I have been reading “The Places That Scare You” by Pema Chodron and Chapter Sixteen is about three kinds of laziness.
I will sum each one up.
- Comfort Orientation-we use quick fixes in order not to inconvenience ourselves. For example, our car breaks down and we become enraged at the inconvenience.
- Loss of Heart-this is hopelessness and have poverty thinking. We drink, smoke, eat, watch TV, etc. The inability to get ourselves moving into breaking free from hopelessness.
- Couldn’t Care Less-this is about resentment. We become aggressive and defiant. We are not getting what we deserve. So the hell with everyone. This turns into depression.
There are three futile strategies in dealing with this laziness.
- We attack ourselves for being lazy.
- We indulge ourselves by self-doubt and inadequacy.
- We ignore, space out and go numb. We will do anything not to deal with the lazy behavior.
These ways of behaving lazy and these ineffective strategies have become a habit.
The answer-become curious about what your behavior is. Ask yourself why you are suffering. Experiment with different ways of behaving that will bring happiness rather than suffering. Sit with the feelings and listen to what they are telling you. Explore your own mind. The answers lie there.
Read Pema Chodron’s books or any others on human behavior. You are worth the effort.