My Facebook friend and sweet spiritual brother who I have known for many years suddenly passed away. At this moment there is no other information.
I am shocked and in disbelief, he is a friend who I talk to regularly however I didn’t realize how much he meant to me until suddenly losing him.
Unexpected bad news is shocking and numbing, I am sliding between both. At times like this there is no way to focus and be proactive on any level.
I will just sit with this sadness for as long as it takes until I feel better.
Bad News : trauma recovery work never ends. Trauma stays in your DNA, in your subconscious, in your dreams, in your worries, in your decision-making, in your choices. Trauma is embedded in your cells.
Good News : trauma recovery is indeed possible, trauma recovery is uncomfortable and our defenses will throw many distractions at us because they think it’s dangerous to feel. When we are ready and can sit with being uncomfortable without running away something happens. We become healed, because we didn’t run away, we allowed and trusted the organic process of feeling what we have avoided for so long and allowed the experience to fade away. Is recovery a simple linear process, not at all. The results are worth the effort.