Category Archives: Resistance

Sep23

Affirmations #14 Self Esteem

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I love and accept myself unconditionally.

I approve of myself and feel great about myself.

I radiate love and respect and in return I get love and respect.

I am a well loved and well respected person.

I am a cultured and wise and yet, a humble person.

My high self esteem enables me to respect others and beget respect in turn.

I am free to make my own choices and decisions.

Self Esteem is fundamental to helping you grow. Write these 10 times each, say them many times during the day especially in the morning and bedtime and don’t forget the mirror.

Sep21

Affirmations # 13 Releasing the Past

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I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I forgive you and I set you free.

Louise Hay

Forgiving releases you by ending your attachment to the past. Stop burdening yourself with the emotional pain of the past. The past is over and there is nothing to change that. Stop scaring yourself with your thoughts. The past has no power of you unless you go over and over it. Gain peace so you can move forward.

Write this 10 times, say many times during the day especially in the morning and at bedtime and in front of a mirror.

Sep16

Affirmations #8 Resistance to Change

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I am in the rhythm and flow of ever-changing life.
I am willing to change.
I am willing to release the need for this condition.
I accept myself just the way I am.

Louise Hay

Write these affirmations 10 times each. Say them many times especially in the morning and ad bedtime. Say them in front of a mirror.

Hope it’s helping. Feel free to rearrange the words.

Sep9

Affirmations

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I have read Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life” at least four times in the past and the affirmation thing never really impressed me. I realize it didn’t impress me because I wasn’t ready for it.

Lately my life is not going well personally, financially and almost every other way. It’s been like this for a long time.

I am constantly fitful with worry which is most of the time. Of course nothing changed because of the constant worrying.

After tremendous frustration and deeply analyzing the situation I started reading Pema Chodron’s book “When Things Fall Apart” which is an excellent book about change based on Buddhism. When I returned Pema Chodron’s book to the library I strolled over to the self help section and picked up Louise Hay’s book to give it another try.

I think because I was so desperate with frustration for answers and guidance that I became willing to try anything including affirmations.

Half believing what I reading was true I said the simplest affirmation. “I accept myself just as I am”. As Louise instructed my ego was fighting me for control of my thoughts. I was scared I’d go crazy. But I persisted. Again and again I said the same affirmation. It took one day for me to feel something shift. A tiny light feeling that my worrying was lifting.I was ready and willing to try to change.

In the past I have searched for peace of mind and a purposeful life. Since I am an avid reader I have tried many traditional and new age information for answers to my life’s many questions. Each new thing I tried worked for a time then no longer filled my original purpose. So I moved on searching again for what was next.

In my recent frustration finding Louise Hay’s book is my new avenue for moving my life forward because as I practice affirmations I feel so much better. Here’s why, I didn’t realize it but I have a problem with constant negative self talk. When I realized what I was doing it made perfect sense. Yes, I was hurting myself first.

Affirmations replace negative self talk with positive self talk. It was not easy to change my negative self talk to positive but as I have persisted I am changing for the better. I am losing a lot of fear and self doubt. I am trying to be more outgoing and courageous in every day things like looking strangers in the eye instead of lowering my eyes to the floor. I am calmer. I know all is working out for my highest good. Affirmations is the original “The Secret” and “The Law of Attraction”.

I am having so much success with affirmations that I am posting one affirmation every day for 30 days. Please give it a try. Say the affirmation as many times as possible silently or out loud or in a mirror. Or try writing it ten times.

Just try. You won’t be disappointed. Affirmation #1 will be in the next post.

Sep5

Thoughtful Thursdays #32 Change

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What does it take to change? Your mind that is. Why is it so hard to change your Mind? There are tons of information on the internet and in books on the subject. And it’s one of the questions that has literally plagued mankind for centuries.

Change is hard. Sometimes.

The simple answers is we are hard wired to stay safe, be obedient and compliant because societies need this type of cooperation in order to survive It is also much easier to go with the crowd because it is truly nerve wracking to be who you truly are. There is nothing wrong with staying safe but it’s a hindrance to personal growth.

There is a nagging voice in us that says what is really important for our growth. Most of the time the voice is really quiet so we miss it. But it is always there. Our loud mouth egos are always yelling at us for some reason or another. The loud ego flits from one thing to another. Whatever is holding its interest is the mode of the moment. When we listen to the ego and we get into trouble is the moment we can step back and listen once more to the quiet voice.

Here is where effective change can take place. its not easy to change and changing always involves small steps. Sometimes there are moments of sweeping change but this is rare. In the small steps is where we make the most progress.

Try this, instead of listening to the loud chatter, Tell it to stop and replace the chatter with positive thought.

For example, a sneaky little negative thought popped into your head and you are feeling stuck and overwhelmed. Don’t fret.

Don’t listen to it. Replace the negative thought with a positive one. It won’t work the first few times but repeat a positive thought again and again. Eventually your mind will cooperate with you and your life will change for the better.

Happy changing.

Aug19

How To Survive Getting Dumped

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Bam. Wait, what just happened? You find yourself being dumped and at first it’s impossible to believe. Your feelings are raw; it’s draining and painful. The tears don’t stop. The questions are endless. How did this happen? Whose fault is this? Did I miss something? Hold on a minute. Take a breath and read the following.

Relationships end for many reasons, it might be fear of intimacy, feeling vulnerable, don’t love the partner enough, using you for their own selfish reasons, or have other plans where you don’t fit into. There may be a need to step back, be objective and get clarity. Perhaps the relationship has lived out its usefulness.

The good news is that at some time or another everyone gets dumped. You will get over it. Here are a few practical steps to help you move on.

1. Don’t think you will never find love again – do you have a crystal ball?
2. Sit with and don’t react to the broken heart feelings – they will pass.
3. Talk it out with friends or a professional.
4. Even if you still like your ex do your best to cut all ties and move on otherwise you make a fool of yourself and continue to be used.
5. Insist on no more contact. That includes you, ex and the ex friends and family.
6. No stalking your ex in any way. Un-friend where necessary.
7. Give up being confused. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
8. Distract your obsessive thoughts with keeping busy, connecting with friends, cooking, working, writing, exercising, and conversations with your higher power.
9. Be very good to yourself. Do things you enjoy for a change.
10. Read or YouTube self-improvement and personal growth literature.
11. Watch funny movies, refuse to watch or read anything negative for a while. Especially those police shows that focus on extremely destructive relationships.
12. Find stuff to laugh at and lighten up. Stop all the seriousness.

It is definitely not the end of the world. Within a short time the painful feelings with start to go away. That’s guaranteed. You will move on and be free to find a terrific new relationship. Perhaps this time you will do the dumping. Just kidding.

So pick your self up, dust your self off and move up to better, healthier and supremely more satisfying relationships. Finally.

Jul25

Thoughtful Thursdays #26

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I ran across the mention of a Tibetan yogini by the name of Machig Labdron. She lived in Tibet from 1055 CE to 1149 CE.  You can Google her is you want to know more about her fascinating life. She is known for the following 5 sayings. To practice all of them covers just about every aspect of negativity that holds you back. If you practice them you will become brave and confident. Guaranteed.

 1. Confess your hidden thoughts.  (This is not the same as confessing to a priest. It is acknowledging what is bothering you. You can write or tell someone, it’s up to you).

2.Approach what you find repulsive.  (For example, you see a dirty, homeless person and you are repulsed. Try looking at that person instead of ignoring them)

3.Help those you think you cannot help. (For example, speaking to someone who can’t help himself or herself like a struggling addict).

4.Anything you are attached to, give it back. (This means, instead of being so attached to something that it obstructs your life, let it go and trust that if its meant to stay it will).

5.Go to places that scare you. (That job interview, new places, eating alone in a restaurant, speaking up, the cemetery or any place that creeps you out. Not unsafe situations).

 This practice is easier said than done most of the time. Because life has a way of keeping certain issues in front of you time and time again. Those issues will stay there until you face them. These sayings or method of eliminating stressful issues will work if you try them.

 Happy hunting down those pesky stubborn issues that won’t go away and dissolving them.

Nov9

My Diary

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I have been writing in my diary for more than a year. As soon as I get up I write a page or so. I looked over what I have written and it’s the same complaints and worries over and over. When I get up I am to grumpy and sleepy to write well or with clarity.

I have been wrestling with the prospect of writing sometime during the day. Not at night because I am too tired to write and will have the same complaints and worries.

This reminds me of changing habits and how hard it is to change. Even though I know what needs to be changed and the excellent results that will appear from these changes I still resist.

“This is nonsense”, I tell my self. “Stop acting this way”, I say. I beg myself to submit to change for the better. Still resisting I remember how fear never goes away and I should just do what I need to do.

Wow, I learn a lot about myself when I connect to myself. Yeah I’m making progress!!

Aug4

Thoughtful Thursdays #10

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I am reading “The War of Art” by Steven Pressfield. This is the perfect book about Resistance. Which I suffer from always. Actually I was in the same position as Mr. Pressfield, I couldn’t figure out why my creative life was not manifesting itself. I am always involved with routine and mundane tasks. But when the student is ready the teacher appears, hence Mr. Pressfields book.

Resistance is the enemy to any and every creative endeavor attempted. Resistance will assume any form to stop you from being creative and you won’t even know what hit you.
Resistance goes for the jugular and is out for a kill. However, if you fear it then its belly is fed, if you don’t fear it, it dies.

Resistance can be overcome by investing in you. Ignoring distractions and concentrating on you and your work or direction or any creative endeavor. This of course is easier said than done because, as Mr. Pressfield points out and I have experienced, as soon as you start something comes along to thwart your efforts.

But Resistance can be overcome. Don’t be afraid, do the work that needs to be done, and fight resistance to the death. Eventually resistance moves aside. It doesn’t go away but moves aside temporarily waiting for you to weaken in some way. However by this time you know Resistance’s style and it gets easier and easier to step aside Resistance’s games.

So get ready for battle. As noted in the book, have contempt for failure. And claim your life and creativity. I certainly will.

Jun23

Thoughtful Thursdays #8

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It takes an enormous amount of effort to get out of the denial of how we sabotage ourselves. Some sabotage is visible but most is invisible. In psychology it is understood that there is a need to stay unaware of uncomfortable situations. The need to stay unaware has many reasons. I think it’s the lizard mind protecting us. But when denial becomes a pathological blinding force that interferes with progressing in your life it’s time to step back and examine what is going on. Do you feel chronic sadness or feeling you are trying to punch your way out of a paper bag and nothing ever changes?

That is all fear. Fear of anything you can name that frightens you. It’s too hard and scary to see past fear.

Actually if you are not being physically threatened then fear is a paper tiger. It’s only the thought that you experience not an actual event. The mind does not know the difference of a thought or actual event. However the better part of you does know.

Speak up to fear and challenge it. You will see it has no power. How about practicing a little courage. Just a little. Think about what it would be like to have any life you choose. Even that’s scary. So what is one to do.

Pick yourself up, detach from fear and keep going even if you aren’t sure where that is. You will find your way and be happy in the process.

Happy hunting.