Honesty is very important to me. If I find out someone has deliberately lied they are no longer significant in my life.
I am not talking about little white lies but lies that are deliberately meant of mislead, hurt or deceive me.
Lying, slander, tall tale, backbiting, intentional, callous, uncaring, bullying, mean and violent assaults are done to create nothing but hurt.
There are many reasons why some people can be so emotionally damaging. Perhaps addiction, childhood issues, and other brutal influences. Unfortunately those who lash out are only interested in hurting because they are hurt. They are not even aware of their own motives, it’s very sad.
There is no one way to protect yourself from this kind onslaught, you must figure out a way that suits your situation.
Some of the most popular suggestions are:
Put up strong boundaries, expect to be challenged. Your emotions will go from high to low many times, create a strong support system, call the authorities if necessary, you are not alone, it’s not your fault, reach out for help.
Chronic lying is just the tip of the iceberg, lying is usually a ruse to keep something else secret.
You are important, very important, and you do not deserve to be lied to. It’s as simple as that. Do what you have to do to protect yourself. You are deserving of a safe, calm, and peaceful life.