I know how you feel. Betrayed and abandoned by someone who you thought cared.
If you can feel betrayal and abandonment you are the healthy one.
People who constantly hurt and abandon are the broken ones.
I know it’s hard to do but………….
Feel it – breathe – carry on.
An emotional trigger is reacting to a present situation with the pain of an unresolved wound of the past.
For example, road rage is never about the jerk cutting you off. Your rage is from feeling helplessness.
Getting lost and given the wrong directions. Your anger is from betrayal.
People being nosey or rude. Your annoyance is from your boundaries being violated.
Untrue gossip and rumors about you. Your trust had been destroyed.
We all have bad days and left bewildered by others behavior towards us. But why are we triggered?
If we have overreacted it’s a trigger from the past. To get past this energy sapping overreaction behavior go back to the time you think this wound might have happened.
Write about it, uncensored, exercise, ground yourself, get back into your body, do art. listen to music, talk to a professional about what you are feeling, meditate, talk it out.
It is not easy work uncovering our wounds, but once they are uncovered they begin to heal and overreaction ends.
It’s worth the effort.
Art can be many things, for example, like painting, writing, singing, cooking, fashion, music, etc. Creativity in the arts is subjective. The beauty or chaos of the creation belongs to the beholder.
There is a place in this world for everyone’s creations. There is someone or many someones that will resonate with what you create. Whether it’s a painting or an article or a cake, there will be those that love it.
Therefore, as creative creatures we must never give up in creating and sharing our creations with the world at large. Share your creations on a blog, on Facebook, your family, friends or neighbors. Share what you have, someone needs to see it, perhaps to brighten their day.
And if you get a negative remark on your creation, just brush it off. Remarks are from those who are either jealous, out of touch with the beauty in any creation, or just plain miserable. Don’t let that bring you down. Keep creating and keep showing.
The world needs your creativity.
Ever wonder why you have certain beliefs that you stubbornly refuse to unbelieve? Eg. Only my religion is the right one.
Which ideas do you believe are true? Eg. All electronic equipment is reliable.
How many beliefs fall into the broad generalization category? Eg. All women can sew and all men can fix a car.
Is the belief based on emotion or evidence or did you swallow a second-hand opinion.
Self-examination of our beliefs is one true path to freedom. But be warned. It is not the easiest.
Snow blizzards can be a lot of fun.
Blizzard Ice Cream from Dairy Queen is fun.
But a blizzard of whirling uncontrollable thoughts is not fun.
It’s frustrating and scary. To stop those windy wizard of flurry, pirouetting, gyrating confusing thoughts, here are a few grounding suggestions.
- Count your breath slowly.
- Listen to Music.
- Do some art.
- Redirect your thoughts momentarily.
- Write it out uncensored.
- Watch your thoughts and let them go.
That should keep you busy for a while and help slow the blizzard of thoughts to a balmy breeze.
In between Christmas and New Years there is time to reflect on the year past.
In between January 1 and December 31 there is time to examine out beliefs.
In between today and tomorrow there is time to reverse a bad habit.
In between now and tomorrow there is time to make a new plan.
In between your two ears there is your brain to think.
In between you and me there is no difference.
In between like minded souls there is healing.
My heartfelt wish for you in 2018 is healing, peace and finding your heart’s desire.
HAPPY NEW YEAR
You are wired for success.
Remember the time you took a left and ended up in the right place. You should do more of that.
Remember the time you had a hunch and it worked. You should more of that.
Remember the time you were terrified and took the risk anyway. You should do more of that.
Remember the time you went against your better judgment. Don’t do that anymore.
Remember the time you had a gut feeling and didn’t follow through. Don’t do that anymore.
Remember the time you believed a lie because you were too desperate to see the truth. Don’t do that anymore.
You are wired for success, Think about all the times things just worked out the way they were supposed to and you were in your zone.
That is where your success is. In that zone. It’s hard to feel the zone all the time but the more you pay attention to it the easier it gets to stay there more often.
Describe what zone is for you, how does it feel, where is it in your body, what does it remind you of, how can you get there more often. Does your zone come with obstacles, what are the obstacles?
You are wired for success; all it involves is a little more awareness on your part.
Any kind of entrapment feels uncomfortable. You can become a prisoner of your own mind too. Do you have obsessive thoughts? Are you adamant about your beliefs and won’t listen to other points of view? Do you have self-defeating tendencies?
The good news is being a prisoner of your mind is mostly artificial. A lot these thoughts are based on fear and insecurities.
The work to open that cell door comes from grounding yourself in some way. Here are some suggestions:
- Redirecting your thoughts.
- Making art.
- Talking to a mental health professional.
I am sure you can add to the list. The idea is to be in the present moment for as long as possible so your mind does not hijack you back to being a prisoner.
This takes effort, consistency, and even scary at times to go into this new territory. The results are so worth it and will strengthen you. Go for it.
If your heart is beating, if your lungs are breathing, if you are still alive… then it is not too late to do something kind, creative, generous, satisfying, and courageous. Today.
It is not too late to behave like the person you want to be — instead of continuing in a cycle of behavior that you will regret.
You might feel sleepy. It might be tough. It could seem preferable to just sit this one out.
Today is not over yet.
People are multi-layered. What you see on the surface is a thimble full of information. Society doesn’t allow full expression of who we are. We have roles to play. Worker, parent, listener, activator.
Oppression of free expression and a general sense of uncertainty is the reason that people flock to religion and large groups looking for answers about this uncertainty that can only be gotten by self-examination. We are lost in trying to fit and there’s a nagging knowing and feeling that something is not quite right.
That nagging feeling is your real self. Your higher self, your true self, your core self, knocking at you to pay attention to your own deep-seated needs. Stop thinking, stop grasping, stop being busy and just listen to what your true self is telling you. This is the deepest layer of who you are, where the information you need to expand yourself is.
Becoming aware on this level is not easy. It’s a re-patterning of old habits. You are changing your brain. It is a slow arduous journey that happens in small steps that are so subtle you may not recognize a change right away.
Your bravery for uncovering the many layers you carry will be well rewarded. This journey is ongoing, the learning about oneself never stops, and the bonus is you will understand yourself better and others just as well.