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Dec14

Spiritual Stuff

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As you may remember I recently had a death in my family. (See previous DEATH post).

It cracks me up (and not in a good way) when the discussion of Spiritual Stuff enters the conversation and that some people immediately dismiss it. Reason being that it doesn’t make sense. It’s something to be made fun of as being ridiculous. Can’t see it or touch it. Or a verbal way of invalidating what is said for the purpose of getting one up on someone else. Or maybe they are just plain scared.

My answer to this is: you are right that you can’t feel any Spiritual Stuff because you don’t feel with your emotions or your heart. Therefore you will not feel the recently dead or the true spirit of someone standing in front of you. You will not absorb the truth of any situation because Spiritual Stuff is incognito and it doesn’t work with the intellect. The intellect interferes with Spiritual Stuff. The intellect blinds us with prejudice to anything that is remotely threatening to its survival. Meaning that the intellect always needs to be in control. Control is too restrictive for Spiritual Stuff. The intellect creates resistance.

Spiritual Stuff is the hidden realm where your gut lives. It’s the insights, hunches, enlightenment, raw emotions, living energies surrounding us. Spiritual Stuff is and feels free, vast, open, engaging, enveloping, warm, loving, safe.

Call it intuition, gut feelings or ghosts. It doesn’t matter. Spiritual Stuff is part of the Universe. And it is up to the individual to seek the knowledge and education that Spiritual Stuff has. Spiritual Stuff teaches about who we are in the world. It’s the ugly emotions and the superior existence of each unique being.

As for me, the Spiritual Stuff is very important and I am very lucky to sense it. I get very frustrated when others make light of something that is so important. However these negative reactions are a reflection of how the individual thinks.

Realize it or not Spiritual Stuff surrounds us all the time, at every moment, and in all actions whether you know it or not.

So do good, be good, have good feelings for yourself and everyone else. It will be returned to you through that Spiritual Stuff that you can’t see.

Peace

Nov17

Pleasure vs Joy

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‘Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas joy arises from within.’

Eckhart Tolle

Oct7

Affirmations #29 Limitations

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I declare richness and fullness for my life.

I now choose to move away from the limiting beliefs that have been denying me the benefits I do desire.

I release all negative patterns that have contributed to fear of loss, being harmed, of poverty.

I release those negative patterns that have brought me pain, loneliness, self abuse, undeservingness and any other nonsense that may be lingering in some dark corner of my consciousness.

Louise Hay – Heart Thoughts

Limiting beliefs are usually hidden from our awareness. Write and say these affirmations and what you believe with come to the surface. Write each one 10 times say them many times during the day and at bedtime and in a mirror.

Aug19

How To Survive Getting Dumped

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Bam. Wait, what just happened? You find yourself being dumped and at first it’s impossible to believe. Your feelings are raw; it’s draining and painful. The tears don’t stop. The questions are endless. How did this happen? Whose fault is this? Did I miss something? Hold on a minute. Take a breath and read the following.

Relationships end for many reasons, it might be fear of intimacy, feeling vulnerable, don’t love the partner enough, using you for their own selfish reasons, or have other plans where you don’t fit into. There may be a need to step back, be objective and get clarity. Perhaps the relationship has lived out its usefulness.

The good news is that at some time or another everyone gets dumped. You will get over it. Here are a few practical steps to help you move on.

1. Don’t think you will never find love again – do you have a crystal ball?
2. Sit with and don’t react to the broken heart feelings – they will pass.
3. Talk it out with friends or a professional.
4. Even if you still like your ex do your best to cut all ties and move on otherwise you make a fool of yourself and continue to be used.
5. Insist on no more contact. That includes you, ex and the ex friends and family.
6. No stalking your ex in any way. Un-friend where necessary.
7. Give up being confused. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
8. Distract your obsessive thoughts with keeping busy, connecting with friends, cooking, working, writing, exercising, and conversations with your higher power.
9. Be very good to yourself. Do things you enjoy for a change.
10. Read or YouTube self-improvement and personal growth literature.
11. Watch funny movies, refuse to watch or read anything negative for a while. Especially those police shows that focus on extremely destructive relationships.
12. Find stuff to laugh at and lighten up. Stop all the seriousness.

It is definitely not the end of the world. Within a short time the painful feelings with start to go away. That’s guaranteed. You will move on and be free to find a terrific new relationship. Perhaps this time you will do the dumping. Just kidding.

So pick your self up, dust your self off and move up to better, healthier and supremely more satisfying relationships. Finally.

Feb17

Family Albums

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I just read the blog post of “Write Change Grow” about holding on to family portraits and pictures. Here are some of my thoughts on whether one should or should not hold on to those pictures.

I have held on to many pictures. I have a special photo album with a silver metal cover that I keep hidden and inside holds pictures of my family and significant others at various times of my life. When I look at them I become sentimental and recall the good times. Not the bad times. It’s a chance to think fondly of these people who in some way influenced me in either a positive or negative way. The album makes me wish for a better time and not the constant drama of egos. The album is a chance to send good wishes and pure feelings to those who I can’t find the words to express how I feel or of those who are not willing to listen to how I feel. Keeping these pictures is a form of therapy. In my opinion it’s a form of grief therapy. Which is probably why I keep the album hidden. It’s the opportunity to go through the five stages of grief, namely, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

It’s safe way of dropping denial and believing that it wasn’t that bad, yes, it was that bad. Being angry at a safe distance, bargaining with invisible ghosts of those I wish I could speak to or even an unavailable higher power called upon to help but never shows up. Getting depressed about what might have been and all the lost time spent trying and hoping things would work out. It’s a way of feeling better about the disappointments surrounding those relationships. And finally after a long time accepting what is. Not having any more unrealistic hopes and dreams about the present moment. And realizing that relationships turn out the way they are supposed to and if those relationships had continued perhaps it would have been worse. Ultimately the celebration that I am strong and so is everyone else who has such an album whether hidden or on the coffee table.

As crushing or seemingly supportive each relationship was it has taught me that change always happens and with each ending or beginning I grow.

Happy Growing and keep those pictures until you are ready to dump them.