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Jan16

Thoughful Thursday #49 Is it Love or Oxytocin?

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Is it Love or Oxytocin?

 

Turns out there is love hormone called Oxytocin that can cause much confusion in deciding if you love someone.

 

 For example, Oxytocin is released by simple body contact with a handshake or hug.

  1. You can think of someone in that warm and fuzzy way, Oxytocin is released.
  2. Oxytocin is released when a woman gives birth and Oxytocin helps in bonding with the child.
  3. Oxytocin is also released at orgasm in females. Males have it too.
  4. Oxytocin can be prescribed by a doctor and bought on the internet

 

 Which seems to me to be a problem. The Oxytocin is released creating a bond with someone you are sleeping with who may not be worth bonding to.

 

 Since this hormone elicits trust and a desire to maintain a relationship how do you know the relationship is worth it?

 

 Do you get along well outside of an Oxytocin phase?

  1. If there is any violence in the relationship, it’s Oxytocin that you are addicted to not the person.
  2. The other person is unreliable but you still stick around, it’s Oxytocin.
  3. If you keep accepting unacceptable behavior, it’s the Oxytocin.
  4. If the relationship did not work out and you still miss that person, you are missing the Oxytocin not the person.
  5. Maybe you gained a lot of weight, it may be not enough Oxytocin (that explains a lot)
  6. Doing good works like helping the less fortunate releases Oxytocin (do good works and lose weight. Sounds like a win/win to me)

 

 Here’s some good news, at anytime you can choose to share your Oxytocin with someone else. If it’s just the Oxytocin you want to share that’s fine.

 

 But if you want a relationship too then pay attention to the other everyday stuff like trusting, reliability, openness, generosity, peacefulness, joy, happiness, companionship, then Oxytocin…

 

 Get It?

 

 

Jan6

What’s Eating You?

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If you crave meat, you must be angry.

“Researchers have found out that our moods can dictate what we eat,” says JR, a medical doctor and recovering food addict. According to research, here is a list of food cravings and the moods they address:

If you reach or crave for:
Meat, hard and crunchy foods               You may be feeling angry
Sugars                                               depressed
Soft, sweet foods like ice cream             anxious

Salty foods                                         stressed

Bulky, filling foods (crackers, pasta)     lonely, sexually frustrated

Anything and everything                         jealous

Dec31

Love

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If someone truly loves you

they don’t judge you by your past.

But instead create a future with you.

Kushandwisdom.com

Dec26

Relationships

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A Good Relationship

Is when someone accepts your past

Supports your present

&

Encourages

Your future

Beautytips4her.com

Sep25

Affirmations #17 Relationships

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In my life, I attract only those people who are in sync with me and who love me unconditionally.

I love my children unconditionally and accept them as they are.

I love my children unconditionally and accept them as they are.

My brother/sister and I are a perfect foil for each other. We love, respect and appreciate each other always.

My life partner/lover and I are soul mates. We compliment each other, respect each other and love each other immensely.

I am a model student. My teachers are the best. I love them and their teaching.

self-help-and-self-development.com

Peaceful relationships are very important. No one wants burdensome relationships. Feel free to change around the words to make the affirmations believable and accommodating to your relationships

Write them 10 times each, say them many times during the day especially in the morning and bedtime. Also say them in the mirror.

Aug19

How To Survive Getting Dumped

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Bam. Wait, what just happened? You find yourself being dumped and at first it’s impossible to believe. Your feelings are raw; it’s draining and painful. The tears don’t stop. The questions are endless. How did this happen? Whose fault is this? Did I miss something? Hold on a minute. Take a breath and read the following.

Relationships end for many reasons, it might be fear of intimacy, feeling vulnerable, don’t love the partner enough, using you for their own selfish reasons, or have other plans where you don’t fit into. There may be a need to step back, be objective and get clarity. Perhaps the relationship has lived out its usefulness.

The good news is that at some time or another everyone gets dumped. You will get over it. Here are a few practical steps to help you move on.

1. Don’t think you will never find love again – do you have a crystal ball?
2. Sit with and don’t react to the broken heart feelings – they will pass.
3. Talk it out with friends or a professional.
4. Even if you still like your ex do your best to cut all ties and move on otherwise you make a fool of yourself and continue to be used.
5. Insist on no more contact. That includes you, ex and the ex friends and family.
6. No stalking your ex in any way. Un-friend where necessary.
7. Give up being confused. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
8. Distract your obsessive thoughts with keeping busy, connecting with friends, cooking, working, writing, exercising, and conversations with your higher power.
9. Be very good to yourself. Do things you enjoy for a change.
10. Read or YouTube self-improvement and personal growth literature.
11. Watch funny movies, refuse to watch or read anything negative for a while. Especially those police shows that focus on extremely destructive relationships.
12. Find stuff to laugh at and lighten up. Stop all the seriousness.

It is definitely not the end of the world. Within a short time the painful feelings with start to go away. That’s guaranteed. You will move on and be free to find a terrific new relationship. Perhaps this time you will do the dumping. Just kidding.

So pick your self up, dust your self off and move up to better, healthier and supremely more satisfying relationships. Finally.