If you don’t like who you are or where you are,
don’t worry about it because you are not stuck either
with who you are or where you are.
You can Grow.
You can Change.
You can be more than you are.
Zig Ziglar
Mar10
Tag Archives: Reflections
Mar8
Fill In the Blank
I would __________________
if I had the chance.
From James Mottram/astig FM photo
This should be fun. Try to keep it clean.
Mar6
Thoughful Thursdays #53 Unconditional Love
I regularly read “positivethoughtsforyou.com and today Mr. Stephen Levine wrote about unconditional love. Here’s an excerpt:
“When we say love we usually mean some emotion, some deep feeling for an object or person, that momentarily allows us to open to another. But in such emotional love, self-protection is never very far away. Still there is “business” to the relationship: clouds of jealousy, possessiveness, guilt, intentional and unintentional manipulation, separateness, and the shadow of all previous “loves” darkens the light of oneness.
But what I mean by love is not an emotion, it is a state of being. True love has no object. Many speak of their unconditional love for another. Unconditional love is the experience of being; there is no “I” and “other,” and anyone or anything it touches is experienced in love. You cannot unconditionally love someone. You can only be unconditional love. It is not a dualistic emotion. It is a sense of oneness with all that is. The experience of love arises when we surrender our separateness into the universal. It is a feeling of unity. You don’t love another, you are another. There is no fear because there is no separation”.
My understanding of this is if we feel love on an emotional level there are conditions, desires, expectations. With conditions, desires and expectations there is the risk of squeezing the life out of relationships.
When we have unconditional love it is not a feeling but a state of mind of openness and accepting everything as it is. No conditions no desires no expectations create unlimited possibilities in relationships.
That works for me.
How about you?
Mar4
No Problem
No Problem
Solutions are never necessary because there are no problems, only our perception makes it seem so, and only our minds make our perceptions seem real. If there is a problem it is our perception. That is hard to see in a world that celebrates and rewards the finding and solving of ‘the problem’. When you decide that you will no longer perceive the problem, you will see only the facts or a situation. Facts are just facts and any and every situation can always be improved, unless it is in the past, then it’s just a memory, and memories are never a problem, are they? If you can cancel from the patterns of your perceptions, the very idea of ‘problem’ then you will not only be a positive thinker and positive proactive actor, you will be a leader.
Thoughtfortoday.org.uk
Mar2
Rejection
Once you feel you are avoided by someone
Never disturb them again.
beautytips4you.com
People can be really strange sometimes. In my experience most of the time people are wrapped up in their own thoughts and lives. It’s OK, give them their space and move forward in your own life. Refuse to be treated poorly. Sometimes you can care deeply about others but keep your distance.
Feb27
Sadness
Sadness brings you face to face with your desires.
Danielle LaPorte
Feb22
Beliefs – Robert Fulghum
“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. Than laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death.”
Robert Fulghum
Insightful Mr. Fulghum
Feb22
Weirdness – Robert Fulghum
“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness-and call it love-true love.”
Robert Fulghum
Well said Mr. Fulghum.
Feb20
Thoughful Thursdays #52 Resistance
Steven Pressfield is one of my favorite writing idols. He writes about resistance all the time and is incredibly insightful. Resistance is something I struggle with all the time.
I will paraphrase his discussion with Rabbi Finley and resistance. Rabbi Finley said: “There is a second self inside you-an inner shadow Self. This self doesn’t care about you. It doesn’t love you. It has its own agenda, and it will kill you. It will kill you like cancer. It will kill you to achieve its agenda, which is to prevent you from actualizing your Self, from becoming who you really are. This shadow self is called, in the Kabbalistic lexicon, the yetzer hara. The yetzer hara, is what you call Resistance.”
Well said Rabbi. 100 % true.
This leads me to the Buddha. As he sat under the Bodhi tree and was confronted by Mara and his army. Mara represents denial, fear and distraction. His demons are violent and wicked. The Buddha used his noodle to figure out that Mara and his demons are nothing but a distraction to us. Mara goes out of his way to distract us from our true path, just like he did to the Buddha. Mara’s the king of thoughts and situations that create fear and resistance. The Buddha found a way to transcend his own denial of what is important and what is not. Being in denial of all there is in your life is the ultimate in resistance. The Buddha recognized this in his enlightenment.
What are your Mara’s? Is it addictions, distraction, negative patterns, denial? Is it violence in thoughts, words and deeds?
What is your yetzer hara? Is it illness, sadness, inability to focus?
The list of negatives is endless. So what is the answer? How do we recognize resistance especially if you don’t have a ton of time to meditate or devote your life to a religion?
Keep looking for those pesky negative incognito signs in your thoughts, words and actions that are holding you back. Chances are whatever you are afraid of or avoiding is resistance.
Wake up into your own awareness. Make Self Care important, a priority.
Yes you are that important.
Feb15
You are the Creator
You are the creator of your own life experience, and as the creator of your experience, it is important to understand that it is not by virtue of your action, not by virtue of your doing—it is not even by virtue of what you are saying—that you are creating. You are creating by virtue of the thought that you are offering.
You cannot speak or offer action without thought-vibration occurring at the same time; however, you are often offering a thought-vibration without offering words or action. Children or babies learn to mimic the vibration of the adults who surround them long before they learn to mimic their words.
—Abraham
Excerpted from the book: Money and the Law of Attraction on August 31, 2008
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