’t work the first few times but repeat a positive thought again and again. Eventually your mind will cooperate with you and your life will change for the better.

Happy changing.

Aug22

Thoughtful Thursdays #30

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Everything starts with a thought.

Ever notice when you are upset with something your thinking is out of control. You find yourself spiraling down an abyss of negativity and can’t pull out of it. You feel angry, helpless, hopeless and unable to focus. The obsessive thinking starts and before you know it you are drained and unhappy.

There’s good news and only good news. These are only thoughts and thoughts can be changed. You are the power and authority in your world and at anytime you can change your mind.

I know you are not convinced because your ego is addicted to the drama of the situation.
Try this; based on the Queen of Affirmations philosophy of Ms. Louse Hay, her belief and mine, are that staying focused on what is positive will bring the best results.

Here are some affirmations. Write them 10 times each, your mind with fight you but you are the boss not your mind. In a short time you will calm down and feel better.

I open new doors to life.

I always have a choice.

I am worthy of all good.

I release all tension, I release all anger and I release all resistance.

I forgive all past experiences.

I love and accept myself.

These are just a few positive affirmations; there are tons of affirmations in books and on the Internet. Find some that resonate for you and use them.

So,

What Are You Thinking?

Aug19

How To Survive Getting Dumped

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Bam. Wait, what just happened? You find yourself being dumped and at first it’s impossible to believe. Your feelings are raw; it’s draining and painful. The tears don’t stop. The questions are endless. How did this happen? Whose fault is this? Did I miss something? Hold on a minute. Take a breath and read the following.

Relationships end for many reasons, it might be fear of intimacy, feeling vulnerable, don’t love the partner enough, using you for their own selfish reasons, or have other plans where you don’t fit into. There may be a need to step back, be objective and get clarity. Perhaps the relationship has lived out its usefulness.

The good news is that at some time or another everyone gets dumped. You will get over it. Here are a few practical steps to help you move on.

1. Don’t think you will never find love again – do you have a crystal ball?
2. Sit with and don’t react to the broken heart feelings – they will pass.
3. Talk it out with friends or a professional.
4. Even if you still like your ex do your best to cut all ties and move on otherwise you make a fool of yourself and continue to be used.
5. Insist on no more contact. That includes you, ex and the ex friends and family.
6. No stalking your ex in any way. Un-friend where necessary.
7. Give up being confused. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
8. Distract your obsessive thoughts with keeping busy, connecting with friends, cooking, working, writing, exercising, and conversations with your higher power.
9. Be very good to yourself. Do things you enjoy for a change.
10. Read or YouTube self-improvement and personal growth literature.
11. Watch funny movies, refuse to watch or read anything negative for a while. Especially those police shows that focus on extremely destructive relationships.
12. Find stuff to laugh at and lighten up. Stop all the seriousness.

It is definitely not the end of the world. Within a short time the painful feelings with start to go away. That’s guaranteed. You will move on and be free to find a terrific new relationship. Perhaps this time you will do the dumping. Just kidding.

So pick your self up, dust your self off and move up to better, healthier and supremely more satisfying relationships. Finally.

Aug15

Thoughful Thursdays #29

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Are you a hostage to fear?

Some of the tell tale signs are procrastination, not speaking up, uncomfortable with change, don’t’ trust, I’m not good enough. The list goes on and on.

Fear is the biggest bubble where resistance lives. It’s fear of the unknown.

The cure: be willing to change the way you think. For example, faced with the unknown notice the feelings in your body and mind. Challenge any negative thoughts. Don’t make quick decisions. Wait and calm down first.

Muster up your self worth and the doors will fly open.

Happy flying.

Aug8

Thoughtful Thursdays #28

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e.e. cummings said: “To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting”.

When I read this it was almost too much to bear because it was true. It is a fundamental truth that no one talks about or even realizes till it’s almost too late. The truth is that society has set up rules so that if you don’t follow a particular like-minded tribe you will be lost and alone to the point of death. This mentality comes from the ancient survival mechanism in our brains that looks for safety. And it’s also has a clear undercurrent of power and control of a group under the guise of safety. I don’t know about you but I have been a loaner most of my life and I know that lost and empty feeling of not fitting in. I fooled myself for a long time with relationships, jobs, incredible ideas, trusting those I should not have and fabulous fashions but they all faded. The only thing left is me. Warts and all.

I have had sweeping changes and disappointments galore and guess what, I have survived. I still stand-alone and I enjoy being alone as much as I enjoy company.

Society has its own truths. I would never give up my truth to be myself. No matter what.

Be forewarned that acting true to yourself brings lots of jealousy and criticism. It’s a small price to pay for your own happiness. Be content and improve yourself regardless of what others think.

It will take a great deal of courage but you can do it. When there’s opposition, express it by doing something creative. Writing, painting, running what ever makes you happy.

Is this selfish, you may ask. No, because how can you be functional and productive when you have that feeling of uneasy boredom, are unhappy and living by habit?

No one can do your life the way you do so be proud of you and your life.

Aug6

10 Wishes

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Wishes may seem frivolous and childish but I tend to disagree.

Here’s why. Wishes are meaningful to the one making the wish. The wish could be for something good or something bad. They may happen or may not. I think that the good wishes have a really good chance of coming true especially if you send the wish to someone else. And thank our lucky stars that the last time you wished someone dead it didn’t happen.

So here are my 10 Wishes for you:

I wish you clarity of mind so you know clearly what you want.

I wish you good fortune so you can help yourself and others.

I wish you acceptance in your universe so you can accept others.

I wish you peace of mind for the next time you are challenged.

I wish your deepest desire to come true and I don’t mean money.

I wish you friendship and kindness so you can be a friend and kind.

I wish you a virtuous life so you can be a good example.

I wish you knowledge of yourself so you can understand others.

I wish you connection to others so others can connect with you.

I wish you open doors so you can open them to others.

Funny thing about wishes. When you send them out with goodness they will come true.

What are your 10 wishes?