It’s no fun when someone rejects you. Especially if you had great communication before hand.
Sometimes you will know the reason they back off. Sometimes you don’t.
It is OK. The pain of rejection and disappointment will wear off
Remember: Poor behavior is a reflection on them. Not you.
If they can’t talk to you about what is bothering them, then they are dishonest, childish and disrespectful.
You don’t need that negativity – just keep moving.
How much of your day is occupied with playing it safe? Are your thoughts about taking the easy way out? Or are you thinking of different possibilities?
Free thinking is about thinking out side of the mainstream. It is thinking about the many different ways there are of tackling an issue.
Thinking in a new way is not only for solving problems. It is for changing, upgrading and getting in sync with a new quality in your life. A new quality like peace and happiness, a vocation to live for, a mission to accomplish, a new outlook, a more truer to who you are life.
Just think about what you want. Write it down. Don’t expect change right away. Take your time because the road is never straight when change is around.
Think Away!!
Boundaries can be subtle or obvious. Here’s a partial list adapted from LoveEngineer.com.
Trust everyone or no one vs developing appropriate trust over time.
Black and white thinking vs realizing nothing is black and white.
Expecting others to automatically meet your needs vs communicating your wants and needs. (with the possibility of them being declined).
Self abuse vs treating yourself with respect and dignity.
Giving too much or not at all vs respect for others generosity.
Believing others can read your mind vs recognizing others can’t read your mind.
These are just a few boundary issues prevalent in our lives. Let’s add to the list and change what we can to foster our own growth.
Now you can impress your friends and lovers by saying “I Love You” in ten different languages. Have fun.
1. English – I love you
2. French – Je t’aime, Je t’adore
3. Pig Latin – Iay ovlay ouyay
4. Yoruba – Mo ni fe
5. Spanish – Te quiero / Te amo
6. Polish – Kocham Ciebie
7. Creole – Mi aime jou
8. Hawaiian – Aloha Au Ia`oe
9. Hawaiian – Aloha Au Ia`oe
10. Scot Gaelic – Tha gra\dh agam ort
Source: journeywoman.com
We all tell little white lies in order to avoid a confrontation or not to hurt someone’s feelings. When that no longer works we must fess up and tell the truth. Here are some ways to do that.
1. Say what you have to say peacefully with caring.
2. Before speaking be honest with yourself and what you have to say. Respond don’t react.
3. Write it down first to clear your mind.
4. Trust yourself and your ability to speak truthfully.
5. Expect the other person to get angry. Don’t say anything if you are angry.
6. It will feel uncomfortable to speak the truth at first. But stay strong. Don’t buckle under to anger or guilt.
7. Follow your heart.
8. Feel the sensations in your body. This is where you feel the surrounding energy.
9. Talk it out with someone first.
10. Ask a question to start a conversation about the subject.
Ignoring what bothers you has a band-aid effect on problems. It doesn’t last.
Don’t wait. Find a way to say what you need to say. It will clear the air and allow for positive movement.
The dictionary defines sociopath as someone with a personality disorder that shows itself in extreme antisocial attitude and behavior with a pronounced lack of conscience.
Here’s how to spot one.
1. they are well likes with lots of charm and high charisma, but generally don’t care about others.
2. stay to themselves.
3. blame others for everything.
4. complete disregard for any rules.
5. push boundaries.
6. have no boundaries.
7. don’t feel guilt.
8. don’t learn from punishment.
9. can act out deadly and extreme behavior.
10. bent on destroying others with no conscience.
Are you afraid? You should be. People like Ted Bundy and Charles Manson are sociopath.
If you encounter one. Don’t walk. Run away really fast. Your life may depend on it.
We have all been involved with someone who has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. ‘
A co-worker, boss, significant other, relative, teacher etc. They are everywhere. Here are some of the traits of the disorder.
Abusive
Acts superior
Arrogant
Over Dramatic
Hostile
Violent
Wrathful
Thoughtless
Sneaky
Sadistic
You can add to the list, however, these are some of the red flags.
Don’t be nice to these people, just walk away. You’ll be so much more at peace.
I don’t find it hard to hear my inner voice. I find it hard to follow its advice.
If I don’t listen then events go from mild irritation to full-blown chaos.
I can count many times there was chaos and for a very long time.
It is easier to ignore that inner voice than to follow its advice because I don’t want to make effort. Effort involves a commitment to action which leads to change. Change is scary and hard to do because of the uncertainty involved.
I find that when I do have the courage or stamina to follow its advice I win every time.
I guess practice makes perfect.
Happy listening.
We live such small lives compared to what we are capable of. We become complacent and stay in our comfort zone. We wish and long for other things we think are better for us but do nothing to change our lives.
There are signals that crop up from time to time ushering us to move in a certain direction. Focus on the signals, this is the easy way to change.
Signals come from a chance meeting, words in a book, something said, inspiration, serendipity, these are just a few signals, Pay attention to the signals, they are there for you to act upon. You are being led and sent to your next destination.
You can be led willingly or kicking and screaming. It is up to you.
This destination may not be conventional. You may not understand it in the beginning.
Sometimes there is no logic, no reason, no guideposts as to where you are being led and that is OK.
This destination is only for you, no one else. Relax and enjoy the ride. You will arrive when its necessary.
My definition of success is different from your definition of success.
Perhaps you want financial success, or health success or relationship success. What ever it is you want there is one truth that applies to all success.
You have to be willing to make effort in transformation.
Transforming your self means to change. Change is not easy. We naturally resist change even when it is good for us.
Success is guaranteed by steady transforming actions. Learning from each situation will slowly bring success. Taking risks will bring success. Getting out of your comfort zone will bring success.
The willingness to hold your own hand in personal transformation will bring success. Looking negativity in the eye will bring success.
Define your idea of success and bring up what needs to be transformed.
Be the creature you want to be. Go ahead, it won’t hurt. A little scary maybe but what you become will out weight any fear you have been holding.
Happy transformation.
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FEEL FREE - just sharing what moves through me
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...making the business of marketing and licensing for creators understandable, achievable and affordable.
My art, writing and mental health stuff. Hope it helps.
The latest news on WordPress.com and the WordPress community.
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All things holly, jolly, and odd-ly...
A journey to healing from complex trauma.
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