There is a huge amount of uncertainty in living.
In a moment your life can change for better or worse.
Sometimes there are situations beyond our control.
Uncontrollable situations arise out of nowhere sending us into despair.
Even if the situation is painful,
space is being made for something better.
Space is being made for insight, intuition and understanding.
Go gently.
Align yourself with what is important to you.
You will find your way.
The places that scare you are not meant to hurt you.
Fear is meant to get your attention.
For example, worry and procrastination are forms of fear. Find a way to detach from the worry and procrastination. Detach emotionally, be an observer.
In that place you will find the lie that you are not good enough.
Don’t believe lies because they come from fear.
Face the fear and move in any direction that will help you be the person you are most happy to be.
Are you unhappy with what is happening at the moment or events that have happened in the past?
That is arguing with yourself.
Frustrated and overreacting with everyday dramas?
That is arguing with yourself.
Are you over thinking, feeling stuck and have racing thoughts?
That is arguing with yourself.
Worried, fearful, stinking thinking?
That is arguing with yourself.
The antidote:
Accept what is going on right now without judgement.
There really is nothing in your current circumstances
that can stop you from making the changes you need to make to be happy.
Stop arguing with yourself.
Started out innocent enough. A writer friend was going on vacation, could I cover his blog while he was gone? A blog? WTF is a blog? He showed me the ropes:
Back then you needed a handle, a blogger’s name, an avatar. Because you know, back then we didn’t use our actual names. Privacy and all that, right? So for lack of a better idea I went with Writer Chick (who knew it would stick?).
So….I blogged for him. I wrote about whatever came into my head. My first post was called Cream Boogers. Surprisingly, people liked it.
After a week of this, I kinda got the blogging bug. So when he came back I started my own blog. I was scared. It was weird. I mean, who’d want to…
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There is one voice in your head which is the one that is constantly chatting, has racing thoughts and is fatality minded. It’s the voice that can send you from the highest hopes to the deepest despair. The voice in your head will automatically default to what is negative. Especially when things are going good.
But it is not you.
There is another voice in your head that is barely audible. It is drowned out by the chatting and racing thoughts etc. We can’t hear it because we don’t listen for it. This is the real you.
How can we observe what we are thinking to get clarity?
Detach from your thoughts and feelings and observe them. Thoughts are like waves in an ocean. Waves rise, crest and crash on the shore. Let your thoughts rise but don’t react to them. Let them crest observing them. Let them crash out of your consciousness. Let them go without judgement.
Then relax. Take a breath.
In the action of daily activities this may not be possible. There are ways of carving out time for getting in touch with the quiet voice.
Meditate, go for a walk, exercise, do art, write, do something that is not part of your regular routine.
You will know that you are making progress when you feel at peace.
Happy Listening!
What is commitment?
Dedication to a cause. It is loyalty, devotion, a promise, a pledge, an action that transform something into reality.
We can commit to pay our bills on time.
We can promise to be faithful to someone.
We can pledge to self-improvement.
So why is it so hard to transform our actions into a realistic outcome?
Because we don’t commit with our whole being. Commitment requires a certain amount of fearlessness and being uncomfortable with change. So how do we start?
Slowly, very slowly because with small changes, tiny choices one by one eventually become the commitment to change anything for the better.
A large percentage of people who’ve implemented No Contact with their Narcissistic partner will inevitably ask this question. Why? Because they are often consumed with missing the Narcissist, and they wonder if he or she has the same feelings of loss and sorrow…perhaps wondering if there’s a chance to rekindle the relationship.
The short answer is no. When we wonder if the Narcissist misses us, we are projecting our loving, caring feelings onto them. The important thing to remember is that Narcissists do not think the way we do, nor experience the same emotions. They operate solely from ego, so the usual emotions of missing someone or feelings of sadness and regret typically don’t affect them. Below are the most common stages (emotional and physical) a Narcissist goes through when one has implemented No Contact (**These are not listed in order of rank. These stages are for reference and can manifest…
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I had a very interesting experience this week. I was extremely emotional. I had racing thoughts and crying outbursts. This experience was brought on by a series of events that tapped into my fears.
I remembered Pema Chodron’s suggestion. Sit with it. Sit with the feelings that are troubling you without picking up food, a drink, or any other distraction.
I did sit with the feelings and it hurt really bad. I wanted to run away, disappear, die, dive into a pie and surf the web, cry and throw up.
But I didn’t. The troubling feelings lasted about three days.
The fear I was feeling was from a past trauma. Each event reminiscent of the trauma flashed before my mind and it all made sense. All the times I ran away from feeling the fear, all the times I distracted my self, all the times I made excuses, basically to protect myself.
The fear left because I faced it. My feelings are still raw but the intensity of the fear on a scale of one to ten is a one.
Next time you are emotionally out of control, depressed, sad or troubled. Just sit with it. Don’t run away. Feel everything.
You will expand your understanding of how you operate. From understanding and knowledge about yourself changes your entire life for the better. That’s a guarantee.
Happy exploring.
OM
Waking up to who we are is too important to ignore.
In Buddhism and psychology there is a method of healing that is easy in theory but difficult to do, unless you have trust.
I recently had some recurring flashbacks from the past. These feelings were a mystery that I have had since I was a child. My body felt like it was stinging. My mind was racing with desperation and longing, unidentifiable restlessness. I couldn’t put my finger on it. It was such a familiar feeling full of pain, hot tears and wanting an end to the pain.
I got still and trusted myself enough to be quiet and detached.
I let my mind go to that dark place where these feelings began and I had a revelation that the feelings I relived were of abandonment. On a gut level I knew I was revisiting trauma from the past in what seems to be many years ago and almost an eternity ago. The memories flooded my mind. All the poor decisions based on my abandonment issues saturated my being. I understood how abandonment effected me. How abandonment was pervasive. I was not sad, just relived. I was fortunate enough to trust myself to sit with the feelings without running away from them.
Not running away from my feelings was the perfect way to get through the things that were holding me back on a very deep level.
Conclusion: Trust your mind it knows what it needs to heal.
Ever notice a time you felt invisible in a crowd? People talk over you as if you don’t exist. Your opinion doesn’t matter.
Here’s some reasons why…..
1. You want to be part of the crowd but you really don’t like the crowd.
2. You try new things but only partially, not with your full heart.
3. You don’t realize how much you have to contribute to the world.
4. You are resisting the changes you need to make to be social.
Stop waiting for others.
Organize that road trip.
Make those phone calls.
Visit others even you are resisting.
Stop resisting our own life.
Start here and now with one small step.
It’s so much more fun to be with others than to be alone.
Even if it feels strange at first.
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FEEL FREE - just sharing what moves through me
Slow down, stitch and enjoy the creative process
...making the business of marketing and licensing for creators understandable, achievable and affordable.
My art, writing and mental health stuff. Hope it helps.
The latest news on WordPress.com and the WordPress community.
WEE FOLK STUDIO
All things holly, jolly, and odd-ly...
A journey to healing from complex trauma.
NO SECRETS-NO SIDES | निर्गुह्य-निष्पक्ष | NIRGUHYA-NISPAKSA
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