It’s no fun when someone rejects you. Especially if you had great communication before hand.
Sometimes you will know the reason they back off. Sometimes you don’t.
It is OK. The pain of rejection and disappointment will wear off
Remember: Poor behavior is a reflection on them. Not you.
If they can’t talk to you about what is bothering them, then they are dishonest, childish and disrespectful.
You don’t need that negativity – just keep moving.
How much of your day is occupied with playing it safe? Are your thoughts about taking the easy way out? Or are you thinking of different possibilities?
Free thinking is about thinking out side of the mainstream. It is thinking about the many different ways there are of tackling an issue.
Thinking in a new way is not only for solving problems. It is for changing, upgrading and getting in sync with a new quality in your life. A new quality like peace and happiness, a vocation to live for, a mission to accomplish, a new outlook, a more truer to who you are life.
Just think about what you want. Write it down. Don’t expect change right away. Take your time because the road is never straight when change is around.
Think Away!!
Boundaries can be subtle or obvious. Here’s a partial list adapted from LoveEngineer.com.
Trust everyone or no one vs developing appropriate trust over time.
Black and white thinking vs realizing nothing is black and white.
Expecting others to automatically meet your needs vs communicating your wants and needs. (with the possibility of them being declined).
Self abuse vs treating yourself with respect and dignity.
Giving too much or not at all vs respect for others generosity.
Believing others can read your mind vs recognizing others can’t read your mind.
These are just a few boundary issues prevalent in our lives. Let’s add to the list and change what we can to foster our own growth.
Our teachers are trying to lead us to acknowledge the true nature of our minds. We have accepted limitations that are not in our nature.
We have reduced what we are and how we are. We have minimized our capacities. We have accepted a view of ourselves as small, insignificant, disposable cogs in the machinery.
We cling to that pitiful identity and defend it with tooth and nail. Our teachers are trying to open our eyes and show us the unlimited, undefiled expanse of the mind.
If you had no obstruction inward or outward and no obtrusive thoughts, what would you do with your life?
1. what would you do for a living?
2. where would you spend your time?
3. would you travel?
4. would you spend time learning about yourself and all the parts you have neglected?
5. would you write a book or read all the books that you are interested in?
6. where would you live?
7. what would you change?
8. would you create a new life based on your loves and likes?
9. would you become a hermit and meditate on life’s mysteries?
10. would you be afraid of your new-found freedom?
Make a list. It’s usually the last things on your list that are the truest because your ego wants to be first.
Happy freedom and discovery.
Now you can impress your friends and lovers by saying “I Love You” in ten different languages. Have fun.
1. English – I love you
2. French – Je t’aime, Je t’adore
3. Pig Latin – Iay ovlay ouyay
4. Yoruba – Mo ni fe
5. Spanish – Te quiero / Te amo
6. Polish – Kocham Ciebie
7. Creole – Mi aime jou
8. Hawaiian – Aloha Au Ia`oe
9. Hawaiian – Aloha Au Ia`oe
10. Scot Gaelic – Tha gra\dh agam ort
Source: journeywoman.com
We all tell little white lies in order to avoid a confrontation or not to hurt someone’s feelings. When that no longer works we must fess up and tell the truth. Here are some ways to do that.
1. Say what you have to say peacefully with caring.
2. Before speaking be honest with yourself and what you have to say. Respond don’t react.
3. Write it down first to clear your mind.
4. Trust yourself and your ability to speak truthfully.
5. Expect the other person to get angry. Don’t say anything if you are angry.
6. It will feel uncomfortable to speak the truth at first. But stay strong. Don’t buckle under to anger or guilt.
7. Follow your heart.
8. Feel the sensations in your body. This is where you feel the surrounding energy.
9. Talk it out with someone first.
10. Ask a question to start a conversation about the subject.
Ignoring what bothers you has a band-aid effect on problems. It doesn’t last.
Don’t wait. Find a way to say what you need to say. It will clear the air and allow for positive movement.
The dictionary defines sociopath as someone with a personality disorder that shows itself in extreme antisocial attitude and behavior with a pronounced lack of conscience.
Here’s how to spot one.
1. they are well likes with lots of charm and high charisma, but generally don’t care about others.
2. stay to themselves.
3. blame others for everything.
4. complete disregard for any rules.
5. push boundaries.
6. have no boundaries.
7. don’t feel guilt.
8. don’t learn from punishment.
9. can act out deadly and extreme behavior.
10. bent on destroying others with no conscience.
Are you afraid? You should be. People like Ted Bundy and Charles Manson are sociopath.
If you encounter one. Don’t walk. Run away really fast. Your life may depend on it.
We have all been involved with someone who has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. ‘
A co-worker, boss, significant other, relative, teacher etc. They are everywhere. Here are some of the traits of the disorder.
Abusive
Acts superior
Arrogant
Over Dramatic
Hostile
Violent
Wrathful
Thoughtless
Sneaky
Sadistic
You can add to the list, however, these are some of the red flags.
Don’t be nice to these people, just walk away. You’ll be so much more at peace.
I’m one of those people who does things with their whole heart. I can’t be halfway. I’m either all in or all out. It’s just how I’m wired. Some see it as a character flaw because you know, I take things to heart. I take things personally. Because to me, it is personal. I mean anything that is part of my life is personal, isn’t it?
Sure I’ve tried to develop a thick skin and act like things don’t matter. It’s just a job or a crappy review, or some guy I didn’t want to date anyway – whatever it doesn’t matter. But doesn’t it? If it’s part of your life, it is personal. Doesn’t it have to be? I think so.
I once had a friend who told me she puts things in boxes. In her head. Must be a pretty organized head, right. You know? This argument goes…
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