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Thoughtful Thursday #280 – Processing Emotions In Vicarious Ways

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Vicarious – Meaning -experienced in the imagination through the feelings or actions of another person.

I never liked fluffy stories with forced happy endings like on the Hallmark channel,  I prefer to know what makes the characters tick even if there is a strange ending, on a regular basis I prefer non-fiction.

It is common that being in a psychologically dysfunctional environment growing up or as an adult it is unsafe to express our emotions.

When our emotions are not validated we can get them validated through music, art, reading stories, crime dramas, going to the movies, etc. you can add to the list.

We can better understand what we are feeling through these venues, we can relate to the struggles, fear, sadness, injustice or joy of the characters. By having these venues to relate to is a beginning to finding some safety within to express ourselves.

You are not alone, given the magnitude of how many people use these outlets all of us are using them to validate our own expressiveness.

Carry on. Express away.

I Am Devoted To The Other Side

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Because I have never gotten validated or
educated about living from another human being.

I have read inspirational things that
soothed me temporarily but
nothing has changed me as much
as being in contact with
the Other Side.

Hence, it sent me the most
difficult relationships and
compassionate encounters.

I questioned my sanity
until I saw the insanity of others.

I loved deeply that it hurt
until I saw love does not hurt.

I hated so hard that blood dripped from my eyes,
until the blood dried and I was numb.

I got the unexpected kind remark
needed at just the
right moment.

I tried to annihilate myself in every-way possible
until I realized I wasn’t even
good at that.

With arms outstretched to the sky
I begged for mercy
until I realized I have so much to be
grateful for.

So I stopped to try one more time
to find the answers.

The Other Side always answered.

The answers gave hope.
So I went on and on and on to live one more day.

My strength gathered one more day,
stronger one more day,
with deeper understanding.

Not even aware of it I traveled
on with my life half asleep and half aware.

Re-enacting every deep seated dysfunction
until I understood it.

That is the grace of the Other Side
The grace of Mother Nature.
The grace of Universal Intelligence.

It sends us messages of
what is out of balance.

It throws us face to face with our desires
our wishes, dreams and illusions.

Those that are repressed,
those that are obvious.
Exposes our blind spots.

The Other Side never gives up on us.
It is best we don’t give up on it.