It’s no fun when someone rejects you. Especially if you had great communication before hand.
Sometimes you will know the reason they back off. Sometimes you don’t.
It is OK. The pain of rejection and disappointment will wear off
Remember: Poor behavior is a reflection on them. Not you.
If they can’t talk to you about what is bothering them, then they are dishonest, childish and disrespectful.
You don’t need that negativity – just keep moving.
How much of your day is occupied with playing it safe? Are your thoughts about taking the easy way out? Or are you thinking of different possibilities?
Free thinking is about thinking out side of the mainstream. It is thinking about the many different ways there are of tackling an issue.
Thinking in a new way is not only for solving problems. It is for changing, upgrading and getting in sync with a new quality in your life. A new quality like peace and happiness, a vocation to live for, a mission to accomplish, a new outlook, a more truer to who you are life.
Just think about what you want. Write it down. Don’t expect change right away. Take your time because the road is never straight when change is around.
Think Away!!
Boundaries can be subtle or obvious. Here’s a partial list adapted from LoveEngineer.com.
Trust everyone or no one vs developing appropriate trust over time.
Black and white thinking vs realizing nothing is black and white.
Expecting others to automatically meet your needs vs communicating your wants and needs. (with the possibility of them being declined).
Self abuse vs treating yourself with respect and dignity.
Giving too much or not at all vs respect for others generosity.
Believing others can read your mind vs recognizing others can’t read your mind.
These are just a few boundary issues prevalent in our lives. Let’s add to the list and change what we can to foster our own growth.
Now you can impress your friends and lovers by saying “I Love You” in ten different languages. Have fun.
1. English – I love you
2. French – Je t’aime, Je t’adore
3. Pig Latin – Iay ovlay ouyay
4. Yoruba – Mo ni fe
5. Spanish – Te quiero / Te amo
6. Polish – Kocham Ciebie
7. Creole – Mi aime jou
8. Hawaiian – Aloha Au Ia`oe
9. Hawaiian – Aloha Au Ia`oe
10. Scot Gaelic – Tha gra\dh agam ort
Source: journeywoman.com
The dictionary defines sociopath as someone with a personality disorder that shows itself in extreme antisocial attitude and behavior with a pronounced lack of conscience.
Here’s how to spot one.
1. they are well likes with lots of charm and high charisma, but generally don’t care about others.
2. stay to themselves.
3. blame others for everything.
4. complete disregard for any rules.
5. push boundaries.
6. have no boundaries.
7. don’t feel guilt.
8. don’t learn from punishment.
9. can act out deadly and extreme behavior.
10. bent on destroying others with no conscience.
Are you afraid? You should be. People like Ted Bundy and Charles Manson are sociopath.
If you encounter one. Don’t walk. Run away really fast. Your life may depend on it.
Change is one of my favorite subjects. Change is the only thing that is consistent in this earthly life.
Nothing is stagnant. Nature does not give up on surviving. It is just creative in how to survive. Look at those creepy bugs that have been around for millennia. Or a flower growing in the ground after a volcano.
We are the same way. In a moment your life can change for the better or worse. Our survival skills kick in here and if you are the first to respond with kindness to yourself and others change is easier to digest.
Change is not easy sometimes it comes in subtly at other times it is a roaring river or tornado. Either way if you are kind without attachment to the results change is easier to go along with.
Every now and then something comes into our lives to question everything we believe.
The ending of a relationship, loss of a job, falling in love, illness and you can add many more to the list.
Big changes are really uncomforable emotionally and we want the pain to stop now, right now.
At times like these we can fall back into old patterns of denial, addictions, anger, self centeredness and running away.
We can hide behind religion, fake self righteous beliefs or hide behind anything outside of our unease. We can fight for things to stay the same.
As you are being pushed out of your comfort zone there is a message from the pain.
Everything changes,
We are not meant to stay stagnant.
We are meant to grow.
Hence the reason for the upset. Life is movement and changes all the time.
You are meant to be happy and grow. Life is designed for that. You have the freedom to do as you wish.
We all have responsibilites and the problem of fitting in the world to feel safe. The truth is you have made choices that put you where you are.
You can choice differently. It won’t be easy but it will equip you with deep understanding of yourself. In turn you will understand others and be a better human citizen. You will be put in your rightful place in your world.
Go ahead,
choose one small thing
and change it.
From Pema Chrodon
Death is Certain
The hour of Death is not Certain
Pick what is Important
The places that scare you are not meant to hurt you.
Fear is meant to get your attention.
For example, worry and procrastination are forms of fear. Find a way to detach from the worry and procrastination. Detach emotionally, be an observer.
In that place you will find the lie that you are not good enough.
Don’t believe lies because they come from fear.
Face the fear and move in any direction that will help you be the person you are most happy to be.
There is one voice in your head which is the one that is constantly chatting, has racing thoughts and is fatality minded. It’s the voice that can send you from the highest hopes to the deepest despair. The voice in your head will automatically default to what is negative. Especially when things are going good.
But it is not you.
There is another voice in your head that is barely audible. It is drowned out by the chatting and racing thoughts etc. We can’t hear it because we don’t listen for it. This is the real you.
How can we observe what we are thinking to get clarity?
Detach from your thoughts and feelings and observe them. Thoughts are like waves in an ocean. Waves rise, crest and crash on the shore. Let your thoughts rise but don’t react to them. Let them crest observing them. Let them crash out of your consciousness. Let them go without judgement.
Then relax. Take a breath.
In the action of daily activities this may not be possible. There are ways of carving out time for getting in touch with the quiet voice.
Meditate, go for a walk, exercise, do art, write, do something that is not part of your regular routine.
You will know that you are making progress when you feel at peace.
Happy Listening!
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FEEL FREE - just sharing what moves through me
For your stitching adventures!
...making the business of marketing and licensing for creators understandable, achievable and affordable.
My art, writing and mental health stuff. Hope it helps.
The latest news on WordPress.com and the WordPress community.
WEE FOLK STUDIO
All things holly, jolly, and odd-ly...
A journey to healing from complex trauma.
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