I accept myself just the way I am. I am proud of myself.
Louise Hay
Write it 10 times and repeat it as much as you can during the day and before bedtime.
Sep10
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Sep9
Affirmations
I have read Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life” at least four times in the past and the affirmation thing never really impressed me. I realize it didn’t impress me because I wasn’t ready for it.
Lately my life is not going well personally, financially and almost every other way. It’s been like this for a long time.
I am constantly fitful with worry which is most of the time. Of course nothing changed because of the constant worrying.
After tremendous frustration and deeply analyzing the situation I started reading Pema Chodron’s book “When Things Fall Apart” which is an excellent book about change based on Buddhism. When I returned Pema Chodron’s book to the library I strolled over to the self help section and picked up Louise Hay’s book to give it another try.
I think because I was so desperate with frustration for answers and guidance that I became willing to try anything including affirmations.
Half believing what I reading was true I said the simplest affirmation. “I accept myself just as I am”. As Louise instructed my ego was fighting me for control of my thoughts. I was scared I’d go crazy. But I persisted. Again and again I said the same affirmation. It took one day for me to feel something shift. A tiny light feeling that my worrying was lifting.I was ready and willing to try to change.
In the past I have searched for peace of mind and a purposeful life. Since I am an avid reader I have tried many traditional and new age information for answers to my life’s many questions. Each new thing I tried worked for a time then no longer filled my original purpose. So I moved on searching again for what was next.
In my recent frustration finding Louise Hay’s book is my new avenue for moving my life forward because as I practice affirmations I feel so much better. Here’s why, I didn’t realize it but I have a problem with constant negative self talk. When I realized what I was doing it made perfect sense. Yes, I was hurting myself first.
Affirmations replace negative self talk with positive self talk. It was not easy to change my negative self talk to positive but as I have persisted I am changing for the better. I am losing a lot of fear and self doubt. I am trying to be more outgoing and courageous in every day things like looking strangers in the eye instead of lowering my eyes to the floor. I am calmer. I know all is working out for my highest good. Affirmations is the original “The Secret” and “The Law of Attraction”.
I am having so much success with affirmations that I am posting one affirmation every day for 30 days. Please give it a try. Say the affirmation as many times as possible silently or out loud or in a mirror. Or try writing it ten times.
Just try. You won’t be disappointed. Affirmation #1 will be in the next post.
Sep5
Thoughtful Thursdays #32 Change
What does it take to change? Your mind that is. Why is it so hard to change your Mind? There are tons of information on the internet and in books on the subject. And it’s one of the questions that has literally plagued mankind for centuries.
Change is hard. Sometimes.
The simple answers is we are hard wired to stay safe, be obedient and compliant because societies need this type of cooperation in order to survive It is also much easier to go with the crowd because it is truly nerve wracking to be who you truly are. There is nothing wrong with staying safe but it’s a hindrance to personal growth.
There is a nagging voice in us that says what is really important for our growth. Most of the time the voice is really quiet so we miss it. But it is always there. Our loud mouth egos are always yelling at us for some reason or another. The loud ego flits from one thing to another. Whatever is holding its interest is the mode of the moment. When we listen to the ego and we get into trouble is the moment we can step back and listen once more to the quiet voice.
Here is where effective change can take place. its not easy to change and changing always involves small steps. Sometimes there are moments of sweeping change but this is rare. In the small steps is where we make the most progress.
Try this, instead of listening to the loud chatter, Tell it to stop and replace the chatter with positive thought.
For example, a sneaky little negative thought popped into your head and you are feeling stuck and overwhelmed. Don’t fret.
Don’t listen to it. Replace the negative thought with a positive one. It won’t work the first few times but repeat a positive thought again and again. Eventually your mind will cooperate with you and your life will change for the better.
Happy changing.
Aug29
Thoughtful Thursdays #31
As some of you know I have a very big dog. His name is Rocky and he is 133 pounds. This past Sunday night we were at the dog park. There were many dogs there including one that my dog occasionally plays with. The other dog (who is almost as big as mine) likes to dominate my dog. They end up playfully defending themselves until the other dog decided that he had enough and lopped off a quarter size piece of his right ear. Blood was streaming everywhere and I alerted the other dog owner. Initially they were apologetic and offer5ed to pay the vet. Then they wanted me to pay half. The husband and wife owners of this dog at this point started to get nasty and accused my dog of first starting a fight. They knew full well that their dog was the culprit. I threatened them by saying I would report their dog to animal control.
Since it was late on a Sunday we had to find an emergency vet. We found one and the other dog owners said they would pay the entire vet bill. They did not come with me to the vet and when the vet called for payment they refused to pay the sedative portion of the bill. They ended up paying $400 of the vet and I paid $146. These people were conniving, took advantage of me and are irresponsible dog owners.
Part of me wants to get even, the other part of me wants peace. I doubt it they will come to the part again if they see me and my dog there. I could call animal control and make a complaint or I could just let it go.
I have decided to let it go. Getting even is a useless attempt at trying to control the happiness or unhappiness of others and an attempt to relieve my frustration and anger.
I have the right to my frustration and anger. However, I have decided to leave it alone. because just knowing and believing “what goes around comes around” is enough for me. I believe if I act against them it will come back to me and I know their lying will come back to them.
My dog was well taken care of at the vet and very healthy in spite of losing part of his ear. He now has an interesting battle would, a conversation piece and I can go on with a clean conscious.
Can’t wait to get back to the park.
Aug15
Thoughful Thursdays #29
Are you a hostage to fear?
Some of the tell tale signs are procrastination, not speaking up, uncomfortable with change, don’t’ trust, I’m not good enough. The list goes on and on.
Fear is the biggest bubble where resistance lives. It’s fear of the unknown.
The cure: be willing to change the way you think. For example, faced with the unknown notice the feelings in your body and mind. Challenge any negative thoughts. Don’t make quick decisions. Wait and calm down first.
Muster up your self worth and the doors will fly open.
Happy flying.
Aug8
Thoughtful Thursdays #28
e.e. cummings said: “To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting”.
When I read this it was almost too much to bear because it was true. It is a fundamental truth that no one talks about or even realizes till it’s almost too late. The truth is that society has set up rules so that if you don’t follow a particular like-minded tribe you will be lost and alone to the point of death. This mentality comes from the ancient survival mechanism in our brains that looks for safety. And it’s also has a clear undercurrent of power and control of a group under the guise of safety. I don’t know about you but I have been a loaner most of my life and I know that lost and empty feeling of not fitting in. I fooled myself for a long time with relationships, jobs, incredible ideas, trusting those I should not have and fabulous fashions but they all faded. The only thing left is me. Warts and all.
I have had sweeping changes and disappointments galore and guess what, I have survived. I still stand-alone and I enjoy being alone as much as I enjoy company.
Society has its own truths. I would never give up my truth to be myself. No matter what.
Be forewarned that acting true to yourself brings lots of jealousy and criticism. It’s a small price to pay for your own happiness. Be content and improve yourself regardless of what others think.
It will take a great deal of courage but you can do it. When there’s opposition, express it by doing something creative. Writing, painting, running what ever makes you happy.
Is this selfish, you may ask. No, because how can you be functional and productive when you have that feeling of uneasy boredom, are unhappy and living by habit?
No one can do your life the way you do so be proud of you and your life.
Aug6
10 Wishes
Wishes may seem frivolous and childish but I tend to disagree.
Here’s why. Wishes are meaningful to the one making the wish. The wish could be for something good or something bad. They may happen or may not. I think that the good wishes have a really good chance of coming true especially if you send the wish to someone else. And thank our lucky stars that the last time you wished someone dead it didn’t happen.
So here are my 10 Wishes for you:
I wish you clarity of mind so you know clearly what you want.
I wish you good fortune so you can help yourself and others.
I wish you acceptance in your universe so you can accept others.
I wish you peace of mind for the next time you are challenged.
I wish your deepest desire to come true and I don’t mean money.
I wish you friendship and kindness so you can be a friend and kind.
I wish you a virtuous life so you can be a good example.
I wish you knowledge of yourself so you can understand others.
I wish you connection to others so others can connect with you.
I wish you open doors so you can open them to others.
Funny thing about wishes. When you send them out with goodness they will come true.
What are your 10 wishes?
Aug1
Thoughful Thursdays #27
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For a change of perspective instead of writing about what is wrong with your life, write is about what is right
I’m not talking about using the words “grateful and forgiveness” these words are general, popular and not all its cracked up to be.
So here are 20 things to feel LUCKY about:
You are lucky if you woke up. I know it’s obvious but think of the alternative.
You are lucky if you are near children because they are wise if you listen to them.
You are luck because even if you are afraid you can face what you fear.
You are lucky because you can change anything you want to.
You are lucky because you can make your own luck.
You are lucky because it’s an honor to have any positive relationship.
You are lucky because you can delete any negative relationship.
You are lucky because you can find alternatives to get different results.
You are lucky because you can control any part of your life.
You are lucky because you can change direction.
You are lucky because you have your own path to walk.
You are lucky because are unique.
You are lucky because you can go with the flow of life.
You are lucky because bad things happen too and we learn from them.
You are lucky because you are human.
You are lucky because you can choose.
You are lucky because you can make a difference in someone’s life.
You are lucky because you are more powerful that you think you are.
You are lucky because you are smart.
You are lucky because you are wondrous.
Now go into your world with a feeling of real luck. The feeling of confidence and surety, luck will always be there. Just look for it.
Jul25
Thoughtful Thursdays #26
I ran across the mention of a Tibetan yogini by the name of Machig Labdron. She lived in Tibet from 1055 CE to 1149 CE. You can Google her is you want to know more about her fascinating life. She is known for the following 5 sayings. To practice all of them covers just about every aspect of negativity that holds you back. If you practice them you will become brave and confident. Guaranteed.
1. Confess your hidden thoughts. (This is not the same as confessing to a priest. It is acknowledging what is bothering you. You can write or tell someone, it’s up to you).
2.Approach what you find repulsive. (For example, you see a dirty, homeless person and you are repulsed. Try looking at that person instead of ignoring them)
3.Help those you think you cannot help. (For example, speaking to someone who can’t help himself or herself like a struggling addict).
4.Anything you are attached to, give it back. (This means, instead of being so attached to something that it obstructs your life, let it go and trust that if its meant to stay it will).
5.Go to places that scare you. (That job interview, new places, eating alone in a restaurant, speaking up, the cemetery or any place that creeps you out. Not unsafe situations).
This practice is easier said than done most of the time. Because life has a way of keeping certain issues in front of you time and time again. Those issues will stay there until you face them. These sayings or method of eliminating stressful issues will work if you try them.
Happy hunting down those pesky stubborn issues that won’t go away and dissolving them.
Jul18
Thoughful Thursdays #25
The blips on the radar of your life.
In case you don’t know what a blip is here’s the definition I will be using: something small within a larger context.)
Here are some bad blips.
It was the last time you had a difficult time. The time when the difficulty was small. The other time when the difficulty was extra large. The time you lost something or have some setback.
Then there are the good blips.
The accomplishment that made you proud. Something new and shiny caught your attention. The ordinary days where all is smooth.
Now what the “blip” does all this mean?
It takes good blips and bad blips to balance out your life.
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