Boundaries are powerful.
We all have experienced someone whether in our personal lives or work life who just does not know the meaning of personal space and minding their own business. Wasting your precious time and resources. We have to learn skills for handling such situations.
- know when to say yes, know when to say no and mean it. No point in being wishy-washy.
- know that boundaries keep you mentally and emotionally safe.
- know that boundaries are a big part of your well-being.
- physical, intellectual, emotional, sexual, material and time are all subject to boundaries.
There are soft boundaries, rigid boundaries, boundaries somewhere in the middle that are very flexible. We all have a mix of these types of boundaries. A soft boundary may be for a child, a rigid boundary may be for your job, the middle flexible boundary may be for your family. No matter who we interact with boundaries will look different.
You may think setting boundaries is selfish, it is not selfish, boundaries are an important part of healthy mental health and happy well-being. If someone gets upset with you setting a boundary, it’s their problem, not yours, stick to the boundaries that keep you safe.
We must abide by others boundaries too. Boundaries are a two-way street. Boundaries cause us to feel more in control of our lives and that is very important in feeling a whole lot less fearful.
If you are not used to making boundaries then take it slow, a change like this does not happen immediately.
You are worth the effort, keep trying, and figure out a way to set healthy boundaries.