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Sep12

Thoughtful Thursdays #33 Listening

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Most of the time we don’t listen to what is being said to us. All those good words are going to waste. I realized this when my daughter took issue with me about my dog. She said I am allowing him to get too heavy. The doctor wants him to lose about twenty pounds. As she spoke about my lack of concern for the dog she said something that made me listen. She said that when she speaks I don’t act on her advice and don’t take dog care seriously. What she was really saying was that I was not listening to her or taking her seriously.

It’s important that I listen to her because she is important to me. I don’t have to listen to anyone if I choose not to but those that are important know when I am not listening. And that hurts them.

This is the important lesson. Listen when those who love you say something because they are revealing their needs and concerns for themselves and you.

I’m listening Sam.

So keep those ears open and your dog on a diet.

Sep12

Affirmation #4 Money

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The Universe supplies my every need.
Not sure who said this.

This is day 4 of the 30-day affirmation countdown. I hope you are feeling a little better. Keep repeating the affirmations and you will feel better.

Write ti 10 times or more, say it many times through the day especially in the morning when you first get up and evening before bedtime. Try saying it in front of a mirror to yourself with enthusiasm.

Sep11

Affirmation #3 Safety

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I am safe. All is well.
Louise Hay

Write this 10 times, say it many times through the day and before bedtime.

Sep10

Affirmation #2 Acceptance

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I accept myself just the way I am. I am proud of myself.
Louise Hay

Write it 10 times and repeat it as much as you can during the day and before bedtime.

Sep9

Affirmation #1 Change

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“I am willing to change”
Louise Hay

Write it 10 times and repeat it as much as you can during the day and before bedtime.

Sep9

Affirmations

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I have read Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life” at least four times in the past and the affirmation thing never really impressed me. I realize it didn’t impress me because I wasn’t ready for it.

Lately my life is not going well personally, financially and almost every other way. It’s been like this for a long time.

I am constantly fitful with worry which is most of the time. Of course nothing changed because of the constant worrying.

After tremendous frustration and deeply analyzing the situation I started reading Pema Chodron’s book “When Things Fall Apart” which is an excellent book about change based on Buddhism. When I returned Pema Chodron’s book to the library I strolled over to the self help section and picked up Louise Hay’s book to give it another try.

I think because I was so desperate with frustration for answers and guidance that I became willing to try anything including affirmations.

Half believing what I reading was true I said the simplest affirmation. “I accept myself just as I am”. As Louise instructed my ego was fighting me for control of my thoughts. I was scared I’d go crazy. But I persisted. Again and again I said the same affirmation. It took one day for me to feel something shift. A tiny light feeling that my worrying was lifting.I was ready and willing to try to change.

In the past I have searched for peace of mind and a purposeful life. Since I am an avid reader I have tried many traditional and new age information for answers to my life’s many questions. Each new thing I tried worked for a time then no longer filled my original purpose. So I moved on searching again for what was next.

In my recent frustration finding Louise Hay’s book is my new avenue for moving my life forward because as I practice affirmations I feel so much better. Here’s why, I didn’t realize it but I have a problem with constant negative self talk. When I realized what I was doing it made perfect sense. Yes, I was hurting myself first.

Affirmations replace negative self talk with positive self talk. It was not easy to change my negative self talk to positive but as I have persisted I am changing for the better. I am losing a lot of fear and self doubt. I am trying to be more outgoing and courageous in every day things like looking strangers in the eye instead of lowering my eyes to the floor. I am calmer. I know all is working out for my highest good. Affirmations is the original “The Secret” and “The Law of Attraction”.

I am having so much success with affirmations that I am posting one affirmation every day for 30 days. Please give it a try. Say the affirmation as many times as possible silently or out loud or in a mirror. Or try writing it ten times.

Just try. You won’t be disappointed. Affirmation #1 will be in the next post.

Sep5

Thoughtful Thursdays #32 Change

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What does it take to change? Your mind that is. Why is it so hard to change your Mind? There are tons of information on the internet and in books on the subject. And it’s one of the questions that has literally plagued mankind for centuries.

Change is hard. Sometimes.

The simple answers is we are hard wired to stay safe, be obedient and compliant because societies need this type of cooperation in order to survive It is also much easier to go with the crowd because it is truly nerve wracking to be who you truly are. There is nothing wrong with staying safe but it’s a hindrance to personal growth.

There is a nagging voice in us that says what is really important for our growth. Most of the time the voice is really quiet so we miss it. But it is always there. Our loud mouth egos are always yelling at us for some reason or another. The loud ego flits from one thing to another. Whatever is holding its interest is the mode of the moment. When we listen to the ego and we get into trouble is the moment we can step back and listen once more to the quiet voice.

Here is where effective change can take place. its not easy to change and changing always involves small steps. Sometimes there are moments of sweeping change but this is rare. In the small steps is where we make the most progress.

Try this, instead of listening to the loud chatter, Tell it to stop and replace the chatter with positive thought.

For example, a sneaky little negative thought popped into your head and you are feeling stuck and overwhelmed. Don’t fret.

Don’t listen to it. Replace the negative thought with a positive one. It won’t work the first few times but repeat a positive thought again and again. Eventually your mind will cooperate with you and your life will change for the better.

Happy changing.

Aug29

Thoughtful Thursdays #31

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As some of you know I have a very big dog. His name is Rocky and he is 133 pounds. This past Sunday night we were at the dog park. There were many dogs there including one that my dog occasionally plays with. The other dog (who is almost as big as mine) likes to dominate my dog. They end up playfully defending themselves until the other dog decided that he had enough and lopped off a quarter size piece of his right ear. Blood was streaming everywhere and I alerted the other dog owner. Initially they were apologetic and offer5ed to pay the vet. Then they wanted me to pay half. The husband and wife owners of this dog at this point started to get nasty and accused my dog of first starting a fight. They knew full well that their dog was the culprit. I threatened them by saying I would report their dog to animal control.

Since it was late on a Sunday we had to find an emergency vet. We found one and the other dog owners said they would pay the entire vet bill. They did not come with me to the vet and when the vet called for payment they refused to pay the sedative portion of the bill. They ended up paying $400 of the vet and I paid $146. These people were conniving, took advantage of me and are irresponsible dog owners.

Part of me wants to get even, the other part of me wants peace. I doubt it they will come to the part again if they see me and my dog there. I could call animal control and make a complaint or I could just let it go.
I have decided to let it go. Getting even is a useless attempt at trying to control the happiness or unhappiness of others and an attempt to relieve my frustration and anger.

I have the right to my frustration and anger. However, I have decided to leave it alone. because just knowing and believing “what goes around comes around” is enough for me. I believe if I act against them it will come back to me and I know their lying will come back to them.

My dog was well taken care of at the vet and very healthy in spite of losing part of his ear. He now has an interesting battle would, a conversation piece and I can go on with a clean conscious.

Can’t wait to get back to the park.

Aug22

Thoughtful Thursdays #30

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Everything starts with a thought.

Ever notice when you are upset with something your thinking is out of control. You find yourself spiraling down an abyss of negativity and can’t pull out of it. You feel angry, helpless, hopeless and unable to focus. The obsessive thinking starts and before you know it you are drained and unhappy.

There’s good news and only good news. These are only thoughts and thoughts can be changed. You are the power and authority in your world and at anytime you can change your mind.

I know you are not convinced because your ego is addicted to the drama of the situation.
Try this; based on the Queen of Affirmations philosophy of Ms. Louse Hay, her belief and mine, are that staying focused on what is positive will bring the best results.

Here are some affirmations. Write them 10 times each, your mind with fight you but you are the boss not your mind. In a short time you will calm down and feel better.

I open new doors to life.

I always have a choice.

I am worthy of all good.

I release all tension, I release all anger and I release all resistance.

I forgive all past experiences.

I love and accept myself.

These are just a few positive affirmations; there are tons of affirmations in books and on the Internet. Find some that resonate for you and use them.

So,

What Are You Thinking?

Aug19

How To Survive Getting Dumped

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Bam. Wait, what just happened? You find yourself being dumped and at first it’s impossible to believe. Your feelings are raw; it’s draining and painful. The tears don’t stop. The questions are endless. How did this happen? Whose fault is this? Did I miss something? Hold on a minute. Take a breath and read the following.

Relationships end for many reasons, it might be fear of intimacy, feeling vulnerable, don’t love the partner enough, using you for their own selfish reasons, or have other plans where you don’t fit into. There may be a need to step back, be objective and get clarity. Perhaps the relationship has lived out its usefulness.

The good news is that at some time or another everyone gets dumped. You will get over it. Here are a few practical steps to help you move on.

1. Don’t think you will never find love again – do you have a crystal ball?
2. Sit with and don’t react to the broken heart feelings – they will pass.
3. Talk it out with friends or a professional.
4. Even if you still like your ex do your best to cut all ties and move on otherwise you make a fool of yourself and continue to be used.
5. Insist on no more contact. That includes you, ex and the ex friends and family.
6. No stalking your ex in any way. Un-friend where necessary.
7. Give up being confused. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
8. Distract your obsessive thoughts with keeping busy, connecting with friends, cooking, working, writing, exercising, and conversations with your higher power.
9. Be very good to yourself. Do things you enjoy for a change.
10. Read or YouTube self-improvement and personal growth literature.
11. Watch funny movies, refuse to watch or read anything negative for a while. Especially those police shows that focus on extremely destructive relationships.
12. Find stuff to laugh at and lighten up. Stop all the seriousness.

It is definitely not the end of the world. Within a short time the painful feelings with start to go away. That’s guaranteed. You will move on and be free to find a terrific new relationship. Perhaps this time you will do the dumping. Just kidding.

So pick your self up, dust your self off and move up to better, healthier and supremely more satisfying relationships. Finally.