What a loaded subject. If you want peace in all your relationships remember:
The other person’s behavior towards you tells you how they feel about themselves.
Their behavior has nothing to do with your value.
If you remember this, as time goes on you’ll stop reacting in your realtionships and start enjoying your relationships.
I am an expert in procrastination. It is something I manage to do every day. I find myself doing what needs to be done after I have spent too much time Facebook, socializing and anything else that wastes time. But at the end of the day I have done very little for my hearts desire.
Then there are some days ( not enough of them ) where I am in the zone. Creating, painting, writing, expanding, whirling, expressing and all is well.
Occasionally I do fifty percent of what has to be done and fifty percent of creating. These are ideal days. Also not enough of them.
I find myself trying to figure out how to balance my art with my responsibilities and I have come to the conclusion: Make plans to do the art but know that life happens and I must be flexible. I can always restart where I left off.
It’s not easy to change. Most of the time it is our habits that get in the way. We know it’s time to change and begin something new.
This is where we must refuse to back down from our own intimidating thoughts that have become a bad habit. We must begin a ” I can do this” belief. We must adopt a ” I can figure this out” mindset as a habit.
Aren’t you at the very least curious about what you can accomplish? Our lives are layered in preferences. Pay attention to your preferences they are talking to you.
Look ahead, not back. Get rid of what is not working, Go forward, learn something new, meet new people, get out of your comfort zone. Create the next new better version of yourself.
You are worth it. And as a result you will grow into the person you are meant to be.
Most of us feel trapped in our decisions as if there are no alternatives.
Not true.
Where do you feel trapped? Maybe in your job, relationships, lifestyle, trauma, beliefs. What worries you? What grates on your nerves? What precipitates your addictions? What keeps you going round and round instead of forward?
Try this.
Free write about each concern.
Free role play possible outcomes.
Free your child mind with crayons on paper.
Free yourself with music you have never heard.
Free your spirit with twenty minutes of silence.
Free your body with dancing.
Free yourself of addiction by sitting with uncomfortable feelings.
Freely choose something different instead of habits.
Freely be different.
Free your heart by speaking your mind.
Freely think of all possible outcomes.
Freely share yourself with the world.
Freely divorce yourself from negativity.
Freely choose what is purposeful for you.
Freely reach out to others when you are needy.
Your life is meant to be meaningful. You are important. When you choose alternatives that make you life better you give others permission to do so also.
Get it?
Good.
Carry on.
“Trauma survivors have symptoms instead of memories.” (Harvey, 1990) Adapted from Bremner & Marmer, 1998, Copyright 2007 Dr. Fisher
Trauma comes in many forms. Violence of any kind, addictions in both the user and observer, unavailable caregivers, isolation, and poverty are just a few ways of experiencing trauma.
Trauma is toxic mentally and physically because it stops you from maturing and living a full life. The symptoms of trauma are depression, irritability, loss of interest, numbing, decreased concentration, insomnia, emotional overwhelm, hopelessness, shame and worthlessness, little or no memories, nightmares, flashbacks, hyper-vigilance, mistrust, anxiety, panic attacks, chronic pain, headaches, substance abuse, eating disorders, feeling unreal and out-of-body, self-destructive, loss of a sense of “Who I am”.
That’s a lot of information and possible triggers but they are symptoms of something that holds you back. Trauma effects everything you do with and without your awareness.
To heal from trauma is obvious. Find a trauma therapist. There are tons of information available to read and passionate therapists who want to help you heal.
If you realize you have been a victim that’s good. You will move from victim to survivor to one who thrives to a warrior.
You are strong, reach out and heal.
If you don’t feel safe in your own skin, in your environment, in your mind, in any situation (other than life threatening) then you will not see opportunities to grow.
If you feel safe there is a sense of freedom. There is the belief that there are many possibilities. There is courage to try new things. There is hope. There is generosity.
Safety has a lot to do with what you believe. If your beliefs have made it difficult to feel safe, it’s time to examine these beliefs. Challange them, look them square in the eye and tell them to move over it’s time for a change. A change for the better.
Your freedom is precious, protect it, honor it, it belongs to you. You are free to choose anything. Start small and in a short time your courage will make you feel safe.
Safe enough it change your world. Wow.
You Rock!!!!!!
The Sins of the Father are not an ancient curse. It is the human condition of repeating the same old negative patterns over and over for generation after generation.
For example, pervasive abuse on any level will stay intact as long as the abuse is seen as normal. Many times abuse is accepted as a way of life. As if there is no other way of living. Therefore, the cycles of abuse remain for a long time, until someone finally realizes this is enough.
Family systems are complicated. People are complicated. Humans are a product of habit and fear.
Except when whether in secret or out in the open someone reaches out for a better way of living. Eventually the cycle is broken.
All it takes is some courage, please try. You know in your gut what you need to move forward. Please try to have the courage to break the cycle of abuse.
So many times we feel stuck. Nothing is working out. We are confused about which way to go. Bored and restless.
Reminder: your options are not limited. Ignore naysayers and your own resistance. Think out side of the norm.
To free yourself from your actual or perceived restrictions: Choose.
Choose any direction. Any direction will lead you to freedom. Even if it is as simple a decision as what to eat for breakfast.
Feeling you have no control in your life could be based on your own actions. But more likly because of your inaction.
I am not going to preach about commitment. Most of the time I am not very good at it unless it is really important or necessary. I usually focus on what I can get by with.
It is common to focus on the small window of activities in our lives because we are so busy doing actions to keep our heads above water.
Is society the cause? Is the economy the cause? Is fear the cause? Distractions? There are as many reasons and justifications as there are people.
For me, I am willing to commit to situations I either love or really enjoy or as a result of a crisis. Is that enough, probably not because I stay in my comfort zone. Let’s be reasonable. How much time does one have in a day.
The solution is to make an effort to get out of one’s comfort zone. Easier said than done. But so noticeable necessary.
Just try……..that’s the only requirement in a commitment.
You’re the best. You are great. Believe in yourself. There is always a way to figure things out. You are not helpless or hopeless.
You are smart and grounded. You are protected. You are cared for. You are lucky. Anything is possible. You are growing all the time.
Don’t force anything just keep moving. You are a winner. What someone else believes about you is none of your business. Focus on your own life. Use your talents and skills to improve your own life.
Challenges will come and you will get through them. You have everything you need to succeed.
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Informing Providers, Empowering Survivors
FEEL FREE - just sharing what moves through me
For your stitching adventures!
...making the business of marketing and licensing for creators understandable, achievable and affordable.
My art, writing and mental health stuff. Hope it helps.
The latest news on WordPress.com and the WordPress community.
WEE FOLK STUDIO
All things holly, jolly, and odd-ly...
A journey to healing from complex trauma.
NO SECRETS-NO SIDES | निर्गुह्य-निष्पक्ष | NIRGUHYA-NISPAKSA
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