Now is the time to stop scaring yourself.
Now is the time to put an end to any kind of abuse.
Now is the time to finish old things that are not working.
Now is the time to celebrate who you are.
Now is the time to choose your own happiness.
Now is the time to change your life to the way you want it.
You got this.
There are people in this world who are genuine enough to pay attention to their own behavior. Those who are aware that how their words, actions and thoughts have an impact on those they interact with.
Here is a small list to read at the end of the day to see if you want to change or develop some of your behavior. Pick no more than two or three at a time.
Was I free from anger and judgement?
Did I give anyone sorrow or take any sorrow?
How much negative thinking was I wrapped up in?
Was I stable or unstable.
What did I bring into my interactions today? Was I positive?
Did I respect everyone regardless of name and fame?
Did I take a moment here and there to reflect on what I was thinking.
You can add more suggestions to the list. You can make a chart to fill out at the end of the day. Either way your behavior is so much more dynamic than you realize.
So be positive and joyful.
Do you have an expectation or hearts desire? Do you want something to happen? Do you long for, wish for, desire for a personal fulfilment.
That is hope. I hope this situation goes in my favor. My heart longs for a better whatever. I have desired that goal forever.
Until the very last-minute of our lives there is hope. Hope for a change. Hope for our longings. Hope for our desires. Hope for our lives to be better.
Hope is also trust. It is trusting ourselves and the movement of life. Hope is not a wishful thinking state of mind. One must be active in observing our own actions and the actions surrounding us. Hope is hanging in there when we don’t know the answers. Hope is an antidote and answer to disbelief, doubt, despair, fear and hatred.
With that I hope you have all that makes your life better.
Your life is not over yet.
Time to hope for the best.
How often do we complain about not having enough time? I do it all the time. No pun intended. However, There is the same amount of time every day, the same twenty four hours again and again.
Maybe the issue is not time but distractions. I get redirected by chores, mini and maxi crisis, unexpected detours in my plans, becoming too tired to continue, making time for others and a million and one extra steps in the dance of my day.
The struggle to do the things that are necessary for me and distractions is a contant juggling act. My life feels like a circus act.
When these distractions happen I pick a time that is for me. I handle whatever needs to be handled and move my actions to the time I picked for myself.
It’s not easy but it works every time.
Pick time for what is important for you. No one else will. Carry On.
This is an old adage. For millenia philosophers, sages and ordinary folk understand on a fundamental level that everything begins and ends in the mind.
We are talking about thinking. Not magical thinking or wishes. This is thinking with action.
It’s making up our minds and acting on it.
Of course this is simpler said than done. If you are fed up with the same negative results over and over again then it’s time to change some small action. One small change will kick in the domino effect. One thing affects another and so on.
Keep in mind it takes about six weeks for any change to become effective. So have patience.
Change demands boundaries and commitment and movement in a gentle way. In a non-judgemental way.
It’s OK if you fall short of your objective. It’s OK if you start again from square one. It’s OK if you re-adjust again and again to get to your objective.
Just start and try. You can always change your mind.
How much of your behavior is a habit? Do you eat because the clock says it’s mealtime but you aren’t really hungry? Do you buy stuff- just because? Did some behavior become common because everyone else is doing it?
Do you have routines that you do by rote without thinking? Did you learn somewhere in your life that certain things are only done a certain way?
Did you forget to stop and observe what you are doing? What habit is not working for you anymore? What habit does not resonate with your life at this time? What is the habit that is holding you back and you know in your gut it has to go?
What’s the best way to kill a habit? Maybe cold turkey. Maybe negotiating with our minds to slowly back off of the habit. Maybe getting angry at yourself for continuing the habit even though you know it’s bad for you. Maybe stopping but still doing the habit once in a while risking full-blown relapse. Maybe finding a support group.
Definitely some courage is necessary, some realistic self talk and some determination even when you don’t feel like it.
There is no right or wrong way to kill a habit. Just as long as you kill it. Killing a habit is acceptable, necessary and holistic. Killing a bad habit with a new good habit is the easiest way to permanently kill a bad habit.
You’ll gain confidence and the new habit of persistence and personal strength. Which helps in all areas of your like.
It won’t be easy in the beginning. Habits are evil and don’t play nice. There is no reasoning with habits. Especially bad ones.
But you are the boss not them. So go for it. You will win in the end because a bad habit is a fear and a fear is a lie. The bad habit will eventually go away and you will be the victor.
Congratulations you win.
You knew that anyway.
Didn’t you?
It’s not easy to change. Most of the time it is our habits that get in the way. We know it’s time to change and begin something new.
This is where we must refuse to back down from our own intimidating thoughts that have become a bad habit. We must begin a ” I can do this” belief. We must adopt a ” I can figure this out” mindset as a habit.
Aren’t you at the very least curious about what you can accomplish? Our lives are layered in preferences. Pay attention to your preferences they are talking to you.
Look ahead, not back. Get rid of what is not working, Go forward, learn something new, meet new people, get out of your comfort zone. Create the next new better version of yourself.
You are worth it. And as a result you will grow into the person you are meant to be.
Most of us feel trapped in our decisions as if there are no alternatives.
Not true.
Where do you feel trapped? Maybe in your job, relationships, lifestyle, trauma, beliefs. What worries you? What grates on your nerves? What precipitates your addictions? What keeps you going round and round instead of forward?
Try this.
Free write about each concern.
Free role play possible outcomes.
Free your child mind with crayons on paper.
Free yourself with music you have never heard.
Free your spirit with twenty minutes of silence.
Free your body with dancing.
Free yourself of addiction by sitting with uncomfortable feelings.
Freely choose something different instead of habits.
Freely be different.
Free your heart by speaking your mind.
Freely think of all possible outcomes.
Freely share yourself with the world.
Freely divorce yourself from negativity.
Freely choose what is purposeful for you.
Freely reach out to others when you are needy.
Your life is meant to be meaningful. You are important. When you choose alternatives that make you life better you give others permission to do so also.
Get it?
Good.
Carry on.
Who told you to worry?
Who said you can not stop worrying?
Worry is stressful. Worry tenses the body and causes pain.
Most of the stuff you worry about never happens.
Worry puts you on the path of over thinking, panic, the downward spiral of depression. In no time at all you will be paralyzed.
As soon as you start to worry, replace the thoughts with positive gentle words. At first your mind will fight you. Soon you will see that worrying is just a habit and habits can be changed.
Worry is just fear. You are stronger than any fear.
For one day say nothing negative about yourself in your thoughts or out loud. Then try it for another day, and another and another until it becomes a habit.
Have patience, it takes time to change a negative habit into a positive habit.
You can do it. Just try.
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