Stereotype-A stereotype is a mistaken idea or belief many people have about a thing or group that is based upon how they look on the outside, which may be untrue or only partly true. Stereotyping people is a type of prejudice because what is on the outside is a small part of who a person is. Wikipedia.
Broad Generalizations-In everyday language, a generalization is defined as a broad statement or an idea that is applied to a group of people or things. Often, generalizations are not entirely true, because there are usually examples of individuals or situations wherein the generalization does not apply. Google search.
It really bothers me when someone spews out of their mouth some stupid statement like: dogs are smarter than cats, cats are aloof, woman want large families, men never make commitments, that salesmen are greedy, pretty people are stuck up.
A woman said to me the other day that all women are nurturing and intuitive, are you kidding me, that is not true, none of these statements are true.
I can’t stop others from getting on their podium and spread false information but I can check out for myself all the information I need. I can find the truth for myself. And so can you.
Don’t blindly believe in what you are told. Zombies do that, don’t be a zombie, be a involved human by being informed. Investigate, figure out for yourself what is being presented and make decisions based on your own truth, not someone else’s.
I need help. So much.
What’s up Victoria.
I read all your posts about abuse and disfunctional family. How do you get past loving someone so much like a family member yet knowing they are completely emotionally unavailable and abusive (emotionally). They will never change. How did you get to a place where you are at right now?
It’s silly. I am sorry. I don’t want to waste your time. Once I put it out there in writing I realized how ridiculous it is. I am being a child. I am sorry. I really like your blog. I think it is admirable what you are doing and very brave. Thank you for responding quickly. I really appreciate your kindness.
Lots of therapy, self compassion and never giving up on my own recovery and finding the answers to why I behave the way I do.
This very important work of self improvement is vital to having a happy and somewhat normal life.
It doesn’t matter what other people do or feel, it is not your job to figure that out, your loyalty is to yourself. No one else. As you mentally improve so will your outside circumstances.
Find a good trauma therapist and start your journey to freedom and well being. You are worth it and the results will be permanent.
I saw your second reply, You are not silly, The healthy part of you wants answers, it’s time to stop denying your right to be happy.
Do you think it’s true that women from disfunctional families tend to pick up disfunctional relationships? Trying to change something in someone they could not change as a child?
Yes it is true but with examining why you do that will help stop this dysfunctional cycle.