No one wants to be bullied and as we know the objective is to oppress, torment, intimidate and browbeat someone into submission.
Bullying is easily recognized if we are observing it in real-time. But do we recognize bullying when we do it to ourselves? Probably not, here are some signals you are bullying yourself.
- your inner critic has a field day beating you up by noticing everything that you do wrong.
- your inner critic says unkind, mean things to you.
- some believe that the inner critic is a motivator to do better, this is completely false.
- anxiety, image issues, social anxiety can be the inner critic hounding you with negativity.
- watching TV shows that are violent and traumatize you with fear. (I binge watch crime shows.)
You can’t completely get rid of the inner critic however you can arrest its relentlessness and power with a these few tips.
- pay attention to your thoughts.
- don’t beat yourself up about these thoughts.
- notice what your triggers are.
- respond to yourself with kindness.
- speak to yourself with compassion.
- turn off your TV for a while and limit the shows that are violent. (I’m watching more happy programs.)
- redirect your thoughts and actions to something happy.
Being mindful, kind and compassionate to yourself is an important skill to learn and takes some time.
Instead, you want caring, reassuring, encouraging and supportive words and actions towards yourself.
You are so worth the time and effort.