Now is the time to stop scaring yourself.
Now is the time to put an end to any kind of abuse.
Now is the time to finish old things that are not working.
Now is the time to celebrate who you are.
Now is the time to choose your own happiness.
Now is the time to change your life to the way you want it.
You got this.
We all know the story of the Geni that granted three wishes. There are many variations on the story and most end up stating some moral good or bad decision. Let’s change it up a bit. You have to pick three items in the wish list. They are your wishes to keep forever or until you are finished with them. Let’s go.
Now pick, Pick only three. They are neither right or wrong. Give your self the gift of imagining you are living your wishes.
They are yours forever or until you are finished with them.
Happy imagining.
I have been reading “The Places That Scare You” by Pema Chodron and Chapter Sixteen is about three kinds of laziness.
I will sum each one up.
There are three futile strategies in dealing with this laziness.
These ways of behaving lazy and these ineffective strategies have become a habit.
The answer-become curious about what your behavior is. Ask yourself why you are suffering. Experiment with different ways of behaving that will bring happiness rather than suffering. Sit with the feelings and listen to what they are telling you. Explore your own mind. The answers lie there.
Read Pema Chodron’s books or any others on human behavior. You are worth the effort.
There are people in this world who are genuine enough to pay attention to their own behavior. Those who are aware that how their words, actions and thoughts have an impact on those they interact with.
Here is a small list to read at the end of the day to see if you want to change or develop some of your behavior. Pick no more than two or three at a time.
Was I free from anger and judgement?
Did I give anyone sorrow or take any sorrow?
How much negative thinking was I wrapped up in?
Was I stable or unstable.
What did I bring into my interactions today? Was I positive?
Did I respect everyone regardless of name and fame?
Did I take a moment here and there to reflect on what I was thinking.
You can add more suggestions to the list. You can make a chart to fill out at the end of the day. Either way your behavior is so much more dynamic than you realize.
So be positive and joyful.
Greetings,
My fourteen year old computer died a quick and painless death about five weeks ago. Since then I had been thrown back into the dark ages of no computer. I say almost because I used my phone as much as possible but it was difficult. So I borrowed lap tops and went to the library barely getting my emails answered.
Thankfully, I now have a new one. It zips and flies and speeds all over the world-wide web. I am so relieved.
This now my chance to catch up with the rest of the world.
Yeah………………..
Do you have an expectation or hearts desire? Do you want something to happen? Do you long for, wish for, desire for a personal fulfilment.
That is hope. I hope this situation goes in my favor. My heart longs for a better whatever. I have desired that goal forever.
Until the very last-minute of our lives there is hope. Hope for a change. Hope for our longings. Hope for our desires. Hope for our lives to be better.
Hope is also trust. It is trusting ourselves and the movement of life. Hope is not a wishful thinking state of mind. One must be active in observing our own actions and the actions surrounding us. Hope is hanging in there when we don’t know the answers. Hope is an antidote and answer to disbelief, doubt, despair, fear and hatred.
With that I hope you have all that makes your life better.
Your life is not over yet.
Time to hope for the best.
How often do we complain about not having enough time? I do it all the time. No pun intended. However, There is the same amount of time every day, the same twenty four hours again and again.
Maybe the issue is not time but distractions. I get redirected by chores, mini and maxi crisis, unexpected detours in my plans, becoming too tired to continue, making time for others and a million and one extra steps in the dance of my day.
The struggle to do the things that are necessary for me and distractions is a contant juggling act. My life feels like a circus act.
When these distractions happen I pick a time that is for me. I handle whatever needs to be handled and move my actions to the time I picked for myself.
It’s not easy but it works every time.
Pick time for what is important for you. No one else will. Carry On.
The point of pain is
to show you where
you undervalued,
overlooked, ignored,
abandoned, ignored,
postponed, neglected,
deferred, forgotten,
cast aside, shunned,
disregarded, uncared for,
despised, unwanted,
dismissed and unloved
yourself.
Stop doing that. Please.
This is an old adage. For millenia philosophers, sages and ordinary folk understand on a fundamental level that everything begins and ends in the mind.
We are talking about thinking. Not magical thinking or wishes. This is thinking with action.
It’s making up our minds and acting on it.
Of course this is simpler said than done. If you are fed up with the same negative results over and over again then it’s time to change some small action. One small change will kick in the domino effect. One thing affects another and so on.
Keep in mind it takes about six weeks for any change to become effective. So have patience.
Change demands boundaries and commitment and movement in a gentle way. In a non-judgemental way.
It’s OK if you fall short of your objective. It’s OK if you start again from square one. It’s OK if you re-adjust again and again to get to your objective.
Just start and try. You can always change your mind.
How much of your behavior is a habit? Do you eat because the clock says it’s mealtime but you aren’t really hungry? Do you buy stuff- just because? Did some behavior become common because everyone else is doing it?
Do you have routines that you do by rote without thinking? Did you learn somewhere in your life that certain things are only done a certain way?
Did you forget to stop and observe what you are doing? What habit is not working for you anymore? What habit does not resonate with your life at this time? What is the habit that is holding you back and you know in your gut it has to go?
What’s the best way to kill a habit? Maybe cold turkey. Maybe negotiating with our minds to slowly back off of the habit. Maybe getting angry at yourself for continuing the habit even though you know it’s bad for you. Maybe stopping but still doing the habit once in a while risking full-blown relapse. Maybe finding a support group.
Definitely some courage is necessary, some realistic self talk and some determination even when you don’t feel like it.
There is no right or wrong way to kill a habit. Just as long as you kill it. Killing a habit is acceptable, necessary and holistic. Killing a bad habit with a new good habit is the easiest way to permanently kill a bad habit.
You’ll gain confidence and the new habit of persistence and personal strength. Which helps in all areas of your like.
It won’t be easy in the beginning. Habits are evil and don’t play nice. There is no reasoning with habits. Especially bad ones.
But you are the boss not them. So go for it. You will win in the end because a bad habit is a fear and a fear is a lie. The bad habit will eventually go away and you will be the victor.
Congratulations you win.
You knew that anyway.
Didn’t you?
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FEEL FREE - just sharing what moves through me
For your stitching adventures!
...making the business of marketing and licensing for creators understandable, achievable and affordable.
My art, writing and mental health stuff. Hope it helps.
The latest news on WordPress.com and the WordPress community.
WEE FOLK STUDIO
All things holly, jolly, and odd-ly...
A journey to healing from complex trauma.
NO SECRETS-NO SIDES | निर्गुह्य-निष्पक्ष | NIRGUHYA-NISPAKSA
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