People don’t want to hear
the truth
because
they don’t want their
illusions destroyed.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Mar15
Tag Archives: relationships
Mar15
Suffering
You move totally away
from reality
when you believe that there is
a legitimate reason
to suffer.
Byron Katie – Loving What Is
Mar15
The Power of the Dog by Rudyard Kipling
The Power of the Dog
There is sorrow enough in the natural way
From men and women to fill our day;
And when we are certain of sorrow in store,
Why do we always arrange for more?
Brothers and Sisters, I bid you beware
Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
Buy a pup and your money will buy
Love unflinching that cannot lie–
Perfect passion and worship fed
By a kick in the ribs or a pat on the head.
Nevertheless it is hardly fair
To risk your heart for a dog to tear.
When the fourteen years which Nature permits
Are closing in asthma, or tumour, or fits,
And the vet’s unspoken prescription runs
To lethal chambers or loaded guns,
Then you will find–it’s your own affair–
But … you’ve given your heart to a dog to tear.
When the body that lived at your single will,
With its whimper of welcome, is stilled (how still!).
When the spirit that answered your every mood
Is gone–wherever it goes–for good,
You will discover how much you care,
And will give your heart to a dog to tear.
We’ve sorrow enough in the natural way,
When it comes to burying Christian clay.
Our loves are not given, but only lent,
At compound interest of cent per cent.
Though it is not always the case, I believe,
That the longer we’ve kept ’em, the more do we grieve:
For, when debts are payable, right or wrong,
A short-time loan is as bad as a long–
So why in–Heaven (before we are there)
Should we give our hearts to a dog to tear?
Mar11
Truth
The truth hurts,
The truth heals.
I read that somewhere and it brought to mind how I would much rather be hurt by the truth than hurt by a lie.
When you know the truth you can move on. Lies only keep an untruth alive and the truth comes out anyway.
Please tell me the truth. I can handle it.
Mar10
Zig Ziglar – Self Image
If you don’t like who you are or where you are,
don’t worry about it because you are not stuck either
with who you are or where you are.
You can Grow.
You can Change.
You can be more than you are.
Zig Ziglar
Mar6
Thoughful Thursdays #53 Unconditional Love
I regularly read “positivethoughtsforyou.com and today Mr. Stephen Levine wrote about unconditional love. Here’s an excerpt:
“When we say love we usually mean some emotion, some deep feeling for an object or person, that momentarily allows us to open to another. But in such emotional love, self-protection is never very far away. Still there is “business” to the relationship: clouds of jealousy, possessiveness, guilt, intentional and unintentional manipulation, separateness, and the shadow of all previous “loves” darkens the light of oneness.
But what I mean by love is not an emotion, it is a state of being. True love has no object. Many speak of their unconditional love for another. Unconditional love is the experience of being; there is no “I” and “other,” and anyone or anything it touches is experienced in love. You cannot unconditionally love someone. You can only be unconditional love. It is not a dualistic emotion. It is a sense of oneness with all that is. The experience of love arises when we surrender our separateness into the universal. It is a feeling of unity. You don’t love another, you are another. There is no fear because there is no separation”.
My understanding of this is if we feel love on an emotional level there are conditions, desires, expectations. With conditions, desires and expectations there is the risk of squeezing the life out of relationships.
When we have unconditional love it is not a feeling but a state of mind of openness and accepting everything as it is. No conditions no desires no expectations create unlimited possibilities in relationships.
That works for me.
How about you?
Mar5
Love and Hate by William Shakespeare
Love me or Hate me.
Both are in my favor.
Love me and I’ll always be in your heart.
Hate me and I will always be in your mind
William Shakespeare
Mar2
Rejection
Once you feel you are avoided by someone
Never disturb them again.
beautytips4you.com
People can be really strange sometimes. In my experience most of the time people are wrapped up in their own thoughts and lives. It’s OK, give them their space and move forward in your own life. Refuse to be treated poorly. Sometimes you can care deeply about others but keep your distance.
Feb26
Withholding Information
What people don’t say is just as important as what they do say.
g.piazza
When someone is not willing to be transparent in a relationship it can make my mind race with what might be. I come to all kinds of apocalypse meanings of the situation.
Actually I need to mind my own business because what I need to know is eventually revealed.
I trust myself enough to listen to my hunches. Have patience. Everything I want is coming in it’s right time.
Feb22
Beliefs – Robert Fulghum
“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. Than laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death.”
Robert Fulghum
Insightful Mr. Fulghum
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