You are the author of your own like. It’s east to say but hard to do. Why is it hard to do? because it is do easy to be distracted by other events that are going on. Maybe there is a mini crisis that needs to be handled immediately, like a flat tire or unexpected detour in you plans. That’s OK, stuff happens.
To be the author means doing personal work on your self first then re-emerge into your life with a new perspective. When you realize something about your self and change it, you are becoming a deeper person and your life gets easier. Writing you own life script by examining your self also makes you more compassionate and understanding as a world participant.
The more you delve into your own motivations the more you will understand others. Because you have been where some one else has been it is the gift of understanding to you and another.