I accept myself just the way I am. I am proud of myself.
Louise Hay
Write it 10 times and repeat it as much as you can during the day and before bedtime.
Sep10
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Sep9
Affirmation #1 Change
“I am willing to change”
Louise Hay
Write it 10 times and repeat it as much as you can during the day and before bedtime.
Sep9
Affirmations
I have read Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life” at least four times in the past and the affirmation thing never really impressed me. I realize it didn’t impress me because I wasn’t ready for it.
Lately my life is not going well personally, financially and almost every other way. It’s been like this for a long time.
I am constantly fitful with worry which is most of the time. Of course nothing changed because of the constant worrying.
After tremendous frustration and deeply analyzing the situation I started reading Pema Chodron’s book “When Things Fall Apart” which is an excellent book about change based on Buddhism. When I returned Pema Chodron’s book to the library I strolled over to the self help section and picked up Louise Hay’s book to give it another try.
I think because I was so desperate with frustration for answers and guidance that I became willing to try anything including affirmations.
Half believing what I reading was true I said the simplest affirmation. “I accept myself just as I am”. As Louise instructed my ego was fighting me for control of my thoughts. I was scared I’d go crazy. But I persisted. Again and again I said the same affirmation. It took one day for me to feel something shift. A tiny light feeling that my worrying was lifting.I was ready and willing to try to change.
In the past I have searched for peace of mind and a purposeful life. Since I am an avid reader I have tried many traditional and new age information for answers to my life’s many questions. Each new thing I tried worked for a time then no longer filled my original purpose. So I moved on searching again for what was next.
In my recent frustration finding Louise Hay’s book is my new avenue for moving my life forward because as I practice affirmations I feel so much better. Here’s why, I didn’t realize it but I have a problem with constant negative self talk. When I realized what I was doing it made perfect sense. Yes, I was hurting myself first.
Affirmations replace negative self talk with positive self talk. It was not easy to change my negative self talk to positive but as I have persisted I am changing for the better. I am losing a lot of fear and self doubt. I am trying to be more outgoing and courageous in every day things like looking strangers in the eye instead of lowering my eyes to the floor. I am calmer. I know all is working out for my highest good. Affirmations is the original “The Secret” and “The Law of Attraction”.
I am having so much success with affirmations that I am posting one affirmation every day for 30 days. Please give it a try. Say the affirmation as many times as possible silently or out loud or in a mirror. Or try writing it ten times.
Just try. You won’t be disappointed. Affirmation #1 will be in the next post.
Sep5
Thoughtful Thursdays #32 Change
What does it take to change? Your mind that is. Why is it so hard to change your Mind? There are tons of information on the internet and in books on the subject. And it’s one of the questions that has literally plagued mankind for centuries.
Change is hard. Sometimes.
The simple answers is we are hard wired to stay safe, be obedient and compliant because societies need this type of cooperation in order to survive It is also much easier to go with the crowd because it is truly nerve wracking to be who you truly are. There is nothing wrong with staying safe but it’s a hindrance to personal growth.
There is a nagging voice in us that says what is really important for our growth. Most of the time the voice is really quiet so we miss it. But it is always there. Our loud mouth egos are always yelling at us for some reason or another. The loud ego flits from one thing to another. Whatever is holding its interest is the mode of the moment. When we listen to the ego and we get into trouble is the moment we can step back and listen once more to the quiet voice.
Here is where effective change can take place. its not easy to change and changing always involves small steps. Sometimes there are moments of sweeping change but this is rare. In the small steps is where we make the most progress.
Try this, instead of listening to the loud chatter, Tell it to stop and replace the chatter with positive thought.
For example, a sneaky little negative thought popped into your head and you are feeling stuck and overwhelmed. Don’t fret.
Don’t listen to it. Replace the negative thought with a positive one. It won’t work the first few times but repeat a positive thought again and again. Eventually your mind will cooperate with you and your life will change for the better.
Happy changing.
Aug19
How To Survive Getting Dumped
Bam. Wait, what just happened? You find yourself being dumped and at first it’s impossible to believe. Your feelings are raw; it’s draining and painful. The tears don’t stop. The questions are endless. How did this happen? Whose fault is this? Did I miss something? Hold on a minute. Take a breath and read the following.
Relationships end for many reasons, it might be fear of intimacy, feeling vulnerable, don’t love the partner enough, using you for their own selfish reasons, or have other plans where you don’t fit into. There may be a need to step back, be objective and get clarity. Perhaps the relationship has lived out its usefulness.
The good news is that at some time or another everyone gets dumped. You will get over it. Here are a few practical steps to help you move on.
1. Don’t think you will never find love again – do you have a crystal ball?
2. Sit with and don’t react to the broken heart feelings – they will pass.
3. Talk it out with friends or a professional.
4. Even if you still like your ex do your best to cut all ties and move on otherwise you make a fool of yourself and continue to be used.
5. Insist on no more contact. That includes you, ex and the ex friends and family.
6. No stalking your ex in any way. Un-friend where necessary.
7. Give up being confused. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
8. Distract your obsessive thoughts with keeping busy, connecting with friends, cooking, working, writing, exercising, and conversations with your higher power.
9. Be very good to yourself. Do things you enjoy for a change.
10. Read or YouTube self-improvement and personal growth literature.
11. Watch funny movies, refuse to watch or read anything negative for a while. Especially those police shows that focus on extremely destructive relationships.
12. Find stuff to laugh at and lighten up. Stop all the seriousness.
It is definitely not the end of the world. Within a short time the painful feelings with start to go away. That’s guaranteed. You will move on and be free to find a terrific new relationship. Perhaps this time you will do the dumping. Just kidding.
So pick your self up, dust your self off and move up to better, healthier and supremely more satisfying relationships. Finally.
Aug8
Thoughtful Thursdays #28
e.e. cummings said: “To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting”.
When I read this it was almost too much to bear because it was true. It is a fundamental truth that no one talks about or even realizes till it’s almost too late. The truth is that society has set up rules so that if you don’t follow a particular like-minded tribe you will be lost and alone to the point of death. This mentality comes from the ancient survival mechanism in our brains that looks for safety. And it’s also has a clear undercurrent of power and control of a group under the guise of safety. I don’t know about you but I have been a loaner most of my life and I know that lost and empty feeling of not fitting in. I fooled myself for a long time with relationships, jobs, incredible ideas, trusting those I should not have and fabulous fashions but they all faded. The only thing left is me. Warts and all.
I have had sweeping changes and disappointments galore and guess what, I have survived. I still stand-alone and I enjoy being alone as much as I enjoy company.
Society has its own truths. I would never give up my truth to be myself. No matter what.
Be forewarned that acting true to yourself brings lots of jealousy and criticism. It’s a small price to pay for your own happiness. Be content and improve yourself regardless of what others think.
It will take a great deal of courage but you can do it. When there’s opposition, express it by doing something creative. Writing, painting, running what ever makes you happy.
Is this selfish, you may ask. No, because how can you be functional and productive when you have that feeling of uneasy boredom, are unhappy and living by habit?
No one can do your life the way you do so be proud of you and your life.
Jul18
Thoughful Thursdays #25
The blips on the radar of your life.
In case you don’t know what a blip is here’s the definition I will be using: something small within a larger context.)
Here are some bad blips.
It was the last time you had a difficult time. The time when the difficulty was small. The other time when the difficulty was extra large. The time you lost something or have some setback.
Then there are the good blips.
The accomplishment that made you proud. Something new and shiny caught your attention. The ordinary days where all is smooth.
Now what the “blip” does all this mean?
It takes good blips and bad blips to balance out your life.
Jul4
Thoughtful Thursdays #23
July 4th, 2013
Today is the 237th day of Independence of the United States. The greatness of this country is one of hard work and persistence. This country is based on the freedom to be who you are and work as you wish. Yes the US is not perfect but neither is anything in this wonderful world we live in. There is constant change and challenges in governments and humankind. And that is the way it’s supposed to be.
You are free to be happy, to be who you want to be, it is not too late to change.
You are free to move around, turn things upside down, inside out and sideways.
You are free to made a plan, take a stand, hold a hand and swing.
So in celebration of US independence let’s join the party and feel free to dance to our own personal freedom.
Happy Independence.
Mar16
Freedom
In a very broad sense freedom is (according to the dictionary) is: The power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint. Freedom is also seen as free will.
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