Some secrets are good, like not revealing what a birthday gift is or a Christmas gift or some other information that is not harmful in some way.
Some secrets are confidential, embarrassing, shameful.
Some secrets should not be held in your mind if it is making you uncomfortable or feel upset.
Should you reveal all questionable secrets? Not to everyone, but if you are holding secrets that are becoming explosive and tearing you apart emotionally, it is very important to reveal these secrets to someone trusted like a therapist or write them in a journal.
By revealing secrets that are harmful it acts like a steam release, you will feel better and get some emotional distance in order to calm down.
Keeping secrets can make lots of trauma and that is deadly to one’s mental health.
If you must keep secrets at least release them in a safe way.
Your mental health is at stake and you are entitled to a peaceful life not matter what it takes.
Our minds are not always in tune with our powerful grounded self. Being in touch with our grounded self is difficult to maintain in the best of circumstances. Our grounded self is where we feel strong, centered and strong.
Our minds are busy thinking, chatting, bringing up the past and worrying about the future, describing fears in great detail and at times sending us down the rabbit hole of despair and keeping trauma experiences invisible, untouchable, un-feel-able.
Our subconscious runs the show in trauma recovery. If we are mostly distracted it’s a signal that our subconscious is not feeling safe enough to express its concerns about the trauma you experienced.
And that is OK. Eventually, the more you learn to be grounded the more your subconscious will reveal information about the unhealed trauma material.
When this happens witness without judgement and thank your subconscious for revealing its secrets to you. Tell your subconscious how proud you are of it protecting you for so long and it can release this heavy burden, you are both safe now.